Don't try to pretend to be someone you're not. She obviously likes talking to you or she'd have told you to stop calling. Be yourself, always!!! She wants the real you, not someone you're pretending to be. Being comfortable with someone can take time. You both deserve to know the "real" person you're talking to, you owe it to the relationship to give it time.

I googled this for you. This will keep it going. Just edit them first to fit YOU.
1) What is the sort of relationship you are looking for and why

According to some relationship experts this is the most important question to ask on a first date. Once this is asked, it is out there, making it evident to you what you are getting into. You put your profile, on the dating site. In your profile you clearly mention that you are looking for a committed relationship. Now after you meet someone who is positive, you have to pop the big question nonchalantly into the conversation. Your tone must not be inquisitional or confrontational. After you get the answer you must double-check by asking, why? These are good questions on the first date because you don’t want to go on a boat ride with both of you rowing in opposite directions.


2) What do you think is the biggest mistake that men/women make in their relationships?

The answer to this question will reveal what turns him/her off about people and what are his/ her ideas about men and women.


3) What are the qualities of your ideal relationship

This is one of the good questions to ask on a first date. Men and women reveal what they are looking for in life, what kind of relationships they expect out of each other and the marriages that they dream of.


4) Have you ever had your heart broken?

The more attractive/defensive the person the more likely the answer will be, 'No'. But a majority of honest individuals will say 'Yes'. This reveals their humility.


5) What scares you the most about opening your heart to your partner?

This is a question to break the defenses of your date and lay his/ her feelings bare, so that you grow closer emotionally.


6) Has any book or movie made an impact on you?

Book and movies are important influences of popular culture and you can have an interesting and animated discussion on books and movies that inspired or influenced you. This is a good question to ask on a first date..


7) What is the most annoying thing that someone could do to you?

You could share a laugh about what annoys you in other people and get to know others likes/ dislikes better.

8) If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?

This helps you discover what drives him or her - money/ adrenaline/domestic bliss.

9) What do you like to do for fun?

This will help you to know if you can share leisure activities. Also, whether he/she is an indoor/ outdoor person.

10) What is the biggest mistake that people make on a first date?

Lets you into trade secrets of the opposite gender.

11) What do you look for in a guy/ girl?

These questions, along with the previous, one are good questions to ask on a first date. It will reveal the dreams and romantic aspirations of the person… But some may deflect honest answers by saying the usual, like," Good looks, sense of humor". etc.

12) Define a truly successful relationship

An ideal answer would be one where both men. as well as women share responsibility/credit for success.

13) What happened with your lastrelationship?

You can look for danger signs like blaming and whining rather than owning up half the responsibility for a doomed relationship, which reveals a lot about the person’s nature.

Here are some unique, fun and good questions to ask on your first date:

14) What were your life-changing moments?

15) What is the weirdest thing about you?

16) Are you cheap or thrifty?

17) Which is the one book that has really impressed you?

18) Would you have plastic surgery done on your body?

19) What was your most embarrassing moment?

20) Tell me about your family/ best friend.

honesty is always the best policy and who knows she may be as nervous as you are...you dont have to stop talking but u might want to say hey...this is pretty hard for me, I feel like i dont know what to say at times, but i do want to talk to you and get to know u better...u dont have to end it if you dont want to...just take it slow...slow is good...really good...and it will get better i promise u that.

Well said HoosierLady, my thoughts exactly!

good advice from prettynormal

nice comment from abra - I would venture to say that was normal.

I think you know you need time after the last relationship - I would suggest not talking about that too much, until you get to know someone a little better (in person is a good time for those details).

You could learn a little bit about your town. Do your travel far in your job as a truck driver - I get the impression you might. Are there places you would like to visit one day, why.
How about asking her that. What's her favorite color, why?
Get her to talk about things she likes, dislikes, ask her what is one of the funniest things she can remember from her childhood. Think of something funny that you can share before you make the call. You can always use it if there is a lull in the conversation. When you are ready to end the conversation, just be bright and cheery, thank her for talking with you.

Those are just ideas - the important thing is be YOU and show an interest in Her. If you feel more comfortable online do that so you can get to know her better, then when you talk things will go a lot easier. Practise makes perfect, so relax and enjoy.

I guess I have to be the negative one here... I find if I can not think of anything to say to someone it is because I am not as interested in them as I thought I was. Sometimes you just do not have anything in common to talk about.

You wanna know something... I have that same problem.... Its like ill get on the phone with someone and then a couple minutes into the convo...ill have nothing to say and wish i had never called cause i dont want to seem ignorant that im not talking. But then i met a guy on here and we called eachother...well we call all the time now. But the first time i talked to him it was a little akward...but then i was just like okay...lets juss say nething and then i was like okay he seems like somone i can trust...and now...The 2nd time we were on the fone...we were on for 6 hrs..lol 3rd time it was 4hr..and 4th time it was 3hr and then 2 more hrs...lol figure that.

its called nothing in common and if you have nothing to say..i have learned dont always be the one to initiate the conversation ..cuz if you do its going nowhere it has to come from both sides..been there.. its useless. sorry dont mean to be negative but it is what it is...plaine out boring..good luck!!

usually stuff should just come natural. when there is problems like that, it usually doesn't last like you want it to. Just let some time pass. If she is a dud and doesn't talk much, then perhaps she lacks a personality. I know some girls like that. They like me, and they are cute... But they don't talk. They only respond. I hate that. Can you imagine what sex would be like? They would probably just lay there. Yuck.

Are you sure that you like her? I have also found that if I can't keep the conversation going that I am not that interested in them. If I can't click over the phone...I don't waste my time.
Good luck and just be yourself. If you are just getting out of a relationship, maybe you are not ready.

Great list Lakeman! I printed so that I can use it. We could all use a little help now and again.


..........and nice to se you Britty!!

If I get the impression she is really interested in talking and opening up at all, I will ask, "Where do you see yourself in five years?" Everyone has a sense of it, but, in my experience, few have thought it out thoroughly, and fewer have actually talked it out with anyone.

The question is open-ended enough that it can be answered in very general terms, or more specifically -- in terms of career or relationships or geographic relocation or just about anything else.

The answers can also provide some valuable information about priorities, etc. -- which may have something to do with potential compatibility, or lack thereof....

Just be true to who you are,be honest and it will just come naturally,good luck

lake you da man - it's a classic

Lake...

I sent him a list of questions also. I told him that some of them were sexual, but a list never the less...I thought that they could be helpful....

Personally, and I find this to be true of all guys...Guys can't hold a conversation on the phone...it happens all the time...my boyfriend of 3 years can hold a 10 minute phone call...but it's always a different story when you're with that person face-to-face. You will naturally come up with things to talk about...

But here's a few things that could be a fun topic:

What is the craziest/most daring thing you've ever done?
What would you love to do that you never got to do as a child?
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?

Sometimes honesty is the best thing...if a guy i was just dating said that they have a hard time coming up with things to say on the phone...i might think you were shy. If you randomly ask these kinds of questions that I have listed up above, they are easy topics to talk about for a while.

How bout asking her about herself. People love to talk about themselves - their family - their jobs - their past! People love to reminisce.

brenda

LOL Guys can hold a conversation. Just some women need to make them feel like they are in the conversation. LOL Girls can be a real chatterbox. I had to hang up on a few who wouldn't shut up, although I do like to be interrupted when what they talk about is relevant. It shows interest, excitement, and it is a great way to get a darn word in. :-D

Thanks for the positive feedback guys and gals. Google can come up with some good stuff if you just type in a question. It used to be kinda spotty on info but it seems to be getting better all the time.

keep it short if you're not a conversationalist

if you blabber, she'll wonder if you're interested in her at all

she's gonna wonder, where could this possibly go