I was in a long distance relationship for 6 years. I ended it a year ago..I continued to talk to him for a couple months after but it was always say thing. So I finally quit talking his calls and texts over 10 months ago. Yet he still continues to call asking me to please call. What would make a guy keep doing that? I don't mean to sound harsh there's good reason I stopped but why wouldn't one tske the hint?

well sweety ill tell you. i havent a clue why any body does this. it really creeps me out when a woman does not get it.maybe your so nice kind hearted that he thinks he can disrespect you i this manner. if a gal says its not working out for what ever reason. the pain the hert keeps me from wanting to pick up the phone. why would i want to here any moor hertful words. ps ill stop texting you..lol

Men do not understand hints and subtlety as easily as direct speech. I defer to 2469nascar in this case. Be assertive bydsaying that you need him to stop the messages and calls. (Not aggressive, assertive.) It's not rude. It's clear communication.

Well did you give him a straight answer? In a sense; "I don't want us to be friends anymore" or "I would like us to go our separate ways now"

Because he may not understand why you suddenly stopped talking to him? And he could be seeking closure. If you did tell him straight and clear that you didn't want to talk to him anymore, then perhaps he has feelings for you that are hard to simply forget and he involuntarily finds himself wanting to be in your life still...

Either way, I think you should make the message clear that you either do or don't wish to talk to him. Perhaps because you spoke to him briefly after your relationship ended has given him mixed signals that it's still fine for you both to be friends and he may just genuinely be confused as to why you suddenly stopped talking to him?

Just be simple and straight forward with him if you haven't told him that you want to stop talking and if you have, then just ignore him or reiterate the fact that you don't wish to speak to him anymore.

Some people have issues letting things go. He maybe one of them.

If u don't want anything more with him (romantic), keep doing what ur doing. If u take a call, or send a txt, or email (even if ur thinking ur just saying "hi") he is going to think that u want to continue a romantic relationship: specially is u say otherwise!

So, cut all communication or he will continue trying. Or go hook-up with him... ur choice! If u communicate with him, that's what he believes: u will hook-up.

Thanks for your replies. And yes I was very clear to why I was ending it. But then I felt bad abd took his calls for awhile, and tried ti ve friends. But here's the deal he kept asking for phone sex, that's when I flat out said we are no longer even friends so please stop. 10 months later he still calls i just let it go to voicemail. I tried to block but only found something that says reject calls. So although I don't know now when a call is coming in from him, it still leaves a voice message. Still really makes me mad he does it

Could be that he just wants to still have you in his life and continue the relationship in a sence but that he accepts that it's over as far as you being a couple goes. Things can get complicated and people define a "relationship" in different ways. He may not feel that he's overstepping boundaries by doing what he's doing. The problem is though that people are sometimes somewhat disingenuous when they say that they only want to be friends. There are lots of gray areas. When I made friends with my ex girlfriend again we did discuss it and agreed on rules. I think that that's what you need to do if you feel that he's pestering you or overstepping boundaries by calling you so much.

Thank you Tawt and i did try but every conversation led to him wanting phone sex And to me that was disrespecting it all

Yeah, I was typing that before you made that last post. Sounds like he's just not respecting your wishes and probably all that you can do now is just to keep ignoring him.

If you don't change your number, it'll run and run. And I'm sure the police would be telling you the same thing. I just think it's as if they think, it's an open invite, if you keep your old contact number.

He wants to use you as his back-up plan.

It's because you don't want him anymore
he can't face rejection

.6. years.. holy crap.
. I can't even get them to talk to me for 6 . minutes..
.. I am sorry to hear that the relationship ended though. yes some men want to be the one!doing the rejection.. I might think if you were to let him back in. it would not be long before he slam's the door in your face

.. I hit post prematurely..lol..
. if you are truly finished with the relationship.. just tell him in no uncertain. terms.
. that it is over..
and you wish him to move on..
. but yes how do you tell someone to bugger off,,without telling them to bugger off...
. it is a hard one to do.. might make a good topic don't you think..hmm.hi.u..