How can I be sure if you're real and not fake/scam?

Just watch for Red Flags..
Asking for money
Asking for you to talk off site
Asking for your personal information
Etc...


Welcome to Mingle2

Welcome to Mingle,(haney Bulacan expression.)

Do any of us? Another warning sign, would be anyone with the word 'Nice' in their username. If anyone needs to convince you that they're nice, then there's a problem right there. Niceness should shine through naturally. Not be used a tactic. I know people say they're nice, to try and rope vulnerable people in. I try to make sure never to use a dating site, if I end up feeling unstable in any way. The last thing you need is anyone taking advantage of you. And I can be one of the most hardest people to convince. I've got my bs scanner on alert much more than people think I do. I'm not one to be messed with. Make sure YOU aren't, either ;)

Thanks for the replies, now I know what to look for.. i'm a bit of snobbish when it comes to strangers and this is the 1st time I've tried a dating site so it's still weird for me lol!

Join in the forums, it's great way to get to know peoples personalities.

As for being a bit snobbish, don't worry, I'm English, stiff upper lip and that malarky.
I'm not as posh as the Queen mind you.

A guy asking you to go on whatsapp is definitely a phony....

Really I'd say, might be stereotyping, but I'd say anyone that says more then something along the lines of "Hi, how you doin. Noticed you in the searches and thought I'd strike up a convo." Or something of such is probably a bot, or a "scammer" and not really a person looking for a date or gf/bf, or anything real like that.

This is what I have experienced...jmo

It's pretty much a scammer when they start off the conversation with 'Hello Dear'...

Simply meet them in person.

Isn't that dangerous if you meet with a scammer?

Pay me five dollah and I tell you if they are fake.

My advice is to get involved in the forum, that way you will meet real people. Then when you get messages from non forum members apply the rules as layed out above.
You don't need to leave the site to chat this is an excellent place to stay and converse with people......and rely on your own intuition as well.
I am sure if you still have concerns many of us are here for advice.

Welcome and stay safe.

as people have already said, get to know people in the forums. look at what they say across the spectrum of different topics. even those who claim to be real contradict themselves in the comments they make.

if someone messages you that might catch your attention, have conversations in the private messages.
the same as you would do in the offline world, find out their ideas on topics that matter to each other.
most of all don't be in a hurry. it takes time to know people.

Thanks for the advice!

MOST woman dont want to meet in person right away,understanding, it could be some dirt bag just wanting sex,might be a shock to some,butt MOST woman dont want just sex,mainly just little boys that dont know how to treat a woman,

if you get to the point where you meet in person, I recommend you choose to meet at a mutual place.
I've met in person 2 people from here. when I did, we agreed on what we wanted to do and met a that particular place. plus just to be on the safe side, I informed 2 people of where I would be. you are, after all, meeting a complete stranger for the first time.

That's why I'm afraid of meeting strangers, I do have trust issues, I've been fooled, cheated and almost got scammed.. I've thought that I'll just give up on dating.. But got lonely so I'm trying this site and now I'm following your advice to be on forums which I did and liked! :)

I find that military men are ususally scams.

Also when they are 'working' in Nigeria. Scam.

Also when they fall in love with you and you haven't even met.

Also when they keep emailing you saying stuff like they are sorry they didn't get back to you sooner and your love will endure etc and you've never had contact with the person ever.