Relationships can be wonderful, but at the same time they can be both stressful and overall frustrating. Yes a relationship is a commitment and it is not always easy to commit when you are putting all the effort into the relationship, feeding it as i say. A relationship involves two, giving 50% 50% in a relationship is an overall good one. What happens when your giving 95% while your partner is giving 5%? you get so fed up with it you find someone else who gives back? nothing too good can come out of it especially if it is your fiancee or husband. I am writing this because someone close to me is in this very situation. She has been with the same guy over 3 years and recently started seeing her ex boyfriend. I have spoken to her about this and tried to steer her away from heartbreak. You cannot have two men, you will lose them both. She has to decide who she wants to be with.

Hummm sorry to me that is just plan wrong how would she like
it if the shoe was on the other foot an her boyfrined had two girlfriends. Just my opinion it is cheating in my book no matter how one looks at it .

and again, I agree with Txs...

TXS is right on 100%...cheating is cheating no matter what the excuse

Humm Sadie lol we do seem to think a like lol great minds we have lo. Willy_cents ya got that right. Some like 2 to give reasons why guess it makes them feel better when one has excuses for what they do

thats what i tell her :( she is so stubborn actually she is my sister

Alanna...

When a relationship gets to be that bad...then it is time to get out!!!

I agree relationships are supposed to be equal 50-50. There are days when the scales tip...not all days are good ones. Overall, it should be level--even. When it gets to be that there are more days of 75-25 or as you put it 95-5...when those days happen. It is hard to ever see it as ever being even again. To me then comes the frustrating, resentful feeling that never goes away...I'm not getting anything out of this....anymore. I wonder if your sister feels like this.

That's when it is time to say....NO more.

Yes she has to decide...


I was in a relationship where I was giving about 90%,
I could not take it anymore and left...
A relationship takes two people working at it.
Sometimes it's not allways 50/50- but thats ok.
There's trouble when the percentage rises to 90 to 95%
though...

in a relationship with a committment??? or just dating???

I think that could include dating too- for dating leads
to a relationship...

Hi Nurjoyce!

hey MsTeddyBear

if you are dating...isn't the idea to find the right person??
dating is not a committment or relationship. it is to find out who is right and compatible.
just my opinion

I always heard 50/50, but I was married to the same man for nearly 35 years and I have to say I think it is 100/100. You need to give it your all. I would hope that I find that someone that is willing to give totally of themself, not part of them. I agree there were days that neither he nor I wanted to give it all and we did not, those days were not the best days to say the least. If this guy is not giving more than 5% it is time to take a honest look at that relationship. Your sister is lucky to have you.

i agree with im2fun