should clarify ..
I am MALE & my partner of many yrs is FEMALE & other person is also female .
am not looking for smartass comments from dikheds , just some honest thoughts from other people ..

I am an honest smartazz, dikhed. I meant what I said.

I would have to go.

wow, not one person wants to fight for their love? kinda sad...

i guess not one of you ever had anyone worth trying for, since you all want to run at the drop of a hat...

all these posts about "true love", but yet when it gets a little tough, give up and run... good luck to y'all...

Good bye your lost. This would be the last time you see all of this.
NEXT please.
Mighty Gross not into sharing my toys. I was told if finish give them to the Less unfortunate.

Someone here doesn't mind sharing. Into double dip?

Hummm..... I would shag his brother & hers too...

*In between phone calls to my attorney & packing of course*

It doesn't matter. Are you the star of the show or the supporting cast? It's your choice what role you want in your life, but I'm the lead actor in mine.

I'd go.
am not into sharing.

tough can be quite a lot of things... depression... job loss, weight issues, health issues, loss of family member... house burnt down, stalking ex...

but in here, in fact she wants to change the relationship that exists.
The question is: is that acceptable to me?
and that is an easy question that i have thought about, and got an answer to. Yes/no/can give a try -- nope.

That's not running. That's knowing myself and doing what's best for me.
If she goes Bisexual... no problem.
but not with me in the trio.

me either

and it's not so much a matter of not fighting for anything, first if someone is bi/gay? well that was not part of our agreement and not something I'm going to be OK with in a partner (in general, I couldn't care less what someone's preferences are)

second, i have lived long enough to know it's best to avoid the drama, I know better than to feed that kind of attention getting behavior (if that is what it is) and if it is not attention getting behavior, why waste time on something that is not there any longer? best to get on with life ASAP

....why waste time Mo?

If 'such' an incident does occur, well, I wouldn't 'fall in love' in the very first place...("silly" me)

i played the role of don quixote enough and i'm a FIRM beliver in monogamy. so the choice is hers. then i will know wether to stay or go

" Wow not one person wants to fight for their love "

A loving relationship isn't a sporting event. If someone feels the desire to 'fight for it"... they already lost the game.
Because they didn't have 'true love' at face off.

go

(hypothetical)
well, then i guess they love you more than you love them... if your with someone that loves you, i'm assuming you would love them back?
i can see why everyone says run, but i also see that love isn't something you throw out the window just "because"...


i guess there's a few parameters that aren't set here, nobody said anything about cheating or sharing, but i feel if i can get someone to love me that i love as well, i should do something to relight the flame so she won't leave... but if i can't, i would still be happy for her, love isn't something that comes around everyday...

Stay.

huh... not to be a ahole, but maybe thats why a lot of people are single on here? love isn't worth fighting for...how sad

I hear you Moe. I am not ashamed to say that I fought for my love for years in a similar situation. Would I do it again? I am not sure, but for the only one reason: he ceased to respect me because he thought I�ll be always there and he can do what he wants. And finally I woke up without having any feelings toward him. Now he wants me back that none ever loved him as i did. Too late.

I would do almost anything for a man I love - if it isn�t against my inner conviction, nothing would be too much. Distance, time, hobbies, whatever you can think of - I do belive that everything is possible to overcome with some effort. But if he is in love with somebody else, whatever I would do, it wouldn�t bring him back. I would tell him to stay and that I love him, but I would respect his decision. And no, I wouldn�t stop loving him because he is with her. Although I would probably be angry at the first moment, eventually anger is such a sedativum on heartache. At least a bit. After that I would accept it and at the end, wish them luck.

So yes, I would fight for love under any circumstances, but I wouldn�t fight against him.