Is it possible to turn off the facebook-type features like "nudges" and "favourites"? They're doing my nut in...

Nope. I ignore the stupid "favorites" and I give kick in the butt nudges to anyone who nudges me. And then I block them.

Good plan! It just seems utterly pointless. It's not even remotely a conversation starter.

I agree. And unless it's someone I actually know, it comes off as creepy. Sending kisses to a stranger? Yeah, that's a great idea.

Exactly! It also makes some people feel like they've done enough. Next week they'll be in the forums moaning about how they've made the first move and noone's responded. Just like those messages that say "hi" and nothing else. Or "Hey, great profile! I want to know more." But that's it. Really? You've got so much from my profile but you missed the part about "conversation"? Pffft.

Sorry. Think I woke up with my ranting head on...

Ha, no worries. I could rant myself. I hate it when guys add me as a favorite. It's like, based on what? They have no idea what kind of person I am, they're going on photos. It's weird....and after I'm on the favorites list, then what? I ignore most emails, so that's a no go, why bother.

It's nice to know that it's not just me it bugs. Though, to be fair, this site seems to have far more conversational folk than other sites I've spent time on. I have definitely had less creepy messages than POF, for example. There you get maybe 1 innocent message (we'll ignore the fact that this 1 is probably just a bog standard "Hi, how are you?" message) to 10 perverted ones. Here you just got guys from other countries asking to marry you because they love you, though have never spoken to you. Nice. xP

Though I did have one 'intimate encounter' approach, but that was via instant messenger, so I just turned that feature off. Problem solved.

Yeah, mingle has the best forums. I like the fact that they have mods. The other places are a free for all. Which is creepy. Ha, I joined another site, after 5 minutes I got an email from an old, creepy guy and immediately deleted my account.

I'm on page 2 of my block list- lots of marriage proposals; if it wasn't so creepy and weird I'd be flattered.

12 blocks in just a couple of days... I'm on a roll! haha.

Nope, I definitely don't find marriage proposals flattering. It screams desperation! I'd forgive someone if I was actually with them for a sufficient length of time, but most definitely a concern if it's even seriously discussed before the 6 month mark. That's just my opinion though.