When I got divorced at 40 and was ready to start dating I realized I had really never dated in the traditional since before. Even after 2 marriages, numerous live-in relationships and a lot of girlfriends I never dated. There was just always miss next waiting right there in front of me to start having fun with. Typically someone I already knew or a friend knew or I was already acquitted with or already friends with. Well, not the case at 40 and after my 10 year marriage.

I see why I never dated before, Dating sucks or at least it does for me. I have just had a string of really bad dates. REALLY BAD……….. Until last night when I actually went out with a human being of the opposite sex and yes, an ex-friend of mine set me up with a guy for a date. Imagine my surprise that Pat was a Patrick. We will not even discuss that one any further……

Don’t get me wrong I am NOT all puppy eyed, ready to fall in love or start stocking her but I would like to get to know her better and I am almost sure she felt the same.

So here is a question mostly for the ladies. After a first date that went well, when should he call and say I had fun…..

Yes, at 40 you would think I would know this but things that involve women I am clueless about, plus as I explained the whole dating thing and then there is the fact that I am a bit dumb.

Thank you in advance for your inpout………………….

How well did you connect??? If the connection was there why not phone the next day?

If you want to call her, call her. All those "rules" are lame. A woman who is interested in you would not play games like that. She would be more than thrilled to get a phone call right away!

I don't think there is anything wrong with calling the next day and just telling her thank you for the date and that you enjoyed yourself. I've heard that you should wait like 3 days, but I think that is playing games. If you want to call her then call her! And if she had a good time also, you will only create insecurities in her by waiting 3 days or more! JMO

ya.....this isn't high school anymore~~~!!! Call her!!!!

I agree, call her when you feel like it. Those stupid games and stupid "rules", blech! It's never too soon, but it can be too late

I never really dated either...
So I guess I join the clueless too...
Guess we have to learn along the way.

As for calling:
If you really-really like her I say the next day.
If you like her a bit- I say in 2 or 3 days.
Goodluck!

I agree....game playing and "rules" are for high schoolers...CALL HER!! In fact...you should be on the phone with her RIGHT NOW..not on this damn site...now go!!!LOL...

do you think he's on the phone????

iRon!!!! Tell us what she says!!!

I agree with the rest this is not high school, call!

@Gypsy.....Tell us what she said! Haahahaa

Enquiring minds wanna know!!!

Yes gypsy we did connect, we laughed and lot, had a lot in common and she kept touching me........


And I will let y'all know what says

And thanks all.........

hmmmmmmmmm touching.......that means alot!!!

Yeah iron... goodluck and have fun!