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Topic: Listen up. Here's some turnoffs....
SpicyExcel Joined Wed 10/31/12 Posts: 1622	Mon 01/05/15 07:56 PM
Okay. After social networking for a few years, I still can't seem to figure out exactly what I want? But, there's some definite red flags when I run into people. Here are some things I DON'T want..... 1. Commenting about being bored. This person needs to be constantly entertained. 2. Commenting about being lonely. This person sounds desperate, and desperation is NOT attractive. 3. Commenting with negative thoughts. This person will only bring you down. Anyone else get turned off by boredom and lonliness?..... Number 3; is this included in the overall relationship of the subject matter in this thread. I teasing you a little, because everyone needs someone and many times the postive and negative need to be accepted when finding someone. Haha....Okay, I see what you're saying. Either way, I am positive that I know exactly what I won't put up with. I'd rather be alone.... Didn't you just say you are turned off by people complaining about being lonely? You're turning yourself off. Also you're here because you're lonely and bored. You don't know what you want but you KNOW what you DON'T want. That's negative. I see the problem, it's that you don't see the problem. Not trying to play the devil's advocate but your complaints are irrelevant because that's you. Hay! She's got a good personality and intelligent. It is part of maturing we are experiencing here and the changes in society. Take it easy on people and their feelings.

teasel Joined Tue 12/30/14 Posts: 453	Mon 01/05/15 08:03 PM Edited by teasel on Mon 01/05/15 08:06 PM
This whole page is focusing on the negative and only 5 days into the New Year.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Mon 01/05/15 08:09 PM
People that want to meet IMMEDIATELY in person.... they felt horsy.. Horsy? As in, giddyup horsy?..... yesh..and say we still need to work hard. .

SpicyExcel Joined Wed 10/31/12 Posts: 1622	Mon 01/05/15 08:12 PM Edited by SpicyExcel on Mon 01/05/15 08:24 PM
Here's one: Woman that want sex before the first date Maybe not

panchovanilla Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 5396	Mon 01/05/15 08:18 PM
Raw carrots. Total turnoff Chew forever...just can't swallow it.

kevincatungal Joined Sat 01/03/15 Posts: 1	Mon 01/05/15 08:24 PM
If I were a stop light, I'd turn red everytime you passed by, just so I could stare at you a bit longer.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Mon 01/05/15 08:26 PM
Okay. After social networking for a few years, I still can't seem to figure out exactly what I want? But, there's some definite red flags when I run into people. Here are some things I DON'T want..... 1. Commenting about being bored. This person needs to be constantly entertained. 2. Commenting about being lonely. This person sounds desperate, and desperation is NOT attractive. 3. Commenting with negative thoughts. This person will only bring you down. Anyone else get turned off by boredom and lonliness?..... Number 3; is this included in the overall relationship of the subject matter in this thread. I teasing you a little, because everyone needs someone and many times the postive and negative need to be accepted when finding someone. Haha....Okay, I see what you're saying. Either way, I am positive that I know exactly what I won't put up with. I'd rather be alone.... Didn't you just say you are turned off by people complaining about being lonely? You're turning yourself off. Also you're here because you're lonely and bored. You don't know what you want but you KNOW what you DON'T want. That's negative. I see the problem, it's that you don't see the problem. Not trying to play the devil's advocate but your complaints are irrelevant because that's you. Hay! She's got a good personality and intelligent. It is part of maturing we are experiencing here and the changes in society. Take it easy on people and their feelings. It's all good. Thanks.... I didn't mean for this to turn into such a negative thread when I started.....I was talking about the person in your life that if their lips are moving, they are complaining....That person.

germanchoclate1981 Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1245	Mon 01/05/15 08:34 PM
I'm not being fecicious, I'm being HONEST. Oh, but honesty doesn't apply to women because it hurts their feeeeeelinnnnnnnngs. Lets be fair Spicy, change your tampon. Basha, men who live in the real world that don't have a woman are lonely for one. If we aren't ALWAYS positive then you know we aren't fakes or liars. If a person with negative thoughts would 'Bring us down' humanity would have been snuffed out long ago. How about trying to fill the void a good lonely man feels in his heart? How about brining a smile to someone who's down? That SHOULD solve your problems, improve others opinions of you and 'Hey!!!' make YOU feel better to boot. Spicy, the tampon isn't gonna cut it, you need a maxi pad.

SpicyExcel Joined Wed 10/31/12 Posts: 1622	Mon 01/05/15 08:38 PM
I'm not being fecicious, I'm being HONEST. Oh, but honesty doesn't apply to women because it hurts their feeeeeelinnnnnnnngs. Lets be fair Spicy, change your tampon. Basha, men who live in the real world that don't have a woman are lonely for one. If we aren't ALWAYS positive then you know we aren't fakes or liars. If a person with negative thoughts would 'Bring us down' humanity would have been snuffed out long ago. How about trying to fill the void a good lonely man feels in his heart? How about brining a smile to someone who's down? That SHOULD solve your problems, improve others opinions of you and 'Hey!!!' make YOU feel better to boot. Spicy, the tampon isn't gonna cut it, you need a maxi pad. Reads like your not able to accept the same type of responses that you post.

SpicyExcel Joined Wed 10/31/12 Posts: 1622	Mon 01/05/15 08:39 PM
Okay. After social networking for a few years, I still can't seem to figure out exactly what I want? But, there's some definite red flags when I run into people. Here are some things I DON'T want..... 1. Commenting about being bored. This person needs to be constantly entertained. 2. Commenting about being lonely. This person sounds desperate, and desperation is NOT attractive. 3. Commenting with negative thoughts. This person will only bring you down. Anyone else get turned off by boredom and lonliness?..... Number 3; is this included in the overall relationship of the subject matter in this thread. I teasing you a little, because everyone needs someone and many times the postive and negative need to be accepted when finding someone. Haha....Okay, I see what you're saying. Either way, I am positive that I know exactly what I won't put up with. I'd rather be alone.... Didn't you just say you are turned off by people complaining about being lonely? You're turning yourself off. Also you're here because you're lonely and bored. You don't know what you want but you KNOW what you DON'T want. That's negative. I see the problem, it's that you don't see the problem. Not trying to play the devil's advocate but your complaints are irrelevant because that's you. Hay! She's got a good personality and intelligent. It is part of maturing we are experiencing here and the changes in society. Take it easy on people and their feelings. It's all good. Thanks.... I didn't mean for this to turn into such a negative thread when I started.....I was talking about the person in your life that if their lips are moving, they are complaining....That person. Maybe SPRING is in the air and that's what's happening

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Mon 01/05/15 08:40 PM
I'm not being fecicious, I'm being HONEST. Oh, but honesty doesn't apply to women because it hurts their feeeeeelinnnnnnnngs. Lets be fair Spicy, change your tampon. Basha, men who live in the real world that don't have a woman are lonely for one. If we aren't ALWAYS positive then you know we aren't fakes or liars. If a person with negative thoughts would 'Bring us down' humanity would have been snuffed out long ago. How about trying to fill the void a good lonely man feels in his heart? How about brining a smile to someone who's down? That SHOULD solve your problems, improve others opinions of you and 'Hey!!!' make YOU feel better to boot. Spicy, the tampon isn't gonna cut it, you need a maxi pad. We can agree to disagree. You can't hurt my feelings because I wouldn't allow it. Fill the void of a good lonely man? No, thanks. There's too many people in the world for me to have to settle for a negative person. That's how I am, and that's how I roll.....

germanchoclate1981 Joined Wed 10/18/06 Posts: 1245	Mon 01/05/15 08:48 PM
Again, honesty. A person with a broken leg couldn't get around on broken crutches. People complain the most when they are alone. Humans have spread themselves too thin and we try to use technology as a crutch but that only spreads us thinner. Is there anyone here that hasn't ever had a computer or smartphone problem? Case in point. We are all here because we are alone or want to be with someone who will make us feel better. If not, it's just because we're horsy. Sorry M3kay, I had to.

m3k4y Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 13122	Mon 01/05/15 08:51 PM
Awwww..here's one people who are kill joy..

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Mon 01/05/15 08:59 PM
Again, honesty. A person with a broken leg couldn't get around on broken crutches. People complain the most when they are alone. Humans have spread themselves too thin and we try to use technology as a crutch but that only spreads us thinner. Is there anyone here that hasn't ever had a computer or smartphone problem? Case in point. We are all here because we are alone or want to be with someone who will make us feel better. If not, it's just because we're horsy. Sorry M3kay, I had to. Ha. I'm not here because I'm looking for someone to make me feel better. That's ridiculous. If I can't make myself feel better, and take care of myself, no one else is going to. If you don't know that by now, you're in for the same relationships you've had all your life. People trying to "fix" each other. Whining about boredom and loneliness is ridiculous, too. There's a billion things to do, see, eat, feel, want, experience. Just keep looking for all those things....Quit looking for a soulmate. Let life happen....

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Mon 01/05/15 09:10 PM
channeling a friend.... would asking for a bj be too negative at this time?

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3509	Mon 01/05/15 09:11 PM
nothing will ease the shock of falling into toilet water in the middle of the night.

bashajones Joined Fri 08/08/14 Posts: 7943	Mon 01/05/15 09:14 PM
channeling a friend.... would asking for a bj be too negative at this time? Nope....Ask away.

kc0003 Joined Fri 05/11/07 Posts: 26382	Mon 01/05/15 09:20 PM
so what you're saying is giddyup!!!?

Pansytilly Joined Mon 06/09/14 Posts: 11310	Tue 01/06/15 12:14 AM Edited by Pansytilly on Tue 01/06/15 12:20 AM
Okay. After social networking for a few years, I still can't seem to figure out exactly what I want? But, there's some definite red flags when I run into people. Here are some things I DON'T want..... 1. Commenting about being bored. This person needs to be constantly entertained. 2. Commenting about being lonely. This person sounds desperate, and desperation is NOT attractive. 3. Commenting with negative thoughts. This person will only bring you down. Anyone else get turned off by boredom and lonliness?..... People apparently afflicted with the following: The Asian flu - "I really like Asian women, what's up?" Hyper-philia - " I'm feeling ho**y right now, wanna chat?" Ego-itis - "hey baby, chat me up, I can make all your dreams come true" Boredom and loneliness could be transient, I tread more carefully on this. As for the terminal cases of Boredom, loneliness and negative thoughts? They might need to be introduced to the above mentioned...

Awatersign Joined Wed 01/22/14 Posts: 3185	Tue 01/06/15 05:39 AM
People with no sense of humor,people that's always being sarcastic,a negative attitude,& always whining,those ones I try my best to avoid!!