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| Topic: Just had a FAB idea!! What do u all think??!!! | |
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I or someone really should set up a website so people can name and shame the players and jerks who make dating harder for the people who are actually serious about finding someone, sick of being used, lied to and told exactly what i want to hear to get the only thing they are looking for, until they realize that some women/men actually have morals and wont sleep with someone without protection then being told the most ridiculous excuses going. Why cant people be honest nowadays, its not difficult, If your just after one thing why not just say so then you know exactly what to expect and where its going. Saves a hell of alot of time!! Anyone agree!?! 
unfortunately, certain things are not 'provable' , like how much of a jerk someone is, that is usually hearsay type testimony however there are other 'provable' type offenses like arrests or lack of child support payments which have websites listing the alleged offenders,,,, Since when have "provable" offenses been of any service in this type of forum...or in real life for that matter. In the legal system, even if the person is "proved" guilty, it does not predict the outcome of any relationship for that person, period. If they are deceptive, they will continue to be such which is beyond any "other" persons ability to control. They are what and who they are! I actually wasn't referring to this forum specifically but to the legal problems with a dedicated WEBSITE for sharing bad experiences with people and using their names,, it opens the door for plenty of lawsuits, because it goes towards libel and damaging reputations,,, So, in essence your answer to the OP is "No" you don't agree I presume 
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I or someone really should set up a website so people can name and shame the players and jerks who make dating harder for the people who are actually serious about finding someone, sick of being used, lied to and told exactly what i want to hear to get the only thing they are looking for, until they realize that some women/men actually have morals and wont sleep with someone without protection then being told the most ridiculous excuses going. Why cant people be honest nowadays, its not difficult, If your just after one thing why not just say so then you know exactly what to expect and where its going. Saves a hell of alot of time!! Anyone agree!?!
unfortunately, certain things are not 'provable' , like how much of a jerk someone is, that is usually hearsay type testimony however there are other 'provable' type offenses like arrests or lack of child support payments which have websites listing the alleged offenders,,,, Since when have "provable" offenses been of any service in this type of forum...or in real life for that matter. In the legal system, even if the person is "proved" guilty, it does not predict the outcome of any relationship for that person, period. If they are deceptive, they will continue to be such which is beyond any "other" persons ability to control. They are what and who they are! I actually wasn't referring to this forum specifically but to the legal problems with a dedicated WEBSITE for sharing bad experiences with people and using their names,, it opens the door for plenty of lawsuits, because it goes towards libel and damaging reputations,,, So, in essence your answer to the OP is "No" you don't agree I presume
not at all, I actually relate to and empathize with the idea, I just understand it would be an undertaking full of legal obstacles,,,, |
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I or someone really should set up a website so people can name and shame the players and jerks who make dating harder for the people who are actually serious about finding someone, sick of being used, lied to and told exactly what i want to hear to get the only thing they are looking for, until they realize that some women/men actually have morals and wont sleep with someone without protection then being told the most ridiculous excuses going. Why cant people be honest nowadays, its not difficult, If your just after one thing why not just say so then you know exactly what to expect and where its going. Saves a hell of alot of time!! Anyone agree!?!
unfortunately, certain things are not 'provable' , like how much of a jerk someone is, that is usually hearsay type testimony however there are other 'provable' type offenses like arrests or lack of child support payments which have websites listing the alleged offenders,,,, Since when have "provable" offenses been of any service in this type of forum...or in real life for that matter. In the legal system, even if the person is "proved" guilty, it does not predict the outcome of any relationship for that person, period. If they are deceptive, they will continue to be such which is beyond any "other" persons ability to control. They are what and who they are! I actually wasn't referring to this forum specifically but to the legal problems with a dedicated WEBSITE for sharing bad experiences with people and using their names,, it opens the door for plenty of lawsuits, because it goes towards libel and damaging reputations,,, So, in essence your answer to the OP is "No" you don't agree I presume
not at all, I actually relate to and empathize with the idea, I just understand it would be an undertaking full of legal obstacles,,,, Path of least resistance maybe? |
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legal path,, for certain,, in most circumstances,,,
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So im not a responsible adult?? And i NEVER said i was a victim! Ive spend 13 years in an abusive relationship and took me to realize i need to open myself up to find someone who is going to treat me with respect.
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Having children was not the point i was making, I was making the point of HIV, Clymidia etc....
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Just had a fab idea - what do you think? I think we should be selective about the ideas we promote. I or someone really should set up a website so people can name and shame the players and jerks who make dating harder for the people who are actually serious about finding someone, sick of being used, lied to and told exactly what i want to hear to get the only thing they are looking for, until they realize that some women/men actually have morals and wont sleep with someone without protection then being told the most ridiculous excuses going. What if someone created a website so people could name and shame the players who easily or continually fall for the jerks they let use them? I think people in the dating arena are pretty savvy when it pertains to the lies they choose to believe simply because they subconsciously hope there's something in it for them to do so. Men/women that actually HAVE morals can readily distinguish between those who have them too, or not. And anyone sexually active whether they have puritan or alley cat values should always use protection. If they don't they can't blame the consequences on anybody else but themselves. Personally, I don't think the jerks make it harder for the players to find someone they can develop a serious relationship with. In fact, jerks make it easier and quicker to recognize behavioral traits we want to avoid from jump street, imo. Why cant people be honest nowadays, its not difficult, If your just after one thing why not just say so then you know exactly what to expect and where its going. Saves a hell of alot of time!! Anyone agree!?!
Being honest with ourselves about what we're really looking for on a dating site will help to keep those who might only want one thing at arms lengths until we decide its time to accept or decline. Responsible adults don't see themselves as victims of others games, but as willing participants in the exchanges it takes to discover if another is what we're looking for or not. IMO. So im not a responsible adult?? And i NEVER said i was a victim! Ive spend 13 years in an abusive relationship and took me to realize i need to open myself up to find someone who is going to treat me with respect. From the opening topic you thought it was a fabulous idea to publicly shame other people. So "no" I don't think this is an adult or a responsible thing to do. I can understand if you're just coming out of a bad relationship and you feel like venting. But trying to hurt people while you're going through the healing process would probably backfire. As for seeing ourselves as being a victim in the dating games we play and lose sometimes, I am merely generalizing not directing my comments "at" you. I was trying to be helpful not hurtful. 
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Im not going through the 'healing process', And i am an adult who is responsible, Im sick of people thinking its fun, deliberately hurting people and playing games with other peoples feelings, telling them what they want to hear, instead of actually being honest with them so they know their intentions, just to get what they want ie sex. People who find it difficult to trust after difficult times or experiences are always the ones who get hurt, and used, and when they are told the ridiculous lines that are used to brush someone off because they arent willing to sleep with them so soon or sleep with them without protection, they feel even worse about themselves making it 1. Harder for the person to trust again, and 2. Making it harder for the person who actually genuinely means what they say to the other person. I wasn't trying to publicly shame and hurt people but to warn other daters that they need to be careful. And by the way im not just talking about my experiences.
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I apologize if I offended you that wasn't my intent. I also hope you find what you're looking for either here on M2 or in your life offline.
Warm regards...
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