Help!
I get emails telling me that there is someone who wants to meet me, but I have not rated them yet.

How do I find the profile to rate it? i see nowhere a link that will take me to that spot!

Thanks!
Songbird

me neither i always wondered about that...good question

You have to click on the mutual match button and say either yes, no or maybe. If you both say yes it will match you. Good luck

i have done that and it still say i have not rated them or i get an email that says i have matches and when i go to look at them none are there....i dont think i have to worry about that anymore but it is kinda confusing, lol

change distance to next highest number so if you have ut set at 25 goto 50 and watch how many more appear

how do you initiate a mutual match? like if i want them to receive a notification about me

iF YOU RATE SOMEONE A YES OR MAYBE THEN YOUR PROFiLE WiLL BE SHOWN TO THAT PERSON. SO WHEN YOU START RATiNG YOUR MATCHES KEEP THAT iN MiND. iT ALSO SHOWS YOU PEOPLE WHO ARE SET TO YOUR PREFERENCES. iF YOUR PREFERENCES ARE SET TO ONLY SHOW YOU PEOPLE THAT ARE BETWEEN THE AGES 24-30 AND YOU SEE SOMEONE THAT iS 35 THEN YOU KNOW THAT THEY CHOSE YOU. iF YOU RATE THEM A YES OR MAYBE AND THEY RATE YOU A YES OR MAYBE THEN YOU WiLL HAVE A NUTUAL MATCH..

right, but how do i send the option of others to see if they have an interest?

YOUR PROFiLE WiLL BE SHOWN TO THEM iF YOU SAiD YES OR MAYBE. iF YOU WANT DiRECT CONTACT, SEND THEN AN EMAiL..

ok, i am not explaining myself very well or i do not understand something which i thought i did. let me try again:

i currently receive a notification that says someone is interested. i go to the mutual matches section and there they are. i then have the option to rate them. this part i get.

what i don't get is how to initiate a rating for me. i want to know how to have the mutual match work the other direction. me first and then they reply. for example: how would i make it so that you would recieve the notification that i was looking to you for a match?

also thank you for taking the time to get this through my thick skull.

NOT A PROBLEM.. ONCE YOU SAY YES OR MAYBE TO THEM, JSH WiLL THEN SHOW THEM YOUR PROFiLE. THEN THEY HAVE THE OPTiON TO RATE YOU YES, NO OR MAYBE. iF THEY CHOOSE YES OR MAYBE THEN iT'S A MUTUAL MATCH. iF THEY CHOOSE NO, THEN NO MATCH. THEY WiLL NOT NECESSARiLY KNOW THAT YOU CHOSE THEM.. YOU CAN ALWAYS SEND THEM AN EMAiL SAYiNG YOU'RE iNTERESTED OR THAT YOU CHOSE THEM iN THE MUTUAL MATCH, BUT YOUR PROFiLE WiLL BE PRESENTED TO THEM.

OK -
Thanks for the tip about extending the milage range.

Another question, then!

If I set my preferences at 100 miles, why am I getting mutual matches to rate matches from 1500 miles away?

Thanks to all of you for your help.

SONGBiRD, YOU GET THEM BECAUSE THOSE PEOPLE RATED YOU A YES OR MAYBE.. SO THEiR PROFiLE iS SHOWN TO YOU..

I think I've got it! Thanks a bunch!

Songbird

GOOD! GLAD TO HELP!