I'm an observer and a realist. I've paid close attention to what works, and what does not. I've been approached, and from that either immediately felt intrigued or completely turned off. I've also been the 'wing-woman' for my male friends... (side note: you want one).

I'm also a woman, so my perspective is at least relevant.

DO NOT approach a woman and tell her any predictable, boring compliment on any physical characteristic. We are not that shallow. We have either heard it a THOUSAND times, or you come off as desperate and horny.

DO smile nicely and say hello. Interject yourself (ahem, politely) into the conversation, if she's with a group, then introduce yourself. Learn how to read body language: there will be pretty obvious clues if you're *not* a welcome addition. If you get any ANY negative vibes, quietly remove yourself- DO NOT LINGER. (*creepy).

DO NOT interrogate, or smother her. You are a stranger. Do not call her 'baby' or 'honey' or 'sweety'--- or any variety of what could be considered a pet name. Again, you are a stranger.

DO Talk about something superficial. If the game is on, ask if she likes sports (segway into fav teams, etc). Ask what she is drinking, or if she's a local. Easy, noncommittal (and non threatening) questions.

DO NOT ask any personal questions (phone number, address, last name). If you can be respectful and are patient, that will come in time. No one likes a beggar- you'll look desperate (not cute).

BE CAUTIOUS when talking about weapons. That is threatening on an initial meeting (yeah, it's happened to me, and I'm relatively cool with guns). Show your interest but remain humble.

FINALLY just relax, be yourself. If she is into you, you'll know. If not, it wasn't meant to be.

Ladies, have I missed anything?

hey thanks for ur information, hope it will work for me...

DO NOT use pick-up lines. They are old-school. Just be your self.

I've found the best way, is to just be myself and make her laugh. Works for me, but everybodys different though?

Hi

PS:- Why live your life according to rules? Rules are meant to be broken Ava? Let yer hair down lassie and party?

Laughing/jokes are great! But, it's good to make sure that you're actually hitting the jokes right and have a natural knack for it. I've been approached by men who like to 'fake it till you make it' as far as comedy is concerned. Just makes me feel bad for them.

Awkward...

Bahahahaha!! I live my life according to rules... MY rules. I've also seen really good (well-meaning) guys get shot down.

What can I say, I'm a giver. ;-)

Nah, timing has to be right and once she's comfortable enough and at ease, with being in your company, then it's right. Me and my wife talk about the maddest things for ages, as we just play off each other and end up in stitches laughing our heads off. She's just the female version of me and that's why i married her Ava. We're as daft as each other, but in a good way!

That's wonderful. I'm happy for you.

I tend to be really sarcastic. You know how you sometimes walk away from a conversation and think of a fantastic comeback, when it's too late? I never do. I always think of it right in time.

It's not always a very endearing quality, but sometimes...

I need to find a guy that matches my wit and (sometimes inappropriate) sarcasm. Otherwise, I'll just piss him off.

have no fear ava we are out there. just remember on the heels of sarcasm come puns