Any smokers here who dislike non-smoker's lectures about so called healthy life?
Aren't those lectures funny when they come from people who drink more than just occasionally?
I'd say those are double standards, since drinking is more acceptable in a society than smoking.
What is your opinion?

Hey, if smokers want to pollute their lungs within the privacy of their own homes, then so be it.

I'm a smoker
and in fact I can not wait till my first smoke break I'm looking forward to it...
although that will not be for another 2 hours lol.
(At work)


Yes...hate the lectures...

It annoys me how they will blame any ailment on smoking, even when there's no evidence and it's just a theory. Some nurse told my sister that a baby can die just from smelling it on your clothes and I wasn't allowed near my niece until she was a few months old. I've also got this crackpot living in the flat above mine that keeps complaining about me smoking and trying to make out that it's getting into his house and giving him health problems. The man is mental.

Which opinion are you looking for?

Does it happen, sure.

Do I dislike the lecture? Honestly it doesn't bother me. I typically reply back to a statement of "smoking is bad for your health" with a statement of "me not smoking is bad for yours"

As far as the double standard ... who am I to judge another's perceived faults?

i have lost friends and loved ones to the slow death addiction----

The only thing, I would add to this is...
Smokers are like people with Tattoos... ((also like myself))
We don't hate on people for not having tattoo's.. nor do we smokers
Hate on you for not smoking.....just a frivolous thought..




....just saw this....I love fresh air..beautiful...
Even better with coffee and a ciggy

just an add on: when I am out and about I try.. to be very respectful to people that do not smoke and I walk very far away.

I really do walk far away..out of respect.
((((klc))))

I pay my own bills so it's none of their business...

Why would anyone need an excuse for having a choice and taking it?
Just like 2KidsMom I accept and respect my friends as they are, whether they smoke or not, have tattoos or not, etc. They are what they are and they are my friends.
Perhaps I do not approve some things in their life-style, but hey, that's their life, so... why lecture them?
I never smoke in my non-smoking friend's home or car, but when they come to my place they know I shall have a cigarette with a coffee. Guess what, they come and do not complain, just as I never complain when I visit them.

(((((hugs))))and Thank you
It would be an honor;)))))

Exactly..

Hummm I'm an ex smoker they say those are the worse on complaining about smokers.. But then I think those theory's are wrong. I have many friends that smoke. You will never hear me give them the lecture about smoking..

I know what it feels like to get up in the mornings and grab a cig before I even have my eyes opened. Or what it is like that you must have that smoke after a meal.

Hell I enjoyed smoking believe it or not it calmed me down and yes I even enjoyed the taste....

I quit when my first grand daughter was born, will be 12 years this coming Jan.... Due to she was born a preemie and her lungs were not fully developed..When the Dr. came out to talk to us his first question was where is she going home and is there anyone that smokes in the house. They lived with me and yes I smoked in my house. I was told her tiny lungs could not take the smoke..

She was under oxygen for a week in the hospital.

I went outside shortly after he told me this...yes to have a smoke...Went home had several more I was close to the end of the pack. By the next day I had made a choice to put them down. Not for my health but for my grand daughters...

Quit cold turkey and was smoking 3 packs a day...

It was the best choice that I ever made.

Does not mean that others should, no. Just be respectful towards those that do not..

I don't allow smoking in my house or car anymore...

I have a patio or back yard they are welcome to puff away outside...

It does no good to lecture anyone on a bad habit they have, it only makes it worse. Only the person that is doing it can change things. If they enjoy it leave them be..

Cancer is not always from cigarettes had a uncle at 21 years old died of lung cancer never picked up a cigarette in his life and no one in the family smoked..

Well, that's how it started, with him telling me that it was coming in through his window. I even offered to close my window but that wasn't good enough for him and now the nutter is trying to say that the smoke is getting in through his floor, which is BS and not possible.

Yes, I apreciate fresh air and I even do yoga, which involves a lot of breathing but I can do healthy things and still have vices as well. For me it's about getting the balance and not overdoing either.

Thanks for your welcome back. I've been around but I'm a bit fed up with forums, to tell you the truth.

Many people find smokers rude and not tolerant enough. I'd like to tell you about one of my recent experiences, if I may?
I have a friend who is a catholic, but unlike me, but VERY, V E R Y religious. He never misses an opportunity to make a comment followed by a quote from a Bible.
I am more spiritual than religious, but I understand that he has been through a lot and faith helps him find an inner strength to keep going. If it works for him, that's fine.
The problem is that many of my friends are not religious at all and he is sometimes pushy with those comments. Some people felt hurt after his remarks. He is just honest and doesn't want to hurt or, God forbid, insult anyone, but simply does not understand that those comments sometimes wouldn't be quite appropriate.
I talked to him and tried to explain why some of our friends are reacting the way they are, but his response came as a surprise to me. He was "equally annoyed" by smoking in my place (?) and made a suggestion.
If we restrain from smoking he gave a word he will leave religious topics alone. I agreed and stopped smoking immediately. So did others who smoked. Guess who couldn't keep the word for too long?
He not only got back to making the comments he promises not to make, but also yelled at us because "we smokers are such a great sinners"!?
Hmmmm ... What to say... I do love my friend and accept his religious feelings. I am even ready not to smoke in my home when he comes over for a visit, if that is such a big deal, but is this type of behaviour on his side acceptable?
I think not.He was the rude one, not us! And now he doesn't want to come over anymore because of us smokers who are "too much to handle"!? That was an example of lectures nobody needs or wants.
Thank you for reading!

Ouch! I hope this topic was not the last drop? I do not know why you decided to leave, but there is always an option to change your mind and come back. I appreciate your comments and it would be pity to see you leave us for good.

I've learned to just ignore those that wanna lecture about me smoking, or for that matter if they wanna start preaching to me about religion. I just tell them, "So what?! I'm going to Hell in a handbasket, smoking and toking all the way." Seems to me that kinda shuts them up....

Yes. I understand. I am just sad because I think I lost a friend who turned to religion to get all the answers he needs. We are both nominally Catholics, but religion does not have such an important place in my life and I allow a possibility that others may be equally right or wrong in their beliefs. After all, we shall find out after we die. Sadly, as much as religion helped him get through the hard times, it also made him more judgemental and less tolerant for other people's points of views and choices in life. Now all of his friends that are smokers are not acceptable anymore...
Next thing I expect to see is him wearing one of these shirts.

I agree...Excuse making is not sound reasoning...I don't mind people that smoke...just not in my face...besides done in moderation, just like drinking is much more acceptable...excessive anything is 'unhealthy'...and you are right, lectures are not needed, self-control is needed

That's where it's his problem, nobody else's. We can't change other people's thoughts, we can only accept them or not.

This was meant to answer the shirt.... I type to slow on my phone...