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ok but before I answer your question I have a question for you.. what was your grade on your report card..  
I don't think I have been graded yet |
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well safe to say.. I think you are Grade A..no1..
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Why must I fill out a report card before meeting a man. I have been asked to answer 20 questions. Yet he hasn't answered those same 20 questions for me. I find it scary to give out to much information about myself before we meet especially when he has told me he is falling for me, how can that be when we havn't met. With me I want the meet first if there is no spark it is not going any further. Like you, I'd rather meet first to see if there is a spark...The 20 questions can wait until you meet...If this guy is falling for you before you even meet, I'd consider either meeting him real soon or not at all... Anyone that falls for somebody without meeting them first has issues...Big, huge, humungus issues... Clingy, needy, overreative, probably possessive, are just a few of the adjectives about this guy that come to mind. Yes that was what I was thinking to he is also widowed and I think desperate this is scary yes, it is scary...I would say that for each 10 yrs. of marriage the surviving spouse needs about 1 year of 'me' time before getting involved with another long term relationship... If he is still talking up his spouse, he's not ready for a relationship...If he's falling for you too quickly, that is scary as it reeks of neediness that only time can heal.... I recommend you tread lightly with this guy and keep your emotions in check.... OK now he has been widowed 6 years and I have only been widowed 2 1/2 but was married for 38 years and yes I still talk about my spouse so maybe I am the one that is not ready. maybe just a friend with benefits |
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I think we are off topic now the question originally was why do men ask so many questions before wanting to meet is it because they have something better to do with their time?
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Edited by
Dennismiller123
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Sun 08/10/14 02:51 PM
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I think we are off topic now the question originally was why do men ask so many questions before wanting to meet is it because they have something better to do with their time? This is a tricky one. To be honest, I think the guys who do not ask many questions but ask to meet up asap are only after one thing (Ice Cream). In this case I would suggest you lift up your skirt, tuck it in your pants and run really fast. On the other hand if they are asking you lots of questions it is a good thing because they are showing interest, concern, respect and making sure you tick all the right boxes. |
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I think we are off topic now the question originally was why do men ask so many questions before wanting to meet is it because they have something better to do with their time? This is a tricky one. To be honest, I think the guys who do not ask many questions but ask to meet up asap are only after one thing (Ice Cream). In this case I would suggest you lift up your skirt, tuck it in your pants and run really fast. On the other hand if they are asking you lots of questions it is a good thing because they are showing interest, concern, respect and making sure you tick all the right boxes. I agree if they show interest before asking for skype or yahoo, it makes a difference. 
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I am amazed how many sensitive, nice people are in some of these forums - I am new here and I didn't expect this, because I haven't met a man who would match me and my age, but lots of nice men and women otherwise.
Some one who had lots of experience in online meeting/dating, mid age, American, told me if I ever go on dating on line, I should know that there are lots of mental health cases online, hence, "watch" - and that was long ago, now, there are scammers, users, crooks, con artists, PLUS mental health cases, people on drugs, drunks, and those who are needy, greedy, selfish, and those who have not worked out their issues with previous relations. It is simplistic to even expect that MOST people on these sites to be Wholly healthy and balanced (all aspects)- do we ever think why we are single? May be we need to change something about "me" or grow personally, emotionally, spiritually? Yes, there are nice people here who are single because the other one didn't grow. Yet, the nicest people I found in a city, with a culture of suppressing emotions, were in the nerves hospital - philosophers, poets, educated, thinkers, heart people. Our modern technology oriented societies, encouraging to be competitive, measuring our successes by the level of tax we pay, and our identity being a number, not our names (which means something), does push those more sensitive among us to nerves break down! Do I remember how to feel my feelings? Do you? |
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I think that men ask questions to try to show an interest and give you something to reply to. Speaking for myself, I'm not particularly interested in the answer to any question apart from, "Do you want to go out with me?" That isn't about just wanting sex. I want to know if there's chemistry as well and I have very little interest in just chatting online because you can't get to know somebody properly like that and it's certainly not a relationship.
It is usually the women wasting time like that though, even though the majority of them don't actually ask questions and they tend to be rather poor at holding up their end of a conversation on these sites. If they will meet you it's often just an impulsive thing and acting impulsively is something that crazy people do, so they can be your best bet of getting anything out of this. Sometimes I suppose that you do have to play the "connection building" game with them because they won't meet you otherwise and I guess that telling someone that you're falling for them (or something like that) could be a ploy to get a date. |
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ok so we are supposed to answer all of these questions his list had 20 questions of which I have answered 10 and he has answered 10 and I believe the meet is for next weekend we will wait and see.
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have cancelled the meeting, stopped to look at past emails figuring maybe I was playing games or leading him on and that wasn't the case at all. So decided this was more than I had bargained for and have bailed, this is the second meeting I have had to cancel and am beginning to think about getting off the site.
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Asking questions shows interest. If he's not asking you questions, then he probably just wants to sleep with you.....lol....I'm so tired...
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yes well we have answered all the questions and now he is in love give me a break, we have still not met and I can tell you now it is not going to happen
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