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alok99
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Thu 01/30/14 10:30 PM
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hi stop being hypocritical. in india most marriages are a kind of sociofinancial agreement. the women are mostly dependent on the men , though things are changing. like all marriages those in india also have their highs and lows. mostly women have to bear the lows becoz they have nowhere to go!!!!. western women are independent financially and socially. they do'nt take nonsense. wish it would be the same here. no point in going on with a relationship if it does'nt pleasure ypu!!!!!. the other thing is attitude to life. most indians get married, have kids, grow fat and lazy, start looking like something abnoxious and blame it on age. both men and women!and settle for what they have. lousy thinking! could write a book on the subject but suffice to say indian marriages stay on because indian minds are blocked soon after marriage I am not being a Hypocrite .And go through the whole thread i never claimed it's all perfect in india and if you think majority of couples over here are unhappy at the extent of ending their marriage then i think you have got very narrow attitude towards happiness.Further regarding gaining weight it is mostly coz indians by nature do not work on their physical appearance but it mostly depend on own personality not on marriage.Indians both men and women are quite hard working specially after marriage on this point i totally disagree with you you seem to be indian so do you think ur mother or father were lazy? in my case the hard work my mother and father and like many other put for their families and loved one is incredible and this i am not saying coz of my bias toward indians but coz this is something i have seen and felt all my life so do not call them lazy just coz they are not concerned about their physical appearance.You say they have blocked mind after marriage so what according to you is an open mind?go on looking for more hot chicks going on cheating "infidelity" if so then no one needs open mind.Marriage is not about i me myself it is all about"us" just understand it clearly "us" .Yes indian man and women make several compromises because they keep the welfare and happiness of their partner above themselves they are not selfish and self centered.If you have seen all my post i have always said if one goes through extreme such as violence then sur they must take divorce but not in petty matters coz they have gain weight.I am sure you love ur mother and father irrespective of how much weight they gain.You like western pattern of marriage good for you but then what is the need of marriage you get into a "live in relationship" and it would be interesting to see when ur wife leave you after few years just coz she has found someone wealthy or more attractive or u have gained few pounds or she has just got simply bored of you then she leaves you along with 2 young children to cater too if this is what you want then please go ahead. Marriage and love is lot more then physical appearance ,money,thrill and excitement .You seem to be to superficial and ur analysis of indian marriage remain superficial you see the reason of marriage as socio economic agreement but you miss the whole important part that is after marriage that is taking responsibility of marriage and family are ur mother and father unhappy with each other or are they just coping with marriage i am sure they are not. Now this was my last post i think we should end this topic right here coz people here have clearly missed the spirit of question it was to just throw light on the reason of increasing divorce rate in west "not east vs west" and i have got the ans and i have also put all my point of views and so from know on it would be just repeating the old tape which i do not want.For all those who have replied thanks as it has been interesting to know various point of view and some of the post were quiet awesome and bang on target. I have my own views just like others have their own if we do not agree we should agree to disagree. Apology to who so ever sentiment have been hurt unintentionally Marriage is keeping the "happiness" and "welfare" of ur partner and children above you. |
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Clashing of diff. cultures & beliefs may play a factor. And of course, the many other infidel reasons why! Not enough of EAT, PRAY & LOVE!!! ..hehe!
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i think it is, because western "world" is many more materialistic; in opposite, eastern "world" is many more spiritual. i can see it, am from central europe.. :/
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hi stop being hypocritical. in india most marriages are a kind of sociofinancial agreement. the women are mostly dependent on the men , though things are changing. like all marriages those in india also have their highs and lows. mostly women have to bear the lows becoz they have nowhere to go!!!!. western women are independent financially and socially. they do'nt take nonsense. wish it would be the same here. no point in going on with a relationship if it does'nt pleasure ypu!!!!!. the other thing is attitude to life. most indians get married, have kids, grow fat and lazy, start looking like something abnoxious and blame it on age. both men and women!and settle for what they have. lousy thinking! could write a book on the subject but suffice to say indian marriages stay on because indian minds are blocked soon after marriage I am not being a Hypocrite .And go through the whole thread i never claimed it's all perfect in india and if you think majority of couples over here are unhappy at the extent of ending their marriage then i think you have got very narrow attitude towards happiness.Further regarding gaining weight it is mostly coz indians by nature do not work on their physical appearance but it mostly depend on own personality not on marriage.Indians both men and women are quite hard working specially after marriage on this point i totally disagree with you you seem to be indian so do you think ur mother or father were lazy? in my case the hard work my mother and father and like many other put for their families and loved one is incredible and this i am not saying coz of my bias toward indians but coz this is something i have seen and felt all my life so do not call them lazy just coz they are not concerned about their physical appearance.You say they have blocked mind after marriage so what according to you is an open mind?go on looking for more hot chicks going on cheating "infidelity" if so then no one needs open mind.Marriage is not about i me myself it is all about"us" just understand it clearly "us" .Yes indian man and women make several compromises because they keep the welfare and happiness of their partner above themselves they are not selfish and self centered.If you have seen all my post i have always said if one goes through extreme such as violence then sur they must take divorce but not in petty matters coz they have gain weight.I am sure you love ur mother and father irrespective of how much weight they gain.You like western pattern of marriage good for you but then what is the need of marriage you get into a "live in relationship" and it would be interesting to see when ur wife leave you after few years just coz she has found someone wealthy or more attractive or u have gained few pounds or she has just got simply bored of you then she leaves you along with 2 young children to cater too if this is what you want then please go ahead. Marriage and love is lot more then physical appearance ,money,thrill and excitement .You seem to be to superficial and ur analysis of indian marriage remain superficial you see the reason of marriage as socio economic agreement but you miss the whole important part that is after marriage that is taking responsibility of marriage and family are ur mother and father unhappy with each other or are they just coping with marriage i am sure they are not. Now this was my last post i think we should end this topic right here coz people here have clearly missed the spirit of question it was to just throw light on the reason of increasing divorce rate in west "not east vs west" and i have got the ans and i have also put all my point of views and so from know on it would be just repeating the old tape which i do not want.For all those who have replied thanks as it has been interesting to know various point of view and some of the post were quiet awesome and bang on target. I have my own views just like others have their own if we do not agree we should agree to disagree. Apology to who so ever sentiment have been hurt unintentionally Marriage is keeping the "happiness" and "welfare" of ur partner and children above you. you say "..end this topic right here coz people here have clearly missed the spirit of question..". you have to count with, how brain work: he just 'compare' two things and after make result. feks, you go shopping, bcz want new TV. in t shop you see one and first you say: "its too dark then we have at home".. |
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 Its a wonder this topic has lasted as long as it has??? Without being locked OUT???
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Divorce is just increasing all over the place now. Many people are getting married too young and no clue of what they getting themselves into.
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Just for the record, I admire certain trait's of people from the indian culture. They are hard worker's. Good grafter's. Always faithful to their jobs. And I'd like to add this, if it wasn't for the indian dr I went to as a child, I'd have never seen the day I got over a bad stomach illness. He always worked relentlessly with me, researching what he could next try, to help me. I think he was overwhelmed at the fact he cured me. I saw him trying not to cry with relief. God bless that dr. He deserve's a medal. Yeah and there's also curry. Let's not forget that. |
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people give up to easily , they can't be bothered to work through issues and stay together and hold together during hard times
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They do it out of anger I seen women on aol chat long ago always looking for sex .I ask where's your man? the reply he is to busy .Then I ask if your unhappy then why you with him ?Well am afraid.
They want there cake eat it to not going to happen not around me. But as for why marriages way I see it if your not happy get out of it why cheat and hurt the person? Then as soon as your relationship fails the questions What went wrong? Am I not the same as when I first got married? Why would he/or she do this to me? then depression sets in and so on. |
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In India pple luv the one they marry. In the west they marry the one they luv. The west only marry the person they have feelings and emotions 4. Emotion fluctuates. If he wakes up 2mro and hav no more feelings for her, he gives her the red card imdatly. The wst are intolrant and not committed as Indian.
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i am lookin for one to be with me
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i am lookin for one to be with me and i thought you needed any old woman... |
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