So here's the deal...

I've been single for two years now despite my attempts to find a good woman to start a relationship with.

There have been a couple times where I thought something may evolve with women I was dating (at separate times), but nothing really happened.

The first woman approached me on another dating site. My first thought was "she's out of my league", but I just acted like myself; I didn't try to be cool or smooth or anything like that, I just did what came natural. We dated for about three weeks, and I developed a genuine romantic interest in her, but she never seemed to have any more interest in me than she did on our first date. We still talk, but it just seems like I got "friend zoned".... Which I hate.

The second woman was from the same dating site, but I approached her. We sent e-mails back and forth, and then moved to texting/talking on the phone. Then one day she just stopped talking all together. We were making plans for a date, but then she disappeared.

What is going on with this? Does it just come down to the fact that men have so much competition on dating sites that we eventually get replaced by what appears to be a better model (like last year's smart phone)? Neither of these women ever informed me or acted like I had done something wrong; it's like they just lost interest overnight.

I can't help but wonder if I'm doing something wrong, or if there's something about myself I need to change. Any advice? I really don't even know where to begin.

Impossible to know if you need to change up some things about yourself, but I'm thinking if you have to ask strangers, you probably do ...My thoughts about what happened with the two women....The first one gave it a fair chance and decided the two of you were not a good fit which is no biggie because that's the PURPOSE of dating ...The second woman was not willing to meet you cause she was either intimidated (thinking you were out of her league) or she was misrepresenting herself in some way ...Man up sugar, nobody said it was going to be easy...

Yeah, I never assumed or thought that dating and relationships were easy. I just wish it wasn't next to impossible. Like I said, I've been single for two years.

I'm 29 years old, and I'd like to have a kid or two before I feel like I'm too old to do that. This being said, I've already told myself that if I don't have kids by the time I'm 35, I'm not going to. I don't want to be hitting retirement age before my kids are done with college.

About the first woman, yeah, I get that this happens with dating; people decide they're not a good fit. It just still sucks though, especially when I try to discuss what's happening/what happened, she changes the subject. It probably wouldn't bother me so much if she would be a bit more honest and up front.

I guess I just believe that people should be a little more open with their feelings. If you don't want to date someone, you should be honest and let them know instead of making them sit and wonder. That's just my opinion, though.

It's a valid opinion and one most of us share, but there will always be plenty of people who, for what ever reason, get off on fecking with other people...Dating sites are no exception...Next time you go out with a woman, don't play all your cards at once...Take it slow and DON'T mention procreation until you are three months in!

Good luck Josh!

I never mentioned kids with her, and I did take things slow. After three weeks, the most we had done was kiss because I was trying to read her body language and just go with what she felt comfortable doing. We never had sex, never even made out; just some light kissing because it seemed like she didn't want to do anything more than that.

I'm not the kind of guy that goes on one date and starts planning our lives together. I like to take some time to get to know them on a few different levels to figure out of they're someone I could actually have a relationship with, or if they would drive me insane inside of a year.

Well, maybe you're taking it too slow...Lmao...!!...I just looked at your profile and I can promise you one thing, it's not your looks... ...Take care, stay positive and get out and raise some hell this weekend!

Dude.....you are putting way too much pressure on yourself. Dating is a big game nowadays and the net has created "multiple options" for both men and women. You approach a girl on a dating site she may have interest from that initial contact. But the longer it goes the more interest other will have in her and (as such) you can be friend zoned as a backup. Happens to women too (see..Goof is all about equality). Anyways just take a deep breath and realize that the you do not need to worry. Funny thing about the universe is that when you least expect it you bump into someone that will change your life. Don't worry about having a strategy to getting a girl. I've dated some ladies and while it didn't romantic work out with them I did develop friendships. It's easy to beat yourself up but the best advice I can give is to never stop living. Live life and you'll be amazed at what happens.