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When I was still single, and dated different types of men, I found that I didn't like men who are thin. I liked big guys. My husband is a huge man. He looks like a building with piercing eyes and gigantic muscular arms. I like how people scamper away when he glowers at them. :) Oh, and to the OP: The same thing happens to women. Some men prefer small girls and some the opposite. Point is, your size shouldn't matter to the right person. He will love you for who you are. i think we should all feel bad about ourselves for things we can control... that way we don't have to take any actions to fix it... |
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I've been reading this and thinking about it because I myself was thinking about starting a thread about this. Pretty close to the same topic. Me, I'm a little on the heavy side. For me, it's caused by a medication that I have to take. As a matter of fact, two of them. It's a fight for me to try to keep my weight down. I have to take this medication. At one time, I really let it get next to me that I was getting bigger and couldn't seem to stop it. I worried about how women, in general, were going to "see" me. Would a woman even date me? I chewed on that for a while. After a lot of thought, I finally came to a decision. I didn't care. I made up my mind about it. I was going to take pride in myself. Everybody else didn't matter. I decided that I was going to keep my confidence in myself no matter what. I'm not talking about being cocky. My size might be changing. But my ability to get a woman didn't. I talk to women now just like I always have. I'm the same friendly, outgoing person I've always been. I still treat women with the same respect I always have. Not every woman jumps in my lap and wants to go out with me. But I don't sit at home alone every weekend either. One thing is the same whether you are a man trying to get a woman. Or a woman trying to get a man. When you get right down to it, It has nothing to do with your size. It's who you are. It's people's perception of us. Yes, You are going to run into these that only see the outside. And it's not that every one of them are shallow. Some, Sure, just preference. While others, it's poor perception. They just can't see the forest for the trees. But hang in there. Get out there and be who you are. If you keep trying, You will find one that can "see you." I think this is right on the money. Over the years I have had no problem dating because if my size/condition weather it was the ideal or not. I have been on both ends of the spectrum. Appearance is not something that one can ditch entirely; most of us do have some level we demand of others and preferences but if it becomes clear someone is selecting me because I meet some ideal based only on appearance then I am so out of there it would make heads spin. No one will stay stationary in their appearance and you are just driving yourself into a wall trying to or picking someone who expects you to. They won't love you only the ideal as long as you can maintain it. Here is a little exercise in figuring out what men pick. Go out and look at any normal activity. You will see a range of women that is very diverse. Someone for everyone. The one thing that is generally in common is they are fun to be with and into their partner not worrying if they measure up. |
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I have to say I have mixed feeling about this thread... One on hand I can step up and say each person has to feel comfortable in their own skin. That doesn't mean someone else is going to...
I have one woman friend that sticks out in my mind...She is what is considered Morbidly Obese and yet she beats men off with a stick...We have gone out together she will get hit on and I am the wall flower..Why??? Because she loves who she is and is completely happy with who she is and her personality is as large or larger than she is. The rest of us normal personalities get kind of over shadowed by hers no biggie. I have another friend that to look at her just look at her she is drop dead gorgeous and yet she is single and can't figure out why..Easy Peasy... She obsesses over her weight, looks etc.. So there isn't much there but a pretty body no substance... Me I am me I bounce, I personally know of a trainer mine if he goes by a chart with out the caliper test he would be obese.. And let me tell you there isn't an extra ounce of fat that I have seen... So personally I don't care what a chart says, or clothing size says I personally want the inside package because if that is ugly the outside if ugly... |
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I have to say I have mixed feeling about this thread... One on hand I can step up and say each person has to feel comfortable in their own skin. That doesn't mean someone else is going to... I have one woman friend that sticks out in my mind...She is what is considered Morbidly Obese and yet she beats men off with a stick...We have gone out together she will get hit on and I am the wall flower..Why??? Because she loves who she is and is completely happy with who she is and her personality is as large or larger than she is. The rest of us normal personalities get kind of over shadowed by hers no biggie. I have another friend that to look at her just look at her she is drop dead gorgeous and yet she is single and can't figure out why..Easy Peasy... She obsesses over her weight, looks etc.. So there isn't much there but a pretty body no substance... Me I am me I bounce, I personally know of a trainer mine if he goes by a chart with out the caliper test he would be obese.. And let me tell you there isn't an extra ounce of fat that I have seen... So personally I don't care what a chart says, or clothing size says I personally want the inside package because if that is ugly the outside if ugly... big women keep guys warm in the winter... it gets cold in Alaska |
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big women keep guys warm in the winter... it gets cold in Alaska Hiya.. stinker... That is true but some of us little ones have our own built in heating system... 
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Edited by
TMommy
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Sat 08/22/15 12:14 PM
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Do men really draw a line at size 12? I am seeing a pattern where as soon as the men on this site realise I am a size 16,interest wanes xx I stand 5ft 10 and wear a size 14/16 depending on the clothing I am in no way, shape or form petite I carry a lot of muscle and I am wide across the hips, chest and shoulders way God made me baby am I everyone's cup of tea? nope but at age of 46 I am alright with that some guys like em short, thin and petite and some do not don't ever let anyone decide for you what is acceptable in this world and what is not 
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Body size ABSOLUTELY does not mean anything to me. I need a potential date to have a great smile, good sense of humor, and a good personality. I'm too old to care about body size.
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The whole physical attraction thing can vary so much for many guys. If asked,i would say a size 12 to 14 would be my ideal. However,i have had a very powerful attraction to some women who have been a little larger simply because of a certain look. I am mainly attracted to eyes and a great smile,so if i can make her smile for me,any thoughts of size seem to disappear
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. . . . . . . . . . .  BBW
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Edited by
red_lace
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Sat 08/22/15 01:31 PM
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There are worse things to be than being overweight or fat. :p OP, if people judge you because of how you look, **** 'em. I'd say more, but my post will probably get deleted. Again. Ahaha. |
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There are worse things to be than being overweight or fat. :p OP, if people judge you because of how you look, **** 'em. I'd say more, but my post will probably get deleted. Again. Ahaha. people judge themselves way more than others do... |
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Edited by
red_lace
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Sat 08/22/15 01:57 PM
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people judge themselves way more than others do... Yes. We are our own worst critics. Except for some A-grade ******** who thinks there's nothing wrong with them. Haha. |
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I like a proper woman, not a stick insect.
More cushion for the pushin' 
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What amazes me is when people state they like someone in this size range of women's clothing
Well it is a fact that size's vary between designers or off the rack clothing..So when I hear a man say I want a woman that is a size 6 he really doesn't have a clue... For example in my closet right now I have jeans going from a size 2 to a size 7 and they all fit me fine... Some shirts I buy are extra small and some are large.. size of clothing shouldn't matter.. If he is so obsessed with my clothing size he hasn't time to know the inner me Post a picture full body and if they don't like you let them pass on by.. To many other fish in the sea... Beens I am on a rant a bit here.. The physical body is the most transitional thing of a person.. Looks can fade be marred you name it. The spirit of a person is what matters in the long run.. Oh yes I know physical attraction is important and I agree with that to a point..But if pretty is only skin deep then what do you have left..Nothing. |
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none of what you say is wrong miss rains but at the same time i have to ask. just how successful will a long term commited relationship survive if one of them doesn't feel any physical attraction?
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I don't expect them to have a great body but I do want them to be healthy and live a healthy lifestyle only because I don't want them to drop dead on me.
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Body size ABSOLUTELY does not mean anything to me. I need a potential date to have a great smile, good sense of humor, and a good personality. I'm too old to care about body size. oh my gosh you are only 46. Not old 
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so true blondey especially when you consider that no matter what someones appearance is. attraction to it is in the eye of the beholder so every one has their own idea and no one person could possible make them selves attractive to every one else
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none of what you say is wrong miss rains but at the same time i have to ask. just how successful will a long term commited relationship survive if one of them doesn't feel any physical attraction? I said physical attraction is important.. Hands down but what happens if one of you gets crippled or god forbid has to take medications that causes one to gain massive weight. Do you part ways... |
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no you cross that bridge if you come to it with an already established relationship.
that is a horse of a different color |
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