ESTELLE79, some men do find excitment in love (romance), and at all different stages of their life. These men also enjoy how the romance finishes off the evening, spending the night with the woman.
Not every man is looking for the latest thing for a new relationship. We are communication online and the scammers and time wasters make life difficult.

Relationships seem today to be more disposable than they were with our parents and some individuals our age. People do not need to tolerate poor behaviour these days, nor are they willing to. Sometimes it is not poor behaviour that is a problem, just personality differences. And sometime individuals do tolerate poor behaviour, because they do love their partner and understand the difficulties in their relationships. They are willing to try and work through them peacefully.

Even people of this generation seek love, they have seen divorce, or separations as an example of love and sex. Short term relationships.
Men have experienced the same difficulties as your searching for an answer for in this forum. Again this is Imprinted behaviour, and some believe its normal and acceptable.

OnNewJourney was right about being patient, it will happen in time.
When communicating find out how long it has been, since he was in a relationship, and I am not talking about communications online. A real physical relationship.

Taking time to recover from a past relationship is important I believe. Allows oneself to review the good qualities and bad qualities of their partner and themselves.

There is no easy solution, we each can only offer small peices of advise, or personal experiences.

That sounds right SpicyExcel
Although advice wasn't given to me, I still appreciate sharing your taught on this with ESTELLE79 and others on this forum.
Those with bad behavior can be ignored or blocked. We shouldn't allow them to ruin our day. I didn't give up because of them, but for other reasons. Good luck with your quest!

I find loads of excitement from love.

I love the special surprises, the warmth of a true friend, the hugs, cuddles, the conversations, the company, the kisses, the knowing that someone desires you as you do them, the pillow talk, the creating chapters in your shared book, holding hands, the smiles, the silliness, the goofiness, the knowing that you have a shoulder to lean on in difficult times, the tingle in your skin, the swimming of butterflies in your stomach.

Shall I go on about the excitement I have from love?

Love is the most special thing on earth.

Estelle,
nobody is hiding and nobody is biting your head off.

you started a topic with a negative generalization:

'why don't men get excited about love? they only get excited about sex with the latest thing'.

many people, both men and women have responded with the opposite of what you want to hear and you defend your opinion with more biased generalizations.
we get what we look for and what we put out there.
I think that it takes men longer to open up but when they do, their love can be immeasurable.

love and relationships take time and effort. in the meantime you build trust and friendship.
there are several good hearted men who participate in the forums. who are respectful, supportive, smart and funny. if you take the time to know them through their interactions, you see they are men of quality.
do men get excited about the prospect of a new relationship?
I can't speak for all, but I can speak for one. the answer is YES! ABSOLUTELY!!
Someone who goes above and beyond the extra mile to spend time together. who will drive over a hundred miles to cheer on a minor league baseball game. who listens and gets to know what matters to you. who puts your happiness above his own well being, being there to keep a promise even when he should be home sick in bed.
Someone whose first gift is handmade and proudly offered.
yes, this is a man I met right here on mingle.
amazing things happen when you open yourself to possibilities. good luck

Ah success..... Head down circling with my toe.... You see the real me Ana..... To cute....

i am on mingle2 for the past 2 years and i hav never even had a friend here.. i never text anything filthy.. all my messages contain my real emotions about love .. i define love as a "sacred union of two souls".. somebody help me :(

awwwww..you guys are cute..I'm happy for you both..

Well said Miss Ana!!......

WoW !!! , you are correct .

. WoW !!! Yes you are right .

I am so excited about being in love with this woman ^^^ (((Mekay)))

many of us are so happy to read the thread you two have. thank you for sharing with us as your love has grown since meeting each other in mingle. you two are inspiring to many of us.
since this topic is specifically about if men love,
Mikey you have shown the world you're not afraid to have feelings. you've openly expressed your love for Mekay. you've shared how much you value all that she is. you've given her her due respect and by the same token been respectful.

so here's another example that men have great love to share.

hugs to both of you lovebirds

"some women don't realize that men just have a different way of expressing love and they tend to be selfish whenit comes to love"

So, you agree that men are too selfish to love and women should realize it (just accept it, not question it).


"We all need to be adored ,men need it more"

Why do men need love more than women? Oh, it's because women are nurturers and not selfish like men, I see.

To Mikey & Mekay/ Ana & Zippy....

You are a fine example that it can happen and has happened! So so happy for you guys!

The first rule about holes this:

When you have found yourself in a hole that you have dug, stop digging.

I think it's a real problem that men have not been allowed to show this simple emotion. Instead they turn to sex to be close to someone who can express love and that is probably the only time men can be loving and not feel like they will be judged.

Isn't it time for men to be free to express their emotions? Women got their rights, what about men's rights? And the people who are saying men love different and they're selfish and they need more love that is bs and totally sexist against men.

I am not a bitter old woman as some have said, in fact I feel sorry for guys because they're missing out on a lot of things that have always given women inner strength. Men can and should have access to the same because they're also human beings with the same ability to love. When I asked do men love I didn't mean CAN men love like most of you seem to have understood by your remarks.

Good grief.

Maybe if men were motivated to be in touch with their feelings they would find their inner strength and the world including dating sites would be a better place.

Maybe if people stopped generalizing and thinking they can speak for an entire sex the world including dating sites would be a better place.

Where did I make generalizations??

Seriously, back in the old days if someone asked do women work? the answer would have been sure they work, its just different (they only worked at home and didn't get paid)...but fortunately women can work the same as men, and now we do. Same thing about men having feelings that have always been designated to women, gays or children only. People truly think that men love differently but if you think about it that's just a bs excuse.

I'm not saying men and women aren't different. But sometimes people have been known to be brainwashed by sexist beliefs.