Pretty sure I am not the only one; happily married, well, we are doing okay. Had this fantasy for years, now it is getting almost urgent; I want to well, have sex with a man.

Yes, she knows, she understands and agrees I should go for it. She "tried" another woman once, it did satisfy her curiosity and she moved on. Well, mine hasn't been satisfied.

Hoping to find the right man, take our time, spend a night together and.....try it all.

.. when she tried this other woman were you married to her!??.. and if yes what's good for the goose is good for the gander.. just be prepared for the consequences of your desire. and curiosity.. that rabbit hole you trying to go down. on.. can be long and deep.. sometimes hard to climb back out of... if your partner is willing to throw you down the rope.. to help you climb back out again so to speak.. then enjoy your life.... it only comes once.. well if you're good maybe twice..lol.. welcome..2m2..

Well said....no.1.
No your not the only one..
It takes a special kind of woman to
Deal with this kind of relationship.
He is right it is a rabbit hole.
I have held the rope more than once,
and enjoyed it.
Note*I did Not do the what's good for
the goose is good for the gander.
#Known Freak.

Best wishes to you.

As Rabbi Tuckman would say,

"Fatalist?"

It is risky business to have sex with a stranger just because you want the experience.
Unsafe sex is called that for a reason.

Yes we were together when she had sex with a woman. She also had sex with men since we became a couple. And no, it was not dark, sordid, did not pushed us apart, quite the opposite.

Yes there is risks, hey I went to the grocery store this morning and almost had an accident.....but I will go back next week.

I don't know what is so fantastic about the "moralistic majority" views of marriage and the "rules" that should apply to all. Certainly not the 50% divorce rate. Why should I deprive my partner of pleasurable experiences? Why would she do it to me?

My question had more to do about "other guys" secret desires, and less with the risks associated with having stimulating experiences. Living the safe, bland and middle of the road way is soooooooo boring. No thank you.

What other guys?

It looks to me like you are extrapolating your own situation into a generalization about married men.

Also, your concept of "boring" is just that - yours.

As long as you and your wife are on the same page on hers as well as your fantasy's then I don't see a problem.Everyone has hidden desires variety is the spice of life.

This.

well ...another learning expereince brought to you by mingle2.com

I am sorry...not tryna tell others what they can do but that is soooo wrong....

but I also don;t do bi ... that story is a good example of why