Now what was U question again? If age was a factor since U did nothing wrong?
This is a long answer but it may not have been, however, next time stay AWAY from much younger. How many, much younger, will say: "Will you MARRY me?"

U SAFER with 'around' U age.
When 'old people ilnesses start to come U way, U will be attending to each other while U grow old together.

How about person about 57?

And listen!!?
When you're A TEENAGER, the advice can be: "Take U time!"
When U start to get OLDER, the advice for me is: "Don't WASTE no time."
The Source gets smaller. Lots of people now have ties. Children, Joint ownership of property that is not settled yet, Chile-Mudder issues (how and where they will see chile)etc; etc

counseling and plenty of it

Well let me start off by saying that the last 2 comments that were made are very true. A. It is my mom who is controlling and unfortunately right now I am stuck living at home, because I cannot financially move out. B. I have been controlled like this my whole life, that is why I rebelled. I would have to say that the reason for my divorce was %50 of my mom coaching me.....telling me to get rid of him, he's no good, You can do better, etc. Then I divorced him and she took his side. THAT HURT. Now I fall in love with the new guy, which I might add he is a little younger then me (but who cares) and we had been together dating for 6 Best Friends for 9 yrs total. Now I want to be far here and say why I was told he was breaking up with me. We had a friend who we both have known for a long time and while my bf and I were dating he was in the military. Now He comes home after 4 yrs and my bf brings hi over to visit. All we all do our normal things and thats it. So 2 months back my cousin who owns an Asphalt company was looking for a few new employees to go work for her. My mom and I instantly thought of this friend Jason. So I pick up the phone and call him to ask if he would be interested in taking the job, To make a long story short he already found a job and wasn't interested. SO my mom speaks up and says " hey what are you doing this weekend would you like to come over and have dinner and watch a movie with us". He was like sure that would be great. The next thing I know I am getting a call from my bf, he's screaming at me at the top of his lungs, saying Jason just called me and wants to know why you invited him over. Well duh! why not he's our friend, But heres the thing my bf was going on a mountain biking trip so he wasnt going to be there it was just gonna be me, mom, dad, and my son. So anyway, the bf tells me if he comes over thats it we are done. I was like what the hell is going on here, what did he say to you? Next thing I know, my bf calls me up and says basically thats it, I don't want to be with you anymore and I am done. Now Jason the friend mind you, didn't come over, so I thought whats the big deal, but he broke up with me anyway. SO as you can see I am so lost and can't see what the hell I did wrong. I feel like I was set up or something. 9 years and boom thats it, you don't love me anymore. WHAT THE HELL? By the way the controlling Family member who is my mother is Italian by the way and we can be controlling people. Thank God I didn't pick up that trait. So what do you think?

Family can sometimes suck ass!!!
We were in love more than anybody has ever seem!!
And her b!tch mother and middle sister Gave her so much sh!t
She had to leave because she loved her family,Not more just its her family.Now shes a crack head and has no life to speak of.
And her family doesnt understand why!!
So i do understand about family!!

Thanks Sexy. It's really tough. My mom keps telling me that I can't trust my family so stop calling and complaining to them, then I call my Aunt and she says do listen to her, I am your aunt and I am here for you whenever you need me. This has been going on my whole life and I am too damn old for this crap. I have never had my own mind. Thank God I start therapy tomorrow. Oh and you wanna hear something else. I'll come home and my mom will say how did it go, and I'll say really well, a few weeks later she will start with me and I will bring something up that the therapists told me to do and she'll say I don't give a **** what the therapist said she is wrong. Guys I need help outside of therapy I need support to gain my own mind and learn to believe and trust again. I am so lost.

Ok hon, first off, let me just say this was NOT your fault. Who made the choice to break up? He did. How is that your fault? I don't care what the circumstances surrounding it were, HE still made the choice. Second, your a beautiful woman and from what I can tell from reading your various responses fairly intelligent as well. Take this time to focus on you. I think one of the biggest mistakes we all make is that we allow our identity to be dependent upon the person we are with. One of the greatest things you can do for yourself right now is to look in the mirror, and ask yourself "who am I?" If you don't know, go find out. Start reading books on various subjects your interested in, go to a concert or two, study a religion that you've always been told was evil just to find out if it really is }:)>, my point is to use this time a self discovery period, develop your own identity, and then run like hell with it ;) I would not be surprised if afterward you were able to look back and be glad this happened to you. I know that sounds a little odd, but I have been through this exact scenario twice now.

it takes time
what I did was kept myself busy
prayed to take those negative feelings away from my spirit
and moved on
he may have been in the way of the man that is your true soulmate
hang in there
trust me it gets better with time

i know we all been down that road u are on right now. that u are not alone here ok. there other men out there that would kill to have a woman like you. hang in there . this wil take time. dont be in hurry to rush into any thing either.

revange is mine saids the lord. dont worry one day it will come back to him and then he realize what he walked away from.
then u will have someone by then and it will be his lost and some ones gain

Thanks guys and gals that makes me feel alot better.