it happens when you have years and years of verbal abuse. Low self esteem can also be a issue that needs to be dealt with. If you hear things over and over and over again, your more than likely going to believe it. It can also be internal, your own self doubts coming back to haunt you over and over again. I'm sure that it will take time to "feel the GOOD" stuff. Believe me, I KNOW!!!!!

what goes in--comes out
i came out of my marriage thinking i was the worse mother, the ugliest woman, not worth anything. after 14 years of hearing that eventually i started to believe it.
it took a long time to mend and i still it is hard....
and hard to handle compliments when i get them.
along the lines as someone said....do and see
someone said to me look at your kids--how can you even
think you are a bad mother? and when i saw it that is when
i started to believe.
but, it does that time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Each individual is different when summarizing their worthiness. Most of us are affected by our upbringing, recognizing that we need to identify who we are and where we would like to be is a very hard factor for some to acknowledge.Being told that you are "different" for some can be seen as a negative entity, on the other hand some strive to be "different" and use those qualities to their advantage. Your friend, perhaps with your help can turn her negative points into positive ones.Weigh up the "for's" and "against" and spend some time promoting the "for's" that she has.Good luck

Jen, my sister..I want you to take a moment and see you through my eyes

I see an intelligent, caring ,loving, funny woman whose beauty shines so brightly...look at her..she is you

I know it's hard to see yourself that way, I know because I never saw myself that way either...since I came here and broke out of my shell, moved into the light I now see my own beauty...I radiate it right off this web page..and my sister so do you...so beautiful you are gurl

why are women held up to such high standards is my question woman have to be pretty, smell good , hair and nails done, slim, completetly put together to grab a cup of coffee and guys can wear any old smelly pieces of baggy clothes don't have to worry bout covering anything on their face hair not even combed. I'm tired of the double standard if a woman was to do that and you saw her out you'd say "what a mess!" you see a guy you think nothing of it or most people don't. guys need to appreciate what the hell we go thru to be considered beautiful and maybe if and hollywood would'nt say you have to be a zero and a coke head to be somebody we mite not have sooooo many young girls and even grown women that have such a big complex. anyway if you see a woman that you think is attractive you don't have to be vulger bout it but just let her know it mite make her day, cuz every woman even if she doesn't believe she is pretty... deep down the compliment will make her feel good.

beauty is in the eye of the beerholder


all are different and all have good and bad qualities

Sing her the song...

You are so beautiful- to me

Someday she will know this.