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Topic: WTH?
TawtStrat's photo
Tue 12/03/13 11:10 AM
Let's put it this way man. I was dating a woman from this site and we changed our profiles to say that we had met somebody. She said that as soon as she changed her profile to say that she was in a relationship and only looking for friends on here she just stopped getting mail.

So, you got one saying that she was spoken for but she hadn't taken the trouble to say so on her profile. You found a liar on the internet. Congratulations on finally finding out that they do that sometimes because it's just the internet and nobody really cares.

lilyelf's photo
Tue 12/03/13 11:37 AM
ive been a member for like 2 hours and i am getting already lots of sleazy i.m.s sheesh. cmon people read the profiles first.

buttons's photo
Tue 12/03/13 11:42 AM

ive been a member for like 2 hours and i am getting already lots of sleazy i.m.s sheesh. cmon people read the profiles first.
i havent had mine turned on in yrs lol!

no photo
Tue 12/03/13 12:15 PM

ive been a member for like 2 hours and i am getting already lots of sleazy i.m.s sheesh. cmon people read the profiles first.


Very few guys read profiles. They look at the photos and start emailing, nudging, friend requesting and adding to favorites lists, no matter how clear your profile is. That's why I don't post my pics on here, I got tired of the bs.

no photo
Tue 12/03/13 12:18 PM
If I got a reply like that, I'd figure either she forgot to update her profile, she was making up an excuse to get out of just saying no to you, or she's a liar. And just because it takes a few seconds to update a profile, doesn't mean she thought about doing it, or even saw it as a problem, especially since most guys don't read profiles anyway. I'm very clear about what I want on my profile, and until I took my pics down, I was getting stupid emails and friend requests all the damn time....So maybe she didn't think it was an issue?

Either way, like Crystal said, it's not that deep, just move on. There are lots of women out there who might be looking for a guy, you just have to find her.

teebee79's photo
Tue 12/03/13 01:05 PM

ive been a member for like 2 hours and i am getting already lots of sleazy i.m.s sheesh. cmon people read the profiles first.

I've turned that IM thing off... it is a distraction and yes, with pervs!

I have restrictions on my account... age... and distance.

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:02 PM
Edited by Lost_in_reverie on Tue 12/03/13 03:03 PM

Really? are yall kidding me? It takes 2 min to change a profile and it's ok to lie like that? So she's not interested no reason to lie. If she's really married, you must keep in mind if so she just got married still extreme newlywed, why is she here? It's not I'm upset over the non-interest I'm upset over the response. I don't like liars or cheaters she's either one or both. I bet if I was a woman posting this It'd be a whole different story. Over and over I read (yes I read yall's profiles) be honest and no games, Do men not deserve the same?


You can't assume that just because she's here, she's a cheat or a liar. Some people stay on here to develop new friendships based on their interests, or simply because they like the community but have no intentions of meeting someone. She may have simply come on in response to an email notification but planned to fix her profile/delete her account shortly after. Have you checked it since?

Realistically though, I think you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your reaction here and the impression you're giving fellow Mingle users. If I was interested in a guy but found he was getting his knickers in a twist over a woman who he knows nothing about, in what feels to be a serious case of 'over-reacting', I'd back off pretty quick.

Just throwing in my two pennies there since you're so keen for honesty and 'no games'...

no photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:06 PM


Really? are yall kidding me? It takes 2 min to change a profile and it's ok to lie like that? So she's not interested no reason to lie. If she's really married, you must keep in mind if so she just got married still extreme newlywed, why is she here? It's not I'm upset over the non-interest I'm upset over the response. I don't like liars or cheaters she's either one or both. I bet if I was a woman posting this It'd be a whole different story. Over and over I read (yes I read yall's profiles) be honest and no games, Do men not deserve the same?


You can't assume that just because she's here, she's a cheat or a liar. Some people stay on here to develop new friendships based on their interests, or simply because they like the community but have no intentions of meeting someone. She may have simply come on in response to an email notification but planned to fix her profile/delete her account shortly after. Have you checked it since?

Realistically though, I think you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your reaction here and the impression you're giving fellow Mingle users. If I was interested in a guy but found he was getting his knickers in a twist over a woman who he knows nothing about, in what feels to be a serious case of 'over-reacting', I'd back off pretty quick.

Just throwing in my two pennies there since you're so keen for honesty and 'no games'...


Yes to all of this.

Aquadave's photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:27 PM

ive been a member for like 2 hours and i am getting already lots of sleazy i.m.s sheesh. cmon people read the profiles first.


That's what makes it bad for the rest of us here for the right reasons

Aquadave's photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:35 PM


Really? are yall kidding me? It takes 2 min to change a profile and it's ok to lie like that? So she's not interested no reason to lie. If she's really married, you must keep in mind if so she just got married still extreme newlywed, why is she here? It's not I'm upset over the non-interest I'm upset over the response. I don't like liars or cheaters she's either one or both. I bet if I was a woman posting this It'd be a whole different story. Over and over I read (yes I read yall's profiles) be honest and no games, Do men not deserve the same?


You can't assume that just because she's here, she's a cheat or a liar. Some people stay on here to develop new friendships based on their interests, or simply because they like the community but have no intentions of meeting someone. She may have simply come on in response to an email notification but planned to fix her profile/delete her account shortly after. Have you checked it since?

Realistically though, I think you need to take a step back and re-evaluate your reaction here and the impression you're giving fellow Mingle users. If I was interested in a guy but found he was getting his knickers in a twist over a woman who he knows nothing about, in what feels to be a serious case of 'over-reacting', I'd back off pretty quick.

Just throwing in my two pennies there since you're so keen for honesty and 'no games'...


Yes I can. If she's really married then change your profile. Why should guy waste their time. Her profile said looking for a good for a relationship it's deceiving. If she said it for rejection purposes then it's a lie. again I've been on other dating sites and never was told that in a reply. I have seen "update I'm seeing someone I'll see where it goes" in a profile

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:40 PM

Yes I can. If she's really married then change your profile. Why should guy waste their time. Her profile said looking for a good for a relationship it's deceiving. If she said it for rejection purposes then it's a lie. again I've been on other dating sites and never was told that in a reply. I have seen "update I'm seeing someone I'll see where it goes" in a profile


If I'm in a relationship, I don't tend to bother with most of these types of sites (which means no update). Like I said before, she may have just come on out of courtesy. Have you checked her profile? How would you know she was even on here frequently before you messaged?

buttons's photo
Tue 12/03/13 07:58 PM
wow! wasting your time with one short email u typed and to get a reply from her saying no? really?oh and read her profile before u wrote her as well.. not to mention the thread that you chose to write about it all.. that is your choice..im thinking you are giving more time to her than she deserved..by your choice .. not by her wasting your time.. you are choosing to waste your own time.. what about all this is making you impatient? and category every woman to be the same as her? Do you think every man is like you? or should think exactly like you?or woman to think you? Just questions to ask yourself is all.. cause it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks in the long run really.its about how you feel and what you think about yourself is what matters and all that comes out in reactions and your happiness or the misery you choose to live in..

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Tue 12/03/13 10:00 PM
If she is with someone, then yeah, she should mention it in her profile, BUT, maybe she didn't think to. If you just started talking to someone, they won't always change their relationship status right away, because they want to see that you are serious about being with them. I'm like that MYSELF. If I was in a relationship, I'd put it in my profile, because I wouldn't want to be approached while I was with someone. Then again, she told you she was married. So she still told you. The bottom of the story is she doesn't care. She's gone off with her husband. Nothing you can really do about that. Might aswell move on. SHE did.

no photo
Tue 12/03/13 10:33 PM

If she is with someone, then yeah, she should mention it in her profile, BUT, maybe she didn't think to. If you just started talking to someone, they won't always change their relationship status right away, because they want to see that you are serious about being with them. I'm like that MYSELF. If I was in a relationship, I'd put it in my profile, because I wouldn't want to be approached while I was with someone. Then again, she told you she was married. So she still told you. The bottom of the story is she doesn't care. She's gone off with her husband. Nothing you can really do about that. Might aswell move on. SHE did.


I agree, at least she told you upfront. It would have been a lot worse if you actually got to talk to her for a while and found out later.

ridewytepony's photo
Wed 12/04/13 12:07 AM
Edited by ridewytepony on Wed 12/04/13 12:10 AM

I messaged a girl in my area. she's active here and looking for a good guy. She replies Thanks for the message but I recently got married. WTF You ever thought about updating your profile? What's your husband think about you being on a dating site? Hows that make me feel? Bad that how


I think its probably true and you were lucky that
she cared enough to message you and give you
the "its not you its me routine" so that says to me
that you were probably someone she would have
been interested in had the circumstances been different and she didn't want you to feel inadequate. I left Edmonton and had a couple of
potential mutually matches, plus 2 messages.
I had I certain interest in them all but I told then I left town,I guess its just my way or says
I love all you B_itches..lol. what I'm trying to say is its mutual but I'm oudi....it make me feel like I'm participating. ..no it makes THEM feel
better,plus its the truth.

The other thing we can do if she didn't change
her profile, is get a few of us guys to try message and see if her answer changes with some
guy/guys. Then say we start with 8 guys, then we
each have to bring in 3-5 guys,then we could
seek out these inconsistentcys in female profiles
and see if our vigilant justice will pay off.
like we can look at 50 profiles each a day and we
take turns messaging the same person and the way I
figure it is buy the time she blocks 50 of us, she will have had a good piece of our minds.
vigilante justice. ..we'll give her what's for! rant :thumbsup: what you guy are all nuts:laughing:

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