First of, your daughter is 19 and he is only 17? Sweetie, I am only saying this because she can be in lots of trouble because he is in DSS custody already. She is an adult and he is not...atleast I don't think they consider them an adult yet? Now some states do when they are 17...but most don't until they are 18....so check it out.
Then you have the charge of rape against him at an early age of 13 against him? You know he was very young when he did that. WOW I don't really know what to say on that. I think if she was my daughter that I would say get away from him. I know he was a young kid when this happened, but it did happen. It would be so hard for him to get a fair chance once he is even out of DSS custody...would anyone even trust him?? I know it would be tough to~~~most won't!!!
I think you should try to talk to her and get her to move on and find someone else. It might not be easy to convince her of this....but let her make up her own mind but try to persuade her that this would be best!! Good luck and God bless

your daughter should run like the wind ..this guy has way to many issues..

most relationships only last a little while but an education will last her a life time put your trust in the education lets face it there are a lot of people in this world that cant be trusted if he has shown the propensity to lie once its a good possibility he will do it again.whether hes embarassed about where he lives or not he still lied if youre a truthful person it doesnt mean you can pick when you tell the truth it should be all the time she hardly knows him and already has trouble let that be the lesson get on with school theres plenty of time for a relationship later dont ruin a good thing over something thats starting to go bad KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE PRIZE.the education wont let you down...people will for whatever reasons that suit them ...GOOD LUCK

a 17 yr old is 'going to take care of your family"?? Why cant you do this? I am NOT bashing or being mean spirited girl. Just seeing a very DECENT MOTHER who is about to be used, ripped off, your daughters very well COULD be molested or raped OR WORSE right along with mama. How in the hell can he TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY while in a DRUG/ALCOHOL HALFWAY HOUSE? Would this mean dealing dope out your front door? exposing your girls to real SCUMBAGS and your home looking like a blue light special at WALMART. Enter right stage comes the PO PO or NARCOTICS COPS costing YOU not only your children, your home, and YOUR FREEDOM. Can i get any more REAL about this? NO. WHY is he in a DRUG REHAB HALFWAY HOUSE? most likely ON PAROLE FOR DRUG OFFENSES even though he is a MINOR. WILL he change? NO. He is LYING AND DECEIVING YOU because your nieve to this. Sadly i am NOT. My advice? contact the house supervisor and get the REAL TRUTH. Present it to your daughter and do NOT let her have any further contact with this druggie who apparently does NOT have an "ex" but most likely a WIFE/GIRLFRIEND/PSYCHOCHICK ON DRUGS. This man is NOT being honest. NOT working his 12 step program, and will NOT bring any happiness to YOU OR YOUR FAMILY. This is of course my honest OPINION and some very SOLID ADVICE TO YOU!

HOLY ****!! I just saw unsures comments. He is a convicted RAPIST? THAT was what he had planned for "taking care of YOU and your GIRLS". CALL DSS AND PUT A STOP TO THIS...NOW!!!

If it was my daughter (I do have one) I'd do her the favor and get rid of the guy myself.
She may resent it for awhile but that will pass.

If he's a druggie and living in a group home, he's probably on parole. I agree with blondie. Call the home or go by and talk to the counselors. They have ways in the Therapeutic Community to deal with those things.

I mean Barbie. Sorry

sit down with her and have a serous talk,
nice and soft, and tell her you care and love her
and establish trust, and if first time does not work
try again and again, but not in a nagging way
try to be understanding and you will be able to help



morena

Dont let your daughter get wrapped up in this, there are a ton of great guys out there and if you all are patient enough you will find that good things truly come to those who wait.

Your daughter being 19 might find it difficult to get away from things but she must invest her time i something constructive and try and avoid these thoughts... definitely there should not be any second chance for such a person...

Take care

drugs and hiding it very wrong i,d kick em to the curb with both boots

Has anybody ever stop and think that maybe he is just ashamed of his situation? He could be wearing the glasses cause he is going through with draw and thinks he looks like crap. Not trying to make excuses for him just trying to give you other possibilities.