Eyes draw me in , smiles can intercept all train of thought. But hips! Yes hips & *** confirms the spell.drunk with pharmones, I get an uncontrollable urge to hug all of it.

Jo is gorgeous inside and out in my eyes and mind.

Physically, I notice eyes, lips and hands first. What grabs me otherwise is a sense of humor and sincerity. Roooowwwrrr!!!

Good hearted , careing, tee shirt n jeans average , good conversation, funny, and a nice smile back at me when I slap him on his sexy butt.

Ya that's true

A good southern man with manners , a job, outgoing, good heart, sense of humor, and loves me. That's all I want !

her intelligence , culture , honesty .

Initially - The eyes with the expression on his face draws me in to smile back at him.

Getting acquainted - When he invites me to share his time. It shows his interest and he thinks of me. Learning about him. How he can be versatile in different environments. (fun, smart, courteous, how he treats other people shows his character and values, intimacy - hold hands, sweet compliments, brush my hair with his hand as he goes to kiss me.

Dating each other - nothing in this world like a man who can show you he cares about you. Goes out of his way for me. You can see it, feel it, experience so many things together. This is reciprocated naturally which keeps you both enjoying life as long as your both willing to continue on the path together.

what does geographic location have to do with attraction ?

They appreciate and love Ive got curves like J. Lo...

May I delicately point out to U. That Most guys will never measure up 2 your standards. But We R right here every day. We work in the same building, going to the same events, eating at the same cafes, attending the same churches. We are NOT on a cruise, at the mall shopping, nor at upscale bar or wine tasting. In short, weren't not doing what U think we should or like to do. Think about the guy that married U. Whom had to be dragged or nagged to the events Only U enjoyed? U will find us at local spots bars having a beer with buddies. Or working on our classic car or motorcycle. U want 2 find a guy in your age range? Well, step back and look at your self in a mirror. Would Date U? Do U measure up to the same standards U have set for that "Prince Charming"? Just take the time [2 or more dates] 2 see who he really is about. & Remember, he isn't going 2 change 4 U. & IF he did, he wouldn't be what U wanted anyway. A Content secure and single nice guy. David

Lets flip the coin. Everyone has standards even you. Some women know your there but you never took the time to say hello or show interest. Some women will not be the one to initially show interest. Some are taught not to. Your interpretation of women nagging/dragging husbands to places is archaic. The last time I checked marriage is about compromise if your not interested or she isn't then you agree on another way you both decide. Sometimes it might be a simple she needs you to make a decision with her.

Personally I would date me in heartbeat not by appearances but by merit of knowing how to treat someone that I care about, being responsible, having goals, and not needing someone but wanting a man to share life's experiences. I am glad to learn from setbacks it teaches me what not to do or alerts me to make better decisions. I don't want a man to change but be real you have to adapt when you combine two separate people/places into one. You also cannot live life exactly as you did when you were single as you have someone else to consider. This goes for both the female and the male.

that's what attracts you to men?

a lot of women do not date guys from work as policy....we don;t bring it to work usually. some companies are pretty relaxed about that issue and some are pretty strict. It's not that we don;t notice you though :)

It would be the exception to date someone from work and we'd have to know he could handle it....like keep it all outta my face at work lol

Girls always like a confident guy.... , who listens to his heart , not his brain always..., lil bit smart and handsome...

A GOOD southern man does it right. From his accent, morals, to his priorities. I'm sure there are wonderful kind men out there but that's not what I'm attracted to. I want a southern man. I'm from the south so it's only fitting lol

Her smile, her eyes, and her intelligence.

...I wish I knew what I look for. I think in general, someone who stands out from the crowd. Someone who is really passionate about things and not afraid to show it...someone who shows that he likes me and doesn't play games, but is still aggressive and not worried about filtering himself to make me happy. Someone who appreciates how passionate I am and understands the quest for true happiness...doesn't define happiness as just money and some prestigious job. He has to be adventurous, responsible, goofy, able to enjoy really simple times as well as the finer things in life...definitely someone who recognizes artistic beauty whether it's architecture, fashion, or literature...someone who asks strange questions and wants to know more about the meaning of things. I can't stand guys who don't stand up to me; I want to be challenged. I love chivalry, but only to a certain point. Sometimes when I say I want to do something, I really just want to do it. He has to recognize how independent and hard headed I am; sometimes let me be just that and other times take me down a notch. Someone who knows how and when to make me feel vulnerable because that's something I need to feel but am not going to do on my own. Someone who has a creative side and an outlet for expressing himself, like music, art, writing...but still has a very methodical and more proper side to counterbalance that. Someone who can play society's game and knows how to be very suave, but beneath that doesn't really care what people think and has his own ideas about things. Definitely not someone who puts on false pretenses or fronts, though. He has to be tactful but not the kind to care that he makes every single person happy, or is liked by every single person. And last but not least, a subtle and cute PDA-er, because I just think it's really meaningful to show someone how much you appreciate them when other people are around

From my perspective, ever wonder what makes a guy special from the rest of the bunch?

A girl's mind works in strange ways-as if you didn't know-and the things that attract them to men are mostly NOT what you expect .

Ever noticed how a girl goes completely berserk when she finds out you've lied . What's all the fuss about? you think . The big fuss they make tells you something crucial -- HONESTY is very very important to girls. Remember this if you are naturally honest and use your honesty to full advantage. Be honest with her even if your natural instinct in a particular situation is not to be . If you are naturally dishonest conceal this at all costs-you're probably good at that anyway!

A good sense of humor is amazingly attractive to most girls . They want a man who is FUN to be with .If you can make a girl laugh you're 90% there . If you have a good sense of humor-use it at every appropriate opportunity . If you haven't- WORK on it - and develop one . This can be done - watch those that have this and use their techniques - try the one that suits your personality best-experiment .

EYE-CONTACT is in my opinion the single most important factor in your success and for this reason I will go into this in more detail later . (similarly with SMILES )

A strong personality draws most girls . They really do go for a man who knows what he wants to do - no matter what anybody else thinks about him .

Girls are also drawn to confident men who are assertive , positive and don't dither . If you are less than confident - don't show it . LOOK CONFIDENT . How do you do this? TRY-study body language , either get a book on this or just observe & imitate any confident men you see around you . Stand up straight ,never fidget , head up high , slow ,steady movements and above all EYE to EYE contact at all times. You know the things I mean -observe & learn & apply .

Maturity is a big turn on with most girls . This is one reason that quite a lot find older men attractive . So it usually pays to act pretty sensibly when you're with girls ( not to the extent that you lose your sense of humor and fun of course ). Drinking beer until it comes out of your ears, falling over senseless and going on the rampage might be a good laugh when you're with the lads but it won't impress her. She might laugh but inside she'll be eaten up with embarrassment.

A lot of men think that girls are turned on by very macho men - but most girls think completely the OPPOSITE . Girls like their men to be sensitive . Don't take this too far , girls want their men to act like men but try and mix being a man with being caring and sensitive . A heady****ail that girls find irresistible ! If you find something 'nice' or 'pretty' or something upsets you - tell her. You'll be surprised how much she warms to you . Especially if the something nice or pretty is about her!!

Whilst girls obviously go for good looks and a decent body it comes surprisingly LOW on THEIR list of priorities . By itself it doesn't turn them on like it does men . Ask a girl if she is turned on by these things , she will probably say yes but deep down a girl knows she can't find any man a turn-on unless he CARES for her too.