Wow, you have met every guy and know what he wants. Amazing!

I agree because a lot of them just write what they see others have written and they may want more but need someone to get inside the "walls" to see that


and.....sometime they just wanna hook up

but ya gotta talk to 'em to figger it out

Im pretty much in a position in my life where all i can do is look for fun,, I dont have the amount of time I need to put into a serious relationship ,,Im taking care of my mom and if that werent enough I also have two mentally handicapped brothers I have to help take care of.

As far as me I am looking for something serious but in the past even a casual encounter eventually turns serious, you start to have feelings for the woman and things change. One of the few benefits of middle age is that the wild times are in the past and its easier to say I am looking for something real.

Takes that governor off the goof filter.

I've been looking for something serious for quite some time, I can just never find anything and eventually just plain give up. I'm not one for sex, a few times is ok but it's not like that's all I'm looking for, I've got a lot of love to give but it seems to me that no body wants it.

yes i agree , and there is some people have real intention to find their partners but their partners looking for something else isnt it ? ....

first of all, if you want to really understand guys, stop thinking we will behave like women. In most cases, women will have to love or at least like a guy to have sex with him. In most cases, guys are on the opposite side - we can "have fun" without attaching some feelings to the whole thing. It really is just a fun, no strings attached. Don't expect us to start behaving as if we came from a Jane Austen book. But more often than not, physical intimacy will lead to awakening feelings and greater emotional impact. Don't assume that every guy that "wants to have fun" is a womanizing son of a *****. He just wants the opportunity to get to know you without having to plan the wedding after a week. It's just the way it is. Men and women are wired differently concerning just about everything, so why would this area be an exception? Give them the benefit of the doubt, maybe some guy surprises you :)

Define easier option.

achilles1972 wrote:
'first of all, if you want to really understand guys, stop thinking we will behave like women. In most cases, women will have to love or at least like a guy to have sex with him. In most cases, guys are on the opposite side - we can "have fun" without attaching some feelings to the whole thing. It really is just a fun, no strings attached. Don't expect us to start behaving as if we came from a Jane Austen book. But more often than not, physical intimacy will lead to awakening feelings and greater emotional impact. Don't assume that every guy that "wants to have fun" is a womanizing son of a *****. He just wants the opportunity to get to know you without having to plan the wedding after a week. It's just the way it is. Men and women are wired differently concerning just about everything, so why would this area be an exception? Give them the benefit of the doubt, maybe some guy surprises you :)"
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So, have sex with them and see what comes out of it. Is that what you are saying? LOL

I partially disagree. While true, not every man that wants a hook-up is a "womanizer", some men and women are wired very similarly. Masculine and feminine traits exist in both men and women. That being said, when I see a girl saying they are looking for "prince charming", a "soul mate" or a new husband, my internal drama protection system sets off a huge red flag.

Weak minded men op....run....

When a guy wants a family like I do. But. Is so use to girls using them. We figure **** it. Love must not be real.... bc I mean all these bitchs who **** me over. So y try any more to get a family or be a familyman when ****ing someone is easier n less heart breaking

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Hi Shelby, my name is Dan. While I cannot speak intelligently for others I will speak for myself. The guys who go to legitimate Dating sites and peruse for sex piss me off because it ruins the integrity of the site, making it difficult for the real guys like myself to find that special someone we are truly looking for.

Well, I haven't really had much luck with relationships and it's always the women telling me that they don't want anything serious. I do think that it's better to just start off casual anyway though and it really isn't just men that think that way. I don't really see what's so bad about a casual relationship though. It can be very romantic. You're spending time together, with the emphasis on having fun.

At the end of the day though, it's not so black and white. It wasn't really happening with my last girlfriend as far as it becoming a proper relationship goes but I still did things like visiting her in hospital and trying to be supportive and caring because she had a lot of problems. I really liked her but I just wasn't counting on it working out and I was just taking it for what it was. It's not me messing these women about or playing them and I could say that it seems to me that most women don't want anything serious but maybe they just don't want anything serious with me. That's how it seems to me anyway and if my options really are being a guy that women just want to have fun with or sitting on my own pulling my plonker, I know what I'm going to go for.

i want fun too , but don't want the one night stands or to be a toy , i have never done the one night stands and never want to,

I want the whole package , till death do us part (and no that doesn't mean i am looking for some one to kill me)
and i don't believe in sharing the one i am with (as some do , to each there own i don't judge)

but i do agree i see it a lot on both side's men and females wanting one night hook ups , i have got a few emails myself <shrug>
kinda boost to my ego but still not something i am interested in

Guys these days are afraid of any commitment. They find the second way easy, i.e. casual sex. And vice-versa is also true. Girls too hate commitment these days, not all but there are many, people have to accept it.

Its the weak mentality of people who go for shortcuts. Any relation needs time to nurture it. Trust is the most imp. thing I should say.