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I am 65 and I wouldn't have a problem dating a younger guy or older for that matter. The last guy I was dating was 9 1/2 years younger than me, but for some reason I never felt that much older than him. As long as the man neither needs another mama or a daughter, then I'm okay with younger or older men.
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Age matters. To me. Here's how I know: I'm 43 now. Few years back I decided to jump back in the dating game after finishing my tour of duty as a single mom for 18 yrs. I met a hot 25 yr old. Thought "Age is just a number. Shouldn't matter. Go ahead. It'll be fun!" So I did. 
So there I am, deed's been done. Lying there after, he's sleeping peacefully beside me when suddenly I hear a loud voice in the dark... "This is a message from God", clear as a bell. I about had a heart attack! I jumped up, ran into the living room, and completely freaked out. I couldn't believe what I heard!  
I really thought I had done something wrong, so wrong that it required divine intervention! Turns out the guy had a ringtone of the Blues Brothers on his phone with Jake or Elwood saying "We're on a mission from God". 
Apparently age matters to me. And I'm not cougar material! 
The Lord works in mysterious ways. 
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this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues 1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc. it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person 2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth. other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through. I agree, and it is up to no one but the two individuals involved. I think the OP is simply a wind up trying to start trouble, but the topic can definitely be a good discussion, ignoring that. It's been discussed on here many times before. It turns out to be mainly about individual preference. My benchmark for a younger man is his level of sincerity, whether he is genuine or playing games, or just after sex. Is he realistic? Can he carry on a conversation?....is he infatuated with cougar mythology, or is there a relationship potential? Dating a younger man is no different than a man my age dating young women, but it's not nearly as acceptable socially....comments are made about wrinkles and tummies etc etc as women age. Why aren't those same types of comments made about older males? In any event, if you love someone things like wrinkles and bad hair days don;t matter so much...lol Wow sweet, the OP IS the person WC whom you just quoted. It's a legit question and for those of us who have not been on here forever or recently or whatever the case, we don't all have privy to every topic that has ever been posted. I know - I thougt I was on pg1 and that was the OP...I straightened it out already. Like your new hair. I meant to say hello and welcome back and tell you that I like the new color when I was on here last night! Actually techncially you are privy to every topic that has been posted in the indexes 
I meant that more as to say it seems to be a popular topic lately. Good to see you! 
Thanks, I've been busy busy busy, I know when I was new people can be vicious here and I remember them saying stuff about already posted topics to new members, it just seems unfair when you aren't familiar with the system. 
I getcha AND am so glad to see a REAL friend on here - so glad u are back...anyway. I totally get you and agree about the new topic thing....I did not mean it that way and apologize if that is how it came across. I totally dig all these young guys into us older women....righteaous lol....really just meant that it seems like a popular topic - hurray!! lol
I don't really care how old they are as long they give me all the attention I want and have a brain.
(Within legal age limits) lol. I'm no lawbreaker sicko pervvvv! Maybe just the perv part lol.
agreed no jailbait actually, for me, at my age, a younger man would be well beyond jailbait...lol |
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Well, well, well. Someone thinks he's got all of us older women figured out. 
Sorry if I touched a nerve, but in attempting to understand the opposite sex, honest conclusions are sometimes unsettling. Yin and Yang each have their own inherent quirks. or maybe you just don;t get it
Yeah; that was my thought too.
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Personally,i've found most younger men to be immature amd less mental stimulation and have a rich experience that i tap into,security,.... Thats why i prefer an older man to a man younger than i.....they still have a lot to discover,lots to learn and a lot more jumpy,,etc....and at almost 35,i have my own rich life experiences!! me too!
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this topic has really taken off ... the basics of it in my mind go on two virtues 1) you have to connect with the other person, i always believe this to be unrelated to age, wealth, upbringing, background, color, etc. it is all related to the fact that you can feel something for the other person 2) you have to be comfortable to be seen in public, otherwise it will never work. some people would not want to date a person with an age gap because of their career implications, family and so forth. other than that there shouldn't be anything you can not work through. I agree, and it is up to no one but the two individuals involved. I think the OP is simply a wind up trying to start trouble, but the topic can definitely be a good discussion, ignoring that. It's been discussed on here many times before. It turns out to be mainly about individual preference. My benchmark for a younger man is his level of sincerity, whether he is genuine or playing games, or just after sex. Is he realistic? Can he carry on a conversation?....is he infatuated with cougar mythology, or is there a relationship potential? Dating a younger man is no different than a man my age dating young women, but it's not nearly as acceptable socially....comments are made about wrinkles and tummies etc etc as women age. Why aren't those same types of comments made about older males? In any event, if you love someone things like wrinkles and bad hair days don;t matter so much...lol Wow sweet, the OP IS the person WC whom you just quoted. It's a legit question and for those of us who have not been on here forever or recently or whatever the case, we don't all have privy to every topic that has ever been posted. I know - I thougt I was on pg1 and that was the OP...I straightened it out already. Like your new hair. I meant to say hello and welcome back and tell you that I like the new color when I was on here last night! Actually techncially you are privy to every topic that has been posted in the indexes
I meant that more as to say it seems to be a popular topic lately. Good to see you!
Thanks, I've been busy busy busy, I know when I was new people can be vicious here and I remember them saying stuff about already posted topics to new members, it just seems unfair when you aren't familiar with the system.
I getcha AND am so glad to see a REAL friend on here - so glad u are back...anyway. I totally get you and agree about the new topic thing....I did not mean it that way and apologize if that is how it came across. I totally dig all these young guys into us older women....righteaous lol....really just meant that it seems like a popular topic - hurray!! lol
I don't really care how old they are as long they give me all the attention I want and have a brain.
(Within legal age limits) lol. I'm no lawbreaker sicko pervvvv! Maybe just the perv part lol.
agreed no jailbait actually, for me, at my age, a younger man would be well beyond jailbait...lol I'd say I'm only 36, which is true, even though I'm almost 40 I don't feel a day over 27...lol: 
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
I agree, it's more productive to stay concerned with the ones who are interested in you than being critical of the ones who are not. It's just a matter of preference. to imply that someone should adjust their preferences seems a little controlling |
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I agree with ((( shy))) and (((sweet)))
Not sure why this thread is even still going
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I am 65 and I wouldn't have a problem dating a younger guy or older for that matter. The last guy I was dating was 9 1/2 years younger than me, but for some reason I never felt that much older than him. As long as the man neither needs another mama or a daughter, then I'm okay with younger or older men. Agreed...I'm good...if they DON'T need a mommy or daughter.. 
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
I agree, it's more productive to stay concerned with the ones who are interested in you than being critical of the ones who are not. It's just a matter of preference. to imply that someone should adjust their preferences seems a little controlling Am with you Sweetest! And like its usually said on here,to each their own.... |
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
I agree, it's more productive to stay concerned with the ones who are interested in you than being critical of the ones who are not. It's just a matter of preference. to imply that someone should adjust their preferences seems a little controlling So true! I just want to be loved!
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
I agree, it's more productive to stay concerned with the ones who are interested in you than being critical of the ones who are not. It's just a matter of preference. to imply that someone should adjust their preferences seems a little controlling So true! I just want to be loved!
And all the lovety,dovety things! |
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
I agree, it's more productive to stay concerned with the ones who are interested in you than being critical of the ones who are not. It's just a matter of preference. to imply that someone should adjust their preferences seems a little controlling So true! I just want to be loved!
And all the lovety,dovety things! |
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Here I am and I don't give a flip about age!
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Edited by
gvitago
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Sun 08/25/13 06:46 PM
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Well, well, well. Someone thinks he's got all of us older women figured out.
Sorry if I touched a nerve, but in attempting to understand the opposite sex, honest conclusions are sometimes unsettling. Yin and Yang each have their own inherent quirks. or maybe you just don;t get it
Yeah; that was my thought too.
Or maybe you just got yourself pegged, sailor. A terrible conundrum is at work here. Women sometimes seem to take a comfort in defying men's understanding, yet also seem to actively cultivate, "organized confusion", AND YET, decry men's inability to do just that...understand them. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE WOMEN...I just don't always like what they do. Both genders do have their quirks. Even women, and many women themselves might possibly agree withat that |
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far don't we? A little far? I don't understand. No, I don't think women are any less willing than men. You're judging all women, and well, I don't have damn all to say about that. :eyeroll: . Why is the age thing such a big deal to some? It's honestly a waste if you're that bothered about someone else's love life. Who cares whether it matters and who to? We just get on with it.
I agree, it's more productive to stay concerned with the ones who are interested in you than being critical of the ones who are not. It's just a matter of preference. to imply that someone should adjust their preferences seems a little controlling So true! I just want to be loved!
I'm lovin' that avatar you got there. Where from? |
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ok people lets be honest here ... sometimes when it comes to age we all take it a little far dont we. i am not talking like a 45 year old woman dating a 19 year old man or vica versa, but is there a reason people often pull the "oh your to young for me card" when there is a 3-5 year difference? i find men (as per the stereotype) are much more willing to drift in age range, why is it that woman are so harsh on the age range? comments If a woman takes issue w/ being even just two-three years older than a man, it may be that... A. She so abhors aging that being even a few years older than a man makes her feel ancient. B. She only thinks yer FUGGLY, and needs a polite excuse to turn you down. C. You don't make enough money. |
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if a woman turns you down it is most likely that she is not interested in YOU
it probably has little to do with money or age (within reason) if a woman is interested she is, if she's not she not. suggest not to criticize women who are not interested in you for not being interested and simply find the ones who are suggest also that it is silly to try to generalize or compartmentalize / categorize women. it gives the impression that you don;t really see us as individual people. if someone wants you to understand them, they will make sure that happens that you will like the results is not guaranteed, there seems this tone in some of the posts that there is something wrong with US if we are not interested in you NO. there is nothing wrong with either of us....compatability is a funny thing. as is attraction. those things are either there or they are not. Nothing is wrong with me simply because I am not interested in you (and vice versa) |
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Well, well, well. Someone thinks he's got all of us older women figured out.
Sorry if I touched a nerve, but in attempting to understand the opposite sex, honest conclusions are sometimes unsettling. Yin and Yang each have their own inherent quirks. or maybe you just don;t get it
Yeah; that was my thought too.
Or maybe you just got yourself pegged, sailor. A terrible conundrum is at work here. Women sometimes seem to take a comfort in defying men's understanding, yet also seem to actively cultivate, "organized confusion", AND YET, decry men's inability to do just that...understand them. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE WOMEN...I just don't always like what they do. Both genders do have their quirks. Even women, and many women themselves might possibly agree withat that You don't know squat about me; so no you don't have me pegged. As I said; I could care less if a guy dates a younger woman as it's none of my business but don't you dare tell me I am intimidated by it. I don't give a damn one way or another. Guys like you make me glad that I stopped dating and stopped looking as truly there are few decent guys out there. 
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