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First of all, congrats on your baby. All you can do now is to be the BEST WOMAN, MOM you can for your child. This happens, the Dad may mature,and come around, who knows? Just concentrate on YOU & Baby. You can make a great life for you both. Just please be careful if/when you date again that the new man doesn't harm your baby or you. You are gorgeous and I will keep you in my prayers.
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Most of you are saying that in other words it's my fault. I think one person said he was immature and didn't point the finger at me and then one person said they were going through the same thing but he is starting to grow up, (I'm happy for that lady). Thank you all for proving that at least in part it's because of the way society blames women when men do wrong things that men would grow up to think it's ok to behave this way. Obviously, men are not held accountable for creating babies. So, I do not believe in marriage because guys don't want that life...this is why I don't give it to them. I did not trap anyone but thanks for all responses.. I didn't point the finger, I asked a question as to get some insight into the situation. A man who has a child is supposed to be as accountable and just as responsible as the mother. My son was born when I was twenty. His mother and I haven't been together for more than ten years. I was the one who called the appropriate channels to make sure my support comes right out of my check the moment he went to live with her. I see my son whenever possible. I've gone in arrears once or twice when in between jobs and have paid the rears. No I don't want or need any kind of pat on the back either because that is how a real man handles that sort of situation, and that "is" supposed to be the norm. Yes it is sad that it isn't but please don't generalize the idea. Some of us are man enough to hold ourselves responsible like the rest of the adult world. |
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Edited by
unknown_romeo
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Wed 02/04/15 04:40 PM
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now I don't believe they can be decent partners or fathers. It is men who are just sex toys in fact and nothing more. Sorry but this is what you all act like. Of course the funny thing is women are the ones who are being objectified by men, but this is not what women are. This is how women should start treating men instead. That is so sexist. With your way of thinking i would advise you to get your head out of your azz . |
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Any other women ever noticed this in their guy? They act like they're really into you but then after you start having sex they don't answer the phone or call you as much.. They agree they want to make a family but after you get pregnant they practically disappear, and a month after the baby is born you see photos of what he's been up to and with whom while you were pregnant with his child. They don't notice you clean the house, cook, and take care of the baby by yourself all day long, and they also point out that you do nothing and are no fun, but never offer to help. They continue to party and hang out even after they have a child because for them nothing has changed, but you have no life and don't even deserve a phone call anymore. Guys can answer too, but if anyone wants to call me a man hater you are probably this kind of guy so just don't bother to answer this. He got what he wanted by sweet talking you and telling you what you wanted to hear. After he got what he wanted from you, he moves on to do the same thing to other women. You beleived him because you wanted what he falsely promised to give you, which was really just a reflection of you own needs and desires. His only desire was to have sex with you and move on. You wanted much more than what he could offer you. Not every guy behaves this way. This is not normal behavior and should not be accepted. Hopefully your eyes have been opened and you have been enlightened. I must agree with Totage. And definitely all guys are not the same - when I look just around myself - my friends, men in my family... You surely also can find some examples around you. Don�t let yourself get bitter because of one immature person. There are others, much better. If one apple is rotten, not the whole tree is the same. As a matter of fact I realize, I have opposite problem than you - I met many good guys in my life so I assume all are the same too. And then I�m surprised when the rotten apple apears. Always say that the best guys become my friends and for partners - accept two of them - I get the rest :-) But thank God for my friends, they are awesome! We, people, men and women, very often want to belive the other side sees the relationship the same way as we do. That�s not always true and damages happen. It is sad and unfortunate but real. You said you love justice - be justiceful. Do you really think you can judge one person (even if it is a guy  ) as someone completely else? And because of that first guy, you�ll miss opportunity to be happy with the other one? If you allow that, he didn�t hurt you only in ways you counted, he also took away from you your future and your possible happiness. Now it�s up to you what you decide to live, if you let him win or you win your life for yourself again. But I know I wish you your wounds to be healed and be happy again 
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"What the guy is like"? You mean, a normal, healthy human being who enjoys Sex and considers it a part of Life?
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Any other women ever noticed this in their guy? They act like they're really into you but then after you start having sex they don't answer the phone or call you as much.. They agree they want to make a family but after you get pregnant they practically disappear, and a month after the baby is born you see photos of what he's been up to and with whom while you were pregnant with his child. They don't notice you clean the house, cook, and take care of the baby by yourself all day long, and they also point out that you do nothing and are no fun, but never offer to help. They continue to party and hang out even after they have a child because for them nothing has changed, but you have no life and don't even deserve a phone call anymore. Guys can answer too, but if anyone wants to call me a man hater you are probably this kind of guy so just don't bother to answer this. 
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