If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve to be treated then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle.

If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant. Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man! Nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you ... A relationship consists of two whole individuals...look for someone complementary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always knows where you are, and you're always readily available to him, he takes you for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar, but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.....

You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.
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Well now, that's the second time my jaw's dropped tonight. The fact that this was posted by a man for some unexplained reason surprises me somethin' fierce................

How breath-taking and educative....i promise to take every word of it seriously considering that it came from a man...thankz alot

Words of wisdom from a mans viewpoint.......

I'M SHOCKED!!! BUT IT IS OH SO TRUE!!!! THANKS A BUNCH...HOPE U LIVE BY IT!!!!!!

WOW I'm impressed. Excellent words of wisdom and shared by a man.

Oh Denise, you stated that so much better than I did.

Great words of experience and wisdom...Thanks for sharing

I actually just got that in an e-mail yesterday and almost posted that. I think its better that it came from a guy though!! I know I read it and thought HMMM that has to be from a woman...wrong!! Its very true if you sit and read it.
Very good post!!

great words to live by

Been there, done that...got the divorce papers. I'm printing this and posting it on the wall RIGHT NOW....in BOLD, ALL CAPS, and on RED PAPER!!!

It shall be my new credo.....LOL!

Thank you ArdentMan...your timing for posting this couldn't have come at a better time. (My guy dumped me last week )
***Wondering if there truely are men out there who believe in this posting as we women do?***

it is a 2 way street neither men nor women will stay if they dont want to

That was wonderful...I think I will copy & paste and then PRINT this.

Thank you so much for sharing it...

thank you!!!!!!!!!!

wow ardent man...that was awesome!!
Thank you, words to live by

Soooo true!!

HAHA NO OTHER MEN RESPONDED TO THIS!!!

THE TRUTH HURTS, HUH?

You're right, GC2, the truth does hurt, but if I'm really honest about it...it's even more painful to admit that I ALLOWED it.

Learning to stop that cycle is what really matters...and this is a great reminder!

Thanks, Ardent.

GG, Crazy is a guy who responded.