ohhhh Very sory dear that you were treated that way. However what did you expect? People still have the irrational belief of their race being superior than the others or the-other-one-not-supposed-to-be-here way of thinking. Earlier on this tread someone said something about societal prejudice and even friends intolerance to this kind of union.Indeed it exists.And also being around the family of you spouse,authomatically makes them part of the marrige in contrast to what you said up there, except you live far away from them with the love of your life: besides I think this is the best.

Wassup

Skin color is just that...skin color. Darker or lighter pigmentation. It certainly does not change the person. Scientifically speaking: we all have cells in our bodies called melanocytes that are programmed to make the color (pigmentation) of our skin. Some make darker and some make lighter, and some don't make any (albinoism). I do not think you should personally seek certain colors, but people stereotype others based on their experiences. I can personally tell you I have had bad experiences with many colors. One bad apple should be thrown away and not used to make the apple pie. I am spotted does that mean you would turn away from me? Skin color is so superficial. A relationship should be based on who the person is. The only thing we should fear is fear itself. If we fear what others will say then be a leader and step up. Change happens with one person, one spark to cause a wildfire. This should not even be a topic. It is very sad.

I Agree , and I empathize

for those who want to stick to 'their own',, there is at least an appreciation for their own asthetics and culture that I can respect and family is going to be an important part of any commitment that's going to go anywhere (if a person is close to family),,,,

I was not raised in a family that taught me to judge 'the individual' based on skin color or to love based upon anything biological (except maybe gender and biological relation.,.lol)


I am glad my family is happy when a man is compatible and makes me better as I do him,,,but I do also know for certain many others don't have such families,,,,

and I actually do understand that tendency to stick with 'what we know',, so to speak,,,


Im more concerned when someone wont date 'their own',,,,to be honest,,,


makes me wonder, what was it so terrible about your family that you find no value in anyone asthetically akin to them?

Bless u more,love has no barrier,skin color does not count.

ure right skin colour does not count.

I often wonder what is wrong with your own African women
There are lots of beautiful black women as well
Most of you guys from over there act like getting a white woman is some freaking fantasy prize...
lol

In one of my art history classes, I learned that the symbol of beauty in one African country is the white woman, when they went into battle they had a statue of a blonde haired white woman on board for protection; so I guess some people have accepted that as truth....to each his own.

Was she wearing Tarzans necklace ?
hehehe

Yes to each their own for sure Ms...

I think she wore a white Grecian gown....

I don't know which is worse ...

... a black man wanting to date a white woman because she is white ...

... or a black woman refusing to date a white man because he is white.

In a Utopian society, people date people because of other qualities besides skin color/culture, unfortunately we don't live in a Utopian society.

if I paint myself purple would y'all still date me?

Yes.

Hee hee...n pink hair..

In a Utopian society, one's own kind would not be determined by something as meaningless as outward physical characteristics.

Oh well, we have the world we have, we have to deal with it. I'm sure there are some people who don't put such restrictions on potential mates, you just have to find them.

If you and I grew up speaking the same language, if you and I were born and raised in the same nation, if you and I are members of the same faith ...

... then I am your own kind no matter what I look like on the outside.

It would be an act of racism to reject me as being your kind because I don't have the same outward features that you have.

I think the term "your own kind" is ridiculous really, no matter what it's referring to. As for whether it's racist to not date people whose features are different, it might just be a matter of what you find attractive. Not everyone has the same standards of beauty, no matter what society says.