Well, I did. I don't know how, but I did. He is gone...every Tuesday has been Tequila Tuesday for ever, and he says some of the worst and nastiest things. I let him get away with it. Every time. Maybe to keep the peace. Also, I have never really been alone. Maybe that is why...but, a couple of hours ago, after listening to his crap, I got tired of it. And I never am for physical violence, and don't support it, but if you read my prior post, a person can only take so much. So, I picked him up off the couch and threw him out the door. And then down the stairs ( we only have three steps!) Then, before I lost my nerve, I packed up his car with all of his stuff and parked it at his work.
Now, the panic is starting to set in...how am I going to pay bills, what about my kids....what am I going to say to them in the morning???? Thank god they were asleep through all of it. So, you guys have been so nice and helpful with advice and listening, please keep me in mind when you are bored, or ya just want to chat, because I am not used to being alone and am a little nervous, maybe alot!!! Also, and advice on how to deal with my kids would be helpful....again, thank you all for being, well, here.....

You can do it, the kids are better off without his garbage. Tell them the truth, that daddy is going to live somewhere else. Maddy will understand, she knows from before, and Alex will too eventually.

I will talk to you tomorrow. I am glad you finally stuck up for yourself. Too bad there weren't 8 or 10 stairs, damn I missed the show.

girlllllllllllllllll!!!!! I did it!!! You can do it!!! If you dont have a job now, you can get one!!!! Youre kids are the most important now.........geeeeeeez I had a better life when I left my ex and I do now financially!!!!!!!!! geeeeeeeeeeez girllllllllll you can do it!!!!

Listen, girlfriend, you can do this! I'm not saying it'll be easy but it's most definitely doable and I swear to you, no matter how hard it gets, you won't regret it! And, you're not alone, you have us. I didn't have the same situation you did but when I finally left my husband last year, I had never been alone in my life and I wasn't sure I could do it. But you know, I can. And if I can, you can! And after a while, being alone is pretty freeing, you don't have to walk on the eggshells trying to keep peace, you can have things the way you want, do what you want, think and say what you want. Have faith in yourself, you'll be more than great!

Suz

listen i told you that you can do what you want, go find you what you need to be you and make you happy, and keep the kids happy. all the rest will come. find you a decent man, and you life will fall into place. do what YOU gotta do to be happy.

I am a single mom w/ a 6 and a 4 year old girl and I don't get any help from their Dad! There are days that we struggle but as a whole life is a lot less stressful without him around! You did the right thing for yourself and your children. You wouldn't want them growing up and thinking that a disfunctional relationship is the norm.....if you need anything please feel free to email me!

Good for you Denise. I left my girls' daddy when they were 4 and 5 yrs. old. We have been on our own ever since. Never remarried. He was a real xxxxxxx I'll be nice. Anyway, you can make it without him, Yes, it is going to be hard at first. You have friends and family to help you??????????? I only had my mom. Without her, I don't know what I would have done. I worked 2 jobs for a while, just to make ends meet. Now, I have a great job, pay is ok, the girls are 17 and 18. YOU CAN DO IT, JUST REMEMBER THAT. STAY STRONG AND STAY FOCUSED. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here for ya girl. OK??????????

Good for you Denise !!!!!! It will be hard at first but the rewards are so much better. You won't have to deal with his crap anymore for one, then one day it will dawn on you that the real Denise was sunk down within yourself for so long that you'll give yourself a huge HUG for being able to let yourself be free .....free from the abuse, free from his crap....just free to be YOU.

He could come back.

Wow, that is awesome. Way to go. A long journey starts with a single step. I am so glad you freed yourself. You will find that you can be just as lonely alone as when you were with somebody. It a whole brand new world and you are now part of it.

You can make it! Drop me a line if you want to chat! You may want to see if there are any state programs that can help you out!