Its as i explained it to my Daughter years ago, Until you turn 18 you are my responsibility, if you get pregnant before then you will finish school,be a mother,and learn to support yourself and your child,and the father would also share in that responsibility ! (luckily she waited until marriage) After she moved on her own i'm still her Father and also her Best Friend to always count on! I won't interfere in her business (unless abuse was involved)! Children need to make it on their own ,but know of a Best Friend they can count on for support not interference! I'm not thinking of raising children at my age"but who knows?" Just as i won't predict the future,just live for what i have now! I have a good son-in-law,daughter and grandchildren I Love them All but now its their life as a Family "with a little help from a friend" That's all i am!! Children need to grow up and learn from their own mistakes ,some of us did. Its called the "school of hard knocks"!! Unless there's abuse involved i won't interfere and continue mine!! As far as the inlaws- they weren't allowed to interfere other than being a friend also!!

I chose to work and live away from my family..recently me and my parents have misunderstanding wich brought a negative impact to my life..but still I cant cut them off..I realize that they are unaware of what they do to me, its not their intention to hurt me..I accept that they just dont have the ability or just cant behave otherwise towards me, then its vey easy for me to forgive them..they are who they are and if they are going to change, they will do it on their accord..the only person I can change is myself, specifically my reaction and behavior towards them..

about 2 years ago I went on holiday with my sister, brothers, nephew, and their children and girlfriend. it was all going good until we went to the beach, we were all having a good time and then my brother the one I was closet with started playing with my son who has Asperger's. they were playing and some sand got into my brothers headphones and he went mad I mean really angry started calling my son an idiot and shouting obviously I stepped in from the start and said nobody talks to my son like that I don't care who you are, I screamed at my brother for doing that but nobody said anything in our defence. me and my children left the beach and went back to the caravan. the minute they came back from the beach they were horrible I mean I would call it bullying they treated us really bad. I had to get some nit treatment for my girl and I was going to do her hair in the bathroom but my sister shouted at me not to and I should take her outside (in front of all the caravans where people can see)I said no that would embarrass her so I did her hair in the bathroom with my sister having a go at me. my sister and the others stopped all the children playing with mine and cut us out of everything. I needed a tin opener from my brothers caravan even though it was actually ours they had taken it so my son knocked on the door which was right in front of our kitchen window so I could see him, my brother opened the door and said something to him my son tried to get in but he pushed him and then slammed his leg in the door. I ran up to the door and banged on the door my brother opened it and told me to go away I saw red and shouted again at him telling him what he was doing was not fair. they were all smoking drugs in the caravan with their kids in there also. me and my children stayed away from them until it was time to leave and the whole way back home they called me every name under the sun and my sister stayed quiet, even my nephew said some horrible things like im a sl*t and a wh**e because im a single mom he said all of this in front of my children who at this point were crying. when I got home I found that they had taken my cards I had to cancel them. when the kids had gone to bed after I had tried to cheer them up I broke down crying I felt worthless it was horrible. the next day I decided to never have anything to do with them again and I have not seen them since even though my sister texts me sometimes to see how we are I don't answer. would you do the same if you were me.

I would have a lot of difficulty cutting my family out of my life. The only way I could see that happening is if they somehow affected my children in a negative intentional way. Then yes, I would.. in a heartbeat. I think a parents first responsibility is to their children, siblings and family fall in after that.

I chose to work and live away from my family..recently me and my parents have misunderstanding wich brought a negative impact to my life..but still I cant cut them off..I realize that they are unaware of what they do to me, its not their intention to hurt me..I accept that they just dont have the ability or just cant behave otherwise towards me, then its vey easy for me to forgive them..they are who they are and if they are going to change, they will do it on their accord..the only person I can change is myself, specifically my reaction and behavior towards them..

I think the same as you, would you forgive the family if they had done this to you and your children?