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Topic: Is Flirting & Looking Considered Cheating?
Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 02/10/15 01:19 PM
Once again ya' man bringing the hot tea this time this question for anybody , not just you ladies but fellas you too I want to hear from all. Okay, my new topic is more of a question, you out on a date or just hanging out with your love interest, a attractive person ( girl or Guy) walks by and you look, maybe a little too hard, or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments! If she doing it more than once and like really hard like stated,it's definitely not cheating on should not be considered as such,but i probably would either get up and leave,or never go out with them again,that if we're not really in a relationship,but if we ARE already in a relationship,then that's where communication comes in,and actually,we may not even HAVE to communicate verbally about it,cause you can bet that she's going to know I didn't appreciate it,I'm not saying it's right or wrong,but how I,would take it and deal with ,and I also said "I PROBABLY,WOULD"(PROBABLY)!

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Tue 02/10/15 01:27 PM Edited by mysticalview21 on Tue 02/10/15 01:29 PM
I would say its disrespectful... but I know sometimes with xis I did not have to do anything and men would flirt with me ... I tried not to reciprocate but real hard when their right in front of you ... an if felt long ago ...with xis the opposite ... I would join the conversation if I felt another was flirting with them ... but then came a point in relationship I did not care ... they hurt me first... so I just let a lot go ...from being disrespected so much ... and Chuck doesn't your wife have knives ...

GodsOutlaw1964 Joined Sun 09/19/10 Posts: 48	Tue 02/10/15 01:48 PM
I'll probably get stones throwed at me but that's ok but Jesus said 'but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart'. Matt: 5:28 (AKJV) so I think it would be cheating. that's my 2 cents worth.

mom333 Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 1238	Tue 02/10/15 02:03 PM
if your truly in love why would you even want to look at anyone else

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 02/10/15 02:07 PM
I'll probably get stones throwed at me but that's ok but Jesus said 'but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart'. Matt: 5:28 (AKJV) so I think it would be cheating. that's my 2 cents worth. do you bible thumpers ever have any of your own thoughts? or is everything in life just a quote from the bible?

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Tue 02/10/15 02:09 PM Edited by mightymoe on Tue 02/10/15 02:10 PM
i think it depends on your intentions.... i flirt and look at all women, but that doesn't mean i want them sexually... if you and your partner knows each other well, then this won't be an issue... but most of the time when one accuses the other of cheating, then they(accuser) have cheating on their mind first....

2Fly4Wings38 Joined Thu 08/21/14 Posts: 375	Wed 02/11/15 08:09 AM
I love how you broke it down , I mean I totally agree with you.

2Fly4Wings38 Joined Thu 08/21/14 Posts: 375	Wed 02/11/15 08:11 AM
I agree with you too ma but I think some people tend to believe that if you not physically touching another person , then its not cheating.....stupid right?

no1phD Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27442	Wed 02/11/15 08:13 AM
if she doesn't catch me !peeking.. then it ain't cheating..lol.. ... and I've gotten really good at not getting caught at peeking..lol

senrik Joined Mon 12/15/14 Posts: 15	Wed 02/11/15 10:18 PM
I personally hold to two rules: first, that its natural to flirt... For men as well as women. But the key here is communication with your partner about what it is,what it means and how you feel about it. Which brings us to... Second, if you can't talk about it to your partner, its cheating.... Easy fast rule..

TheRealMatterz Joined Sun 08/10/14 Posts: 1	Thu 02/12/15 03:48 AM
all i have to say is looking is not cheating but talking and touching is

obx83 Joined Sat 12/20/14 Posts: 4	Thu 02/12/15 01:59 PM
For that 1-2 second, turn your head, rubber necking stare that we do. When we see something we want..we are in fact Lusting for that one person, at that particular time. It's something that can be explained only in the Animal Kingdom. The subconscious...it's usually and most of the time unexplainable, the Human Psychology. It is what it is. On the other hand.. Some people can be be so ****ing rude..

tealbreeze Joined Sun 02/08/15 Posts: 2279	Thu 02/12/15 02:23 PM
if she doesn't catch me !peeking.. then it ain't cheating..lol.. ... and I've gotten really good at not getting caught at peeking..lol There might be consequences....

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Thu 02/12/15 03:03 PM
if she doesn't catch me !peeking.. then it ain't cheating..lol.. ... and I've gotten really good at not getting caught at peeking..lol There might be consequences.... ,

sparkyae5 Joined Thu 03/28/13 Posts: 1595	Fri 02/13/15 09:23 AM
Once again ya' man bringing the hot tea this time this question for anybody , not just you ladies but fellas you too I want to hear from all. Okay, my new topic is more of a question, you out on a date or just hanging out with your love interest, a attractive person ( girl or Guy) walks by and you look, maybe a little too hard, or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments! I HAVE ONLY ONE THING TO SAY ABOUT THIS....WHEN A MAN FOCUSES ON ONE WOMAN ''MAGIC HAPPENS''.....IT DOES NOT GET ANY BETTER THAN THAT....THE MEN WHO DO KNOW WHAT I MEAN....

varman93 Joined Tue 01/06/15 Posts: 4	Mon 02/16/15 02:27 AM
juz glancing is total natural bro but make sure your entire focus & concentration is on ur partner yo.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 02/16/15 02:39 PM
I'll just say this. If you are flirting and then you add in "lemme get them digits girl"......then yeah....you have crossed the line.

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Mon 02/16/15 02:43 PM
Yes.

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Mon 02/16/15 02:46 PM
I think its disrespectful to my girl if i flirt...ive never done that while i'm in a relationship & i dont believe in such crap if i'm involved. i did get slapped once by my ex for staring at a chick too long though, but not flirting etc Five second rule same as with a sammich.