Topic: Why do we yearn?
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Mon 02/02/15 10:53 AM
Edited by theseacoast on Mon 02/02/15 11:06 AM
Something that cross my mind several times:

when we, after break up with someone we loved very much and invested our time, energy and all of ourselves into this relationship, yearn for this person, do we really yearn so much for him/her or we are more not prepared to say goodbye to our dreams, illusions, to all what we expected and for what we in any way gave ourselves and sometimes sacrifised. And also, does this person who hurted us, left us, fooled us or whatever, does this person deserve our pain? Or our love anymore?

From what I have learnt in my life, there exist two kinds of ending relationship:

- when neither of them hurts another (relationship can end because of life circumstances although neither of them really wants to end it, or from any other reason which is not under their control) - the end is still painful, but we can remeber of the other person with gratitude and happiness that we met him/her, for amazing experience of mutual love and respect that wasn�t spoiled by any hurt

- and much more common ending, where one person hurts another in any way, leave, cheat, lies or simply for lack of interest - but we are still as addicted to that person, want all of it back again, although we can reasonably know that it has no point - everything will be just the same if not worse. We idealize and keep thinking in "what if". My question is WHY?

So my questions are:

- why we can stay so long in pain and disorder (sometimes for long years) for those who just simply don�t care - because if they cared, they wouldn�t hurt us in the first place?

- do we really as much yearn for the persons that left us and hurted us or for our dreams that will never come true?


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Mon 02/02/15 11:26 AM
I think when you love someone it's like one soul inside two bodies. It's hard when you realize that the soul you have cherished has died.

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Mon 02/02/15 11:32 AM

I think when you love someone it's like one soul inside two bodies. It's hard when you realize that the soul you have cherished has died.



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Mon 02/02/15 12:31 PM
I do not think that what is called Love at first sight is so great an absurdity as it is sometimes imagined to be. We generally make up our minds beforehand to the sort of person we should like, grave or gay, black, brown, or fair; with golden tresses or raven locks; and when we meet with a complete example of the qualities we admire, the bargain is soon struck...