So far you get so many friends out of this free site.

But do you get more out of that paid site then you do here ???.

Really let's be honest, many of us like my self have not found any real good friends that want to email one on one and or talk etc out side this site.

If you have great but so far after being here for so many months and or less it's kinda sad to have more so called friends or not friends etc.

If you have great but so far after being here for so many months and or less it's kinda sad to have more so called friends or not friends etc

Im not sure whats your asking here????

I have met several friends on JSH
All are supportive and uplifting
Because of distance- have not met everyone
just talk online or via cell phone
But two i have met in person and now
call them my best friends

What I guess I'm asking is do you find paid sites more easier to find dates and or more then that vs this free site.

paid sites are just as difficult

Really nurjoyce.. so there not any easier to find that right person and or more friends etc.

I've never tried a paid site but I would think the results would be about the same.
I've found 2 great guys on this site and enjoyed them immensley I can't blame the site for losing them unfortunatley that was all me.

It is all about finding the right people and a paid or free site isnt going to make a differece.

well well.

How does one make a choice when they joined a paid site but never fully became a memeber, for one what I mean is say I sign up I get a lot of people who want to talk to me how do I make that hard call to pay a fee just to respond to there messages they have left.

Oh do I leave them all hanging ???????.

no--
i tried 2 paid sites before and one other free sites--
all offered nothing but guys who were looking for one thing
and it was not a relationship or friendship of any kind.
this is the only site that although i have not found that
special someone..i have several friends and people i
trust!!!
i have met pinkprincess (annie). she is my best friend.
several others....
sadiej has given me such support and love with the
recent incident i am going through with my son.
i would not trade the friendships i have made from JSH
for anything!

I have tried pay sites and really just because you pay money does not mean that you are going to find friends. You just have to get out and mingle.

I understand and totally get what your saying nurjoyce.

But don't you think I should respond to those people even if I spend money I don't want to just to message them back or it's not even worth it ???????.

I would agree with Meg. But hey FREE SITES, are better because if NOTHING HAPPENS,,SO WHAT???

But if ya joined E-HARMONY,,,,and didn't meet someone,,,,HEY,,DAMM IT,,,WHERE ME A DATE HERE,,,THIS COST ME 30.00 bucks and NO DATE,,,***^*%)*^%$^#%@$#!!@E^*_+ lol

LOL,,SO, there would be one thing to think about,lol

I get what you all are saying.

I spend money on singlesnet.com and damn if I was not shocked by women trying to fool me and take my money and whatever else they wanted.

I'm just trying to make new friends and maybe even a girl friend or something that could go that way some time. No big rush just like to know it could happen is all.

why pay to answer someone back?

Well on some of the sites I joined but am not a full memeber in order to answer them you must become a paid memeber.

That's why I asked.

nurjoyce.

because they want you to pay!!!!
but it gets you the same kind of reply as the free sites.

yeah, probably so.

I have found that it is the location of the people rather than how much you pay. One person would do well in Texas where another person of the exact same looks and profile would do nothing at all in New Jersey because the site was originated in Texas and has 75% Texans on the site.

Find a site that keys on your area and you will do much better. The bigger sites may have enough local people as well as long distance ones to make friends with like this one.

The pay sites do have more people that are more serious about finding someone because the money makes them more urgent to date before the subscription runs out. The non-pay places can become hang-outs for people because there is no pressure to do anything. There are lots of people on here that are just talking and keeping themselves amused.

YEARS ago I was on a paid sight.......had a general of sorts come here from Denver........he was a totally nice guy.....unfortunately he had a hairy back problem!!! We are still friends but I felt nooooooooo chemistry

i was on 2 different paid sites.
one would not allow me to even search my area, only showed me guys that where a match and they all seemed to live very
far away.
all the guys seem to want one thing-- that let "be friends and see where it goes" and while we are "friends" we can sleep with each other.
i always tell people...i do not sleep with my friends