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Topic: Lonely Single Parents
TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Thu 04/23/15 11:51 AM
I wish I knew what to tell you my son is high funcioning asperger's he can get kind of intense when I am not nearby heck he can get that way when I am but I know how to distract him get him back on track He has not spent a night away from me except if it is with his dad. He tried going to his cousins for a weekend..last year he is 14 years old by the way I drove him down state and got a phone call at bedtime he was very upset and needed his own bed and his own room so down I drove to pick my boy up does it make it harder to date? yes it does with a high needs child but I always tell myself I am mom first

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Thu 04/23/15 11:58 AM
..ohhh GOD.. I'm so lonely.. I just need somebody .. anybody .. just just hold me.. ..... all I do is work! and look after the kids.. ... I can't watch Barney anymore.. .. ... it's been so long since I've had a little adult conversation ... .... I find myself walking through the ladies department... at the mall... and copping a feel..... of the pretty ... bras and panties hanging on the clothes rack....

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Thu 04/23/15 12:30 PM
stop crying blow your nose when you can talk like a big boy again come back in with the grown ups

Jhavez Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 15557	Thu 04/23/15 02:39 PM
So all those single full time parents out there, how do you deal with the loneliness. Between work and kids I feel very lonely sometimes. I was a single parent for 5 years. I know where you are coming from. What did I do to overcome the loneliness? I started to hang out with my coworkers out of the work environment. Every Friday, I would ride my bicycle down to the local bar for happy hour. I visited foreign lands, drove expensive cars, sported a James Bond pistol. I read many a Spy Novel. In between child raising, I would pick up where I left off on the spy novel I was reading at the time. I was still lonely at times, but not as much once I started doing the above. Good Luck and I hope this helps you.

Godistheanswer Joined Mon 02/02/15 Posts: 477	Thu 04/23/15 04:55 PM
try to help someone else who is lonely too, watch a good movie, do something you like, think about happy things, deep breathe, eat some good food, write on here, pray

kissablekiss Joined Mon 03/08/10 Posts: 8528	Fri 04/24/15 05:55 AM
You don't date? Get babysitter. Go out. Hard to get a babysitter with a special needs child. doesn't happen very often hire me Lolol

mom333 Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 1238	Sat 04/25/15 05:57 AM
every night spend at least two hours doing something you enjoy it could be reading a book, sewing, painting or drinking some good wine or watching a really good film. the point is make every evening about you and every day about them until they are older then you may be able to socialize more if sitting isn't readily available now.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Sat 04/25/15 06:53 AM
every night spend at least two hours doing something you enjoy it could be reading a book, sewing, painting or drinking some good wine or watching a really good film. the point is make every evening about you and every day about them until they are older then you may be able to socialize more if sitting isn't readily available now. good advice it's important for us to remember to re-fuel sometimes and give ourselves permission to have a little down time we are not parent machines ..we sometimes forget that fact

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Sat 04/25/15 06:53 AM Edited by TMommy on Sat 04/25/15 06:54 AM


hondatrail70 Joined Thu 12/06/12 Posts: 43	Sat 04/25/15 09:16 AM
Play this Ball Game just stay her awhile and you will be Happy. Tom.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Sat 04/25/15 09:50 AM
Play this Ball Game just stay her awhile and you will be Happy. Tom. hahaha uh you mingling Tom or advertising?

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Sat 04/25/15 09:59 AM
sacrifices a Kleenex to blow his nose with...lol..ok. sniffle sniffle.. blow.. I'm sorry I feel better now.. . I just got overwhelmed.... let my loneliness get the better of me.. sniffle sniffle.... ... sacrifices another Kleenex. to dry his eyes with..i.i.i. just fill.. . like I'm going to be empty.. for the rest of my life.. .. I walked past a stray cat the other day.. tried to round it up to bring it home...but but.. it ran into the street.. then got hit by a car.. .. right before it ran into the street.. .. it seemed to look at me.. and then at the road... .. and then back at me.. .. I could almost see the pussycat thinking... .. that running out into the street, would be better than coming home with me.. meeee.. . . . .

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Sat 04/25/15 11:58 AM
sacrifices a Kleenex to blow his nose with...lol..ok. sniffle sniffle.. blow.. I'm sorry I feel better now.. . I just got overwhelmed.... let my loneliness get the better of me.. sniffle sniffle.... ... sacrifices another Kleenex. to dry his eyes with..i.i.i. just fill.. . like I'm going to be empty.. for the rest of my life.. .. I walked past a stray cat the other day.. tried to round it up to bring it home...but but.. it ran into the street.. then got hit by a car.. .. right before it ran into the street.. .. it seemed to look at me.. and then at the road... .. and then back at me.. .. I could almost see the pussycat thinking... .. that running out into the street, would be better than coming home with me.. meeee.. . . . . now somehow I find that hard to believe not the cat part but part of you being alone ..at least not for long

celinat123 Joined Mon 05/06/13 Posts: 1	Sun 04/26/15 02:39 AM
Like any other game... Practice :)

pelangi05 Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 2	Fri 05/15/15 09:17 PM
Im new single mother, with one baby girl sometimes i fell worried with our future?fell so lonely when she is sick. Huffff

pelangi05 Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 2	Fri 05/15/15 09:20 PM
Its normal if we fell lonely, but we need to be strong for them.

Kaustuv1 Joined Thu 03/27/14 Posts: 4365	Sat 05/16/15 04:44 AM
try to help someone else who is lonely too, watch a good movie, do something you like, think about happy things, deep breathe, eat some good food, write on here, pray 'Beautiful'!

Unsure64 Joined Sun 05/10/15 Posts: 20	Sat 05/16/15 03:55 PM
I love New Zealand...I went there for 18 days and that was not long enough. Accents are great too! When you put the kids to bed, invite a woman over....you can watch a no is, no babysitter needed.

PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 13764	Sat 05/16/15 07:15 PM
Is there someone closer that you can trust and you could trade babysitting hours with? You also need time out. It helps to recharge your batteries. It's hard to get people for babysitting my son. The government in my country gives me 52 hours per year respite care for my son for me to have a break and I make the most of it. He goes to a special needs career during that time. That is why if you have a special needs child you network with other parents of special needs children. They know what your needs are and you can barter trade and swap nights for a multitude of reasons. Believe me I would have never met my late husband if it were not for my informal "Exceptional Child Group" that orchestrated my birthday party. And I was more than glad to return the favor. Did I have to learn to do some things I was unfamiliar with; like tube feed or how to cook special diets ? Sure but the lasting friendships and freedom to occasionally have something near a normal social life were more than worth it Believe me if a nice lady finds you have the right stuff she will work around your dating barriers.

LonelyDad1975 Joined Mon 02/09/15 Posts: 79	Sun 05/17/15 03:47 AM
I look on sites, tell the world im here, but no one wants a father of 5 kids, i dont blame them really lol, but apart from sites, i pass my time by creating music and playing games (gees that sounds boring lol)