the one in his town hardly puts any one out unless you have a repeat ticket... and thoes are hard to come by... hes tried but i told him hes ganna have to get a job at mcdonalds or something just to get some kind of income

I would say that he is lucky to have you. Yeah, when you have kids you got to take what you can get. McDonalds pays more than what it used to. One thing about restaurant work is that there is always food. Man, you are really tolerant of him. It would really help him if he would listen to you. It seems like you are stuck in a rut that you just can't get out of. I would be thinking of giving him some kind of ultimatum. He needs to take into consideration that you have a small child on the way. Heck, even small jobs like mowing grass, painting houses and the like would bring in some kind of income. With a pickup truck generally a person can go into business for themself. There is roofing and other small carpentry jobs. You really need to knock some sense into that guy. Must feel like you have more than one kid to deal with.