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Topic: SHORT FUSE.....
mom333's photo
Thu 08/21/14 04:24 PM

There is physical and mental abuse. The physical is heard bout more than the mental. The mental part is where the scars are and most are never seen. And they stay around a long time and cause folks to never really get the happiness and love they deserve. There is no reason for any of this. Me personally, I think most of this has to do with control and environment.

Is there a cure?
yes letting it go and sticking to your guns about what you want out of life and from relationships making sure that when you compromise its in the best interest of you both. I had to learn that the hard way.

bashajones's photo
Thu 08/21/14 04:24 PM






.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


It doesn't make me want to rip my hair out but rather punch someone square in the face when they call me a whore, slut, cheap, or a b#tch...I see red when I am called those things. When someone assumes they know me and are talking out their azz......


People are always talking out there azz...lol... You shouldn't let it bother you....They hate it more when you don't acknowledge what they say....What's the saying? Sticks and stones......




trust me names can hurt too.....a lot longer than the bruises last....bruises fade and go away but the words still remain.....


Names can only hurt you if you LET them hurt you. They are just words, hon. Words coming from people that don't matter anyway.



not when they come from someone who supposedly loves you....


Someone who "supposedly" loves you is not the same as someone who "really" loves you. You need to care about the words coming from the people who love you. The rest...eh...they can F off.

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Thu 08/21/14 04:26 PM







.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


It doesn't make me want to rip my hair out but rather punch someone square in the face when they call me a whore, slut, cheap, or a b#tch...I see red when I am called those things. When someone assumes they know me and are talking out their azz......


People are always talking out there azz...lol... You shouldn't let it bother you....They hate it more when you don't acknowledge what they say....What's the saying? Sticks and stones......




trust me names can hurt too.....a lot longer than the bruises last....bruises fade and go away but the words still remain.....


Names can only hurt you if you LET them hurt you. They are just words, hon. Words coming from people that don't matter anyway.



not when they come from someone who supposedly loves you....


Someone who "supposedly" loves you is not the same as someone who "really" loves you. You need to care about the words coming from the people who love you. The rest...eh...they can F off.


guess I have never really been loved then........

bashajones's photo
Thu 08/21/14 04:29 PM








.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


It doesn't make me want to rip my hair out but rather punch someone square in the face when they call me a whore, slut, cheap, or a b#tch...I see red when I am called those things. When someone assumes they know me and are talking out their azz......


People are always talking out there azz...lol... You shouldn't let it bother you....They hate it more when you don't acknowledge what they say....What's the saying? Sticks and stones......




trust me names can hurt too.....a lot longer than the bruises last....bruises fade and go away but the words still remain.....


Names can only hurt you if you LET them hurt you. They are just words, hon. Words coming from people that don't matter anyway.



not when they come from someone who supposedly loves you....


Someone who "supposedly" loves you is not the same as someone who "really" loves you. You need to care about the words coming from the people who love you. The rest...eh...they can F off.


guess I have never really been loved then........


You sound very hurt. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm just trying to get you to care about yourself more. Don't give people who don't love you the power to hurt you with words or names. You have control of it. You just have to use that control. Sorry if I say too much...

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Thu 08/21/14 04:38 PM









.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


It doesn't make me want to rip my hair out but rather punch someone square in the face when they call me a whore, slut, cheap, or a b#tch...I see red when I am called those things. When someone assumes they know me and are talking out their azz......


People are always talking out there azz...lol... You shouldn't let it bother you....They hate it more when you don't acknowledge what they say....What's the saying? Sticks and stones......




trust me names can hurt too.....a lot longer than the bruises last....bruises fade and go away but the words still remain.....


Names can only hurt you if you LET them hurt you. They are just words, hon. Words coming from people that don't matter anyway.



not when they come from someone who supposedly loves you....


Someone who "supposedly" loves you is not the same as someone who "really" loves you. You need to care about the words coming from the people who love you. The rest...eh...they can F off.


guess I have never really been loved then........


You sound very hurt. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm just trying to get you to care about yourself more. Don't give people who don't love you the power to hurt you with words or names. You have control of it. You just have to use that control. Sorry if I say too much...



no no I am fine......was just saying words do sting and last longer than bruises, I have had both and you are right I allowed it to happen, because I felt I deserved it, but have learned I am better than that and deserve more.....thx for your words

bashajones's photo
Thu 08/21/14 04:43 PM










.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


It doesn't make me want to rip my hair out but rather punch someone square in the face when they call me a whore, slut, cheap, or a b#tch...I see red when I am called those things. When someone assumes they know me and are talking out their azz......


People are always talking out there azz...lol... You shouldn't let it bother you....They hate it more when you don't acknowledge what they say....What's the saying? Sticks and stones......




trust me names can hurt too.....a lot longer than the bruises last....bruises fade and go away but the words still remain.....


Names can only hurt you if you LET them hurt you. They are just words, hon. Words coming from people that don't matter anyway.



not when they come from someone who supposedly loves you....


Someone who "supposedly" loves you is not the same as someone who "really" loves you. You need to care about the words coming from the people who love you. The rest...eh...they can F off.


guess I have never really been loved then........


You sound very hurt. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm just trying to get you to care about yourself more. Don't give people who don't love you the power to hurt you with words or names. You have control of it. You just have to use that control. Sorry if I say too much...



no no I am fine......was just saying words do sting and last longer than bruises, I have had both and you are right I allowed it to happen, because I felt I deserved it, but have learned I am better than that and deserve more.....thx for your words


You're welcome. Us girls gotta stick together, right?....Message me if you ever wanna chat. K?

no photo
Thu 08/21/14 04:46 PM











.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


It doesn't make me want to rip my hair out but rather punch someone square in the face when they call me a whore, slut, cheap, or a b#tch...I see red when I am called those things. When someone assumes they know me and are talking out their azz......


People are always talking out there azz...lol... You shouldn't let it bother you....They hate it more when you don't acknowledge what they say....What's the saying? Sticks and stones......




trust me names can hurt too.....a lot longer than the bruises last....bruises fade and go away but the words still remain.....


Names can only hurt you if you LET them hurt you. They are just words, hon. Words coming from people that don't matter anyway.



not when they come from someone who supposedly loves you....


Someone who "supposedly" loves you is not the same as someone who "really" loves you. You need to care about the words coming from the people who love you. The rest...eh...they can F off.


guess I have never really been loved then........


You sound very hurt. I'm not trying to make you feel bad. I'm just trying to get you to care about yourself more. Don't give people who don't love you the power to hurt you with words or names. You have control of it. You just have to use that control. Sorry if I say too much...



no no I am fine......was just saying words do sting and last longer than bruises, I have had both and you are right I allowed it to happen, because I felt I deserved it, but have learned I am better than that and deserve more.....thx for your words


You're welcome. Us girls gotta stick together, right?....Message me if you ever wanna chat. K?



will do:thumbsup: ....thxflowerforyou

jacktrades's photo
Thu 08/21/14 04:47 PM
Edited by jacktrades on Thu 08/21/14 04:49 PM
Someone who abuses animals mad or bully's of any sort.

Awatersign's photo
Thu 08/21/14 05:18 PM
Edited by Awatersign on Thu 08/21/14 05:19 PM

seeing people shouting and swearing at children I saw that the other day actually and I wanted to rip her weave of explode the child only wanted new shoes and was just asking her.
Lol i know the feeling,i get that feeling when i see parents refuse to take control of there rude kids,maybe your situation was diferent,but somthimes i feel you NEED to shout at your kids,if not just make sure they respect you and understand you,its sopose to make them better as they grow into adult!

0ldhag's photo
Thu 08/21/14 05:25 PM
Edited by 0ldhag on Thu 08/21/14 05:26 PM

.....what is it that really ,i mean like REALLY set it off with you,like what actually makes you want to rip the hair out of your F&$&@N head?


Well, with my ex it was when I didn't have the potatoes done at the same time as the chicken. That warranted throwing the plate of food against the wall, and probably he was plotting my murder the same time.

For me....mmm...not sure. When I dislike something I leave.

Last time I was so angry was at my mom lol She wanted to have her friend over to the house that I was renting a room from. She didn't understand that you can't invite friends over to a place where you don't live, and just because her daughter lives there doesn't mean my rent covers her friends...but yes, that was the maddest I have been in a very long time...

mom333's photo
Thu 08/21/14 05:28 PM


seeing people shouting and swearing at children I saw that the other day actually and I wanted to rip her weave of explode the child only wanted new shoes and was just asking her.
Lol i know the feeling,i get that feeling when i see parents refuse to take control of there rude kids,maybe your situation was diferent,but somthimes i feel you NEED to shout at your kids,if not just make sure they respect you and understand you,its sopose to make them better as they grow into adult!
ive always been honest with my kids and ive always given them choices for instance very calmly I said as soon as they were old enough to know right from wrong...if you disrespect me shout at me roll your eyes at me go in my purse not help around the house or not clean up your room, ill take something of yours and sell it, and with the money ill get something for myself. lets just say my kids rooms are full to the brim with stuff because Ive only ever had to sell 3 things, and the onsie im in right now was a Justin beiber hoodie :banana: oh and a bit of shouting helps to but now I only really have to do it on school runs lol

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Thu 08/21/14 05:31 PM
I get really angry when I am driving. There are too many bad drivers in my area and I find myself with potty mouth when I get on the roads lately. So many of them roll past stop signs to the point where they look like they are going to hit my car.

Also, it isn't fun to be woken up at midnight on my land line to someone who wants to make a sale. That just made me more angry and called his supervisor.

Awatersign's photo
Thu 08/21/14 06:16 PM



seeing people shouting and swearing at children I saw that the other day actually and I wanted to rip her weave of explode the child only wanted new shoes and was just asking her.
Lol i know the feeling,i get that feeling when i see parents refuse to take control of there rude kids,maybe your situation was diferent,but somthimes i feel you NEED to shout at your kids,if not just make sure they respect you and understand you,its sopose to make them better as they grow into adult!
ive always been honest with my kids and ive always given them choices for instance very calmly I said as soon as they were old enough to know right from wrong...if you disrespect me shout at me roll your eyes at me go in my purse not help around the house or not clean up your room, ill take something of yours and sell it, and with the money ill get something for myself. lets just say my kids rooms are full to the brim with stuff because Ive only ever had to sell 3 things, and the onsie im in right now was a Justin beiber hoodie :banana: oh and a bit of shouting helps to but now I only really have to do it on school runs lol
Ok cool,you sound like you a great mom!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: flowerforyou

mom333's photo
Thu 08/21/14 06:24 PM




seeing people shouting and swearing at children I saw that the other day actually and I wanted to rip her weave of explode the child only wanted new shoes and was just asking her.
Lol i know the feeling,i get that feeling when i see parents refuse to take control of there rude kids,maybe your situation was diferent,but somthimes i feel you NEED to shout at your kids,if not just make sure they respect you and understand you,its sopose to make them better as they grow into adult!
ive always been honest with my kids and ive always given them choices for instance very calmly I said as soon as they were old enough to know right from wrong...if you disrespect me shout at me roll your eyes at me go in my purse not help around the house or not clean up your room, ill take something of yours and sell it, and with the money ill get something for myself. lets just say my kids rooms are full to the brim with stuff because Ive only ever had to sell 3 things, and the onsie im in right now was a Justin beiber hoodie :banana: oh and a bit of shouting helps to but now I only really have to do it on school runs lol
Ok cool,you sound like you a great mom!:thumbsup: :thumbsup: flowerforyou
flowerforyou

Rock's photo
Fri 08/22/14 07:15 PM
Losing temper, is losing control.

It's much more fun, to react coldly and calmly.

Dodo_David's photo
Fri 08/22/14 08:03 PM

Losing temper, is losing control.

It's much more fun, to react coldly and calmly.


:thumbsup:

Mortica7's photo
Sat 08/23/14 08:52 AM
When educated people ask me questions based on racial stereotypes and are clueless to how ignorant they sound. My life nor the lives of ANYONE I know is depicted in a freaking rap video.

mom333's photo
Sat 08/23/14 11:40 AM

When educated people ask me questions based on racial stereotypes and are clueless to how ignorant they sound. My life nor the lives of ANYONE I know is depicted in a freaking rap video.
I hate that too like just because I'm black I must be able to cook Jamaican food and listen to rap music, and in fact I cant and don't do either. :)
well put :banana:

Reemasah's photo
Sat 08/23/14 03:42 PM
Lawyers , Politician and racism

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Sun 08/24/14 01:38 AM
Patients being humiliated by nurses.

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