I just found out today, someone very close to me other half is playing around.

Ward of advise to all you cheaters. Its not just the person your cheating on that gets hurt...

No its not it children, families and friends too that get hurt, and sometimes the one who cheats doesn't give a damn who they hurt..selfish buggers

yeah i been holding this in for a bit so i didn't do anything stupid on the forum. it's a shame. He has been with her for 13 years and has the balls to tell him this week I would never do anything to hurt you. HUH!

People just don't think Shadow, they don't see that they are indeed hurting their mate and family. I am so sorry this happened to your friend and you

Well, this week I will find out what he is going to do. All I can do is just be there for him if he needs me. it's something ill never understand and don't need to either. It's just wrong no matter what way you look at it.

People it's human nature. It called natural selection, and perpetuation of the stronger of the species. Doesn't make it right but explains alot. Life goes on. Sometimes we just have things like this happen. Don't know what else to say except move on and let go of it. If ya ya try to anlylize it it only makes it worse and too many other bad things tend to happen. Move on and just dont lose a friend over it.

it's hard to move one when you're the one being cheated on after giving so much into the relationship to get that in return is a slap in the face. especially when you're at home taking care of children while the other one is out with someone else.

Hiya Shadow,
It's a shame the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence & once their there they realize it's not.
No matter how easy it was to get over that fence it's alot harder to get back in & once they do it's never the same.
It just takes one time to make deep scars..

Well SAID Catch Me............I've been there.

I cought my ex=cheating it was with hico-worker and he even had the nerve to introduce her to me and my girls;I stayed at frist cause I loved him so much and it was for my girls.he was the perfect hasband and father befor this thats why it made it more of a shocker but it was going on for over a yr.to many things to get over.as much as I hated to hurt my girls I got out after a 1 and half of trying it never they might as well leave but they always thing they are not gonna get cought.I only didh't cought him sooner was cause I had just had a baby.

Chopperdan I agree with you. to sit and try to anlylize it can make things worse is some sense. The thing is with me is, I know to stay out of the why this and the why that.

Catch I like my grass but so true


I didn't make this post to go over thet reason it happen. i just wanted to let it out

Shadow, your soul is true.
You will never be one to wounder.

Well, having the friends that I have today helps remineds me where I stand in life and where I want to be in it.

so does the guy know about this? Im confused with the whole scenario......

if u think some one is cheating on you.buy voice activater recorder plant it on his car onder his seat in his room were ever he dose not look often but close enough to be able to record trust me. I asked him point black, but they never admit it. so if u really want to know this is the best way.you can buy one at best buy or frys in eletronics for about $30 to $50 the cheapes, and if u cought him already u could find out if it's still going on...good luck it happens to the best of us...

Well ill put it this way Gypsy. Another friend of mine was out an about and seen her with another man walking around holding hands. There is alot more to this that has come up but this one man she was with is known as what I call a thirteen stepper. If you know anything about AA then you should know exactually what i'm saying. He just went home like three hours ago and said he will wait to see what happens.

if you think someone's cheating they probly are. the worry is different from the gut instinct.

I guess your other-half's friend found himself a girlfriend that strays. Best to leave it to those two to sort their problems than to get involve.

I don't support cheaters.

No i'm not getting involved, just being a friend and if he needs a place to go to to just get out my house is always open

Ahh Shadow you're a gem , a good friend