Ok give me a lil time to type all this but heres a situation that i have heard of recently......

A married couple, married 20 yrs and happy suddenly changes...the husband had to work out of town for 3 wks only contact with hom was a call for a brief few mintues. Husband comes home early sticks to wife like glue which is nice he goes to work that monday and hugs her so tight she couldnt breath but he comes home different. She does the normal hug n kiss him try to sit close to him etc and he slowly starts pushing her away. Over the next 5 yrs he goes where ever he wants and leaves her sitting at home, if she goes somewhere its why did she go there, wasnt she there the other day, how longs she been gone etc etc..... he would say im going somewhere and it only be a 15 min drive but 3 hrs later hes still made it there.... and says oh i bumped into so n so and was talking.
Goes to a so called mutual friends house alone and didnt need to tell the wife he went there ( said it was to talk to her because he wasnt dealing with his friends suicide)she finds out when the friend says something about it......a school acquaintence that over the last 20 yrs all u had was a conversation when bumped into at a store and conco was HI. how r u ... hows ur mom n dad and over.... to texting, forwarding, the school lady sends messages like " what the hell ive not hear from u in a week".... knowing he would be home would txt him early in the am saying "Hope u have a good day"....to calling this husband because shes scared of snow.... to calling this husband at work sayin im on way to hospital think im haveing a misscarriage.... he would delete all conversations between them so wife didnt see them...calls her for an hour on way home one day then calls wife and talk for a a few sayin road was bad he was gettin off phone even though now the wife has said this was an issue and causeing problems the husband didnt want to hurt the ladies feelings even though it was hurting his wife.
No wife/ husband activities of any kind except when he wanted it.
Didnt talk unless it dealt mainly with grandkids or his work...couldnt do anything with his wife even though they made plans to spend time togther... etc etc
The wife was 100% faithful but did make friends on line sent a few pics of herself to these men never was with them it was all talk... she met 1 close by that was strictly platonice because she was suicidle and needed help and she had no one else to go to ....had an adress of a couple that if she needed to talk she could which turned out more to be the male half ..... but because the wife did this then she cheated and broke trust.....Did the husband not break trust, put doubt into his wifes mind, made the wife wonder what she was doing wrong to be left at home and not suppose to go out anywhere alone ... getting questioned so much... etc etc.
SO leave your thoughts here see if your agree with mine on any point.

Guess people like to read topics but not make much response to some.... was trying to get some outside view on this for a dear friend whos going threw a divorce and taking it extremly hard.

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lol, 2kids

I agree

Sorry, I only had to read about a third a way through to say I'd bet my life he was having an affair-the signs couldn't have been any more clear. Seems as he's just doing and having what he wants, and she's getting used and played. If I were her, I'd cut my losses,she should have done just that though, and not the online thing and reaching out to other guys. If things are bad, you put all your efforts into fixing what is broken, if it can't be fixed (or the wanting/effort is one-sided) then it's time to move on, however, you close the current situation, gain closure-especially emotionally, THEN take steps to move on.


Btw, same goes for him. If something was wrong, he should have talked to her before doing whatever he was doing. Even if it started as a "moment of stupidity" while he was gone, he should have been honest with her when he got back.

In my opinion, if you have the open mind, even subconciously, to allow someone else to infringe upon your partners space...it's the beginning of the end.

Why ask a bunch of strangers for an opinion about this particular case?