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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Tue 08/26/14 08:01 AM
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handle it ? you have spoken to someone long distance for yrs
with out even meeting them in person ... believed you have strong feelings for them like love ... now this is all on line talk ... the day has come time to meet her either coming to you or you going to them ... what if it was not like the love you felt for them on line ... what would you do ... tell them to leave but one like one more then the other ... can you tell that person to leave or just take in stride and try and make it work just for the sake of it ... now this is after knowing each other quot sometimes on line and they are either coming from another state like from across the country or someone living out of the country ... |
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Well,if I face smth like that,I honestly tell him my feelings and expect him to do the same.Life is too short ...
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I have had a long distance relationship. What i would do is to talk to this person regularly on Skype. To see her on camera. And get used to her facial expressions and personality. Then i would tell that person that i would come visit her. And that i would like to meet her in a "neutral" place. Like a coffee shop or restaurant. So that we both feel safe and comfortable. If i feel comfortable and think that the feeling is mutual. Then i would tell her that i stay in this particular hotel. I do not think there can go much wrong
after that. But people can always be different in your future with them. They can change or they might not be what you expected them to be. That is a fact of life. I hope this answers your question. |
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u said for years!so long time together! i think it is rare to occur and if it happened should be an explicit about
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93 per-cent of conversation is body language, only 7 per-cent are the words---thats a fact---sounds like
it could be a lot of whats called projection ( type of fantasy )---the body language always tells the truth even with a pathological lier and politicians when you know what to look for-- |
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Anyone I talk to online for a period of time is only a friend and I keep it in the friend zone..
I have met some that online things seem to be going good but when I met them in person the same feelings were not there... Myself I was honest and just told them that I felt it was best to keep things on a friends level.... |
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Edited by
Beachfarmer
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Tue 08/26/14 08:33 AM
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I've never had this problem, but have always addressed this very subject. So, no, I have never been disappointed initially......(just thinking this now)...
 The disappointment came much later.
It's funny (ironic) too, about the whole imagination thing. I don't *think* I'm alone in having to be uber cognizant not to build some unobtainable fantasy about someone that they could never possibly live up to....Also to divulge your own faults as explicitly as you can, so the second party won't be taken back either. |
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well met my x girlfriend online
all was great didn't feel any different once i met her but the 6 hours of yelling at me after we lived together for 3 1/2 years was enough for me to leave but yeah if the love was gone i would end it or they would <shrug> |
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Tue 08/26/14 09:10 AM
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u said for years!so long time together! i think it is rare to occur and if it happened should be an explicit about I guess i meant a online relationship for yrs and never seen them except on line ... different when u go local but harder if there is a great distance between the to of u ... just know someone who had this and they finally met after... i think they liked each other enough to try and have a living together arrangement in the near future... but never found out if it happened for them ... very different when it comes down to the actual living together part ... I am going to think it is going to feel like the best that has happened to u in awhile or a wow did they change in just a matter of time being not good ... I would be hesitant about that living together right away ... |
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I maintain that you don't know yourself until you're all alone, and you don't really know someone until you have to live with them, in one sense or another.
Whatever you think of the person you're talking to online, remember that this person has had their entire lifetime expressed through actions as well as words, and until you see how someone acts, knowingly or unconsciously, you have no idea who they really are. This comes from someone that has met people from the internet, dated them, and even lived with them (yeah, long distance included). |
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Tue 08/26/14 11:59 AM
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I maintain that you don't know yourself until you're all alone, and you don't really know someone until you have to live with them, in one sense or another. Whatever you think of the person you're talking to online, remember that this person has had their entire lifetime expressed through actions as well as words, and until you see how someone acts, knowingly or unconsciously, you have no idea who they really are. This comes from someone that has met people from the internet, dated them, and even lived with them (yeah, long distance included). I agree ... if you can see how they live and think if u can add yourself to their life ...maybe much more happier or not... sometimes takes a while for some real personalities to come out of each other... thats another reason i put a lot in friends category becouse i know i could not live with them day in day out ... or should i say they could not live with me day in and day out and that is something i do look for in a man first off ... |
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