A little boy has a toy. He has loved it for years had good times with it. But he's getting bored with it so he puts it up on a shelf where no one else can enjoy it and goes and finds a new toy. He plays with the new toy until it breaks and then goes back to his ol favorite.

You are right my friend. for a married man other woman is a toy.
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Dear friends, I agree with all of you.Again thanks for all your kind and wise advise. I am confuse. I know where he lives.I know His home T.P NO,wife's work place, his work Place ect. One time he want to bring his cousin to my place, but I said no. His cousin knows everything what is going on with his wife. His cousin knows about me. He showed me his house on the net.I have his work T.P no but I am calling his cell all the time.When I asked come, he is coming, most of time after work and Sat or Sun. Most of time he said, now he is coming to me not for sex. Now he is not expecting sex from me. Because he doesn't want make me feel that he is coming for sex. Some times he is taking me out to a park going for walk and lunch or dinner. some times with my daughter. He loves my daughter as his own. As I see all these how I think he is cheating me. I don't know other married men do same. He is coming to see me even my child at home. He saying he likes my company, care and love I give him where he does,t get from home.After we fell in love He never asked sex selfishly. He respect me and a good listener as well. We are in our mid age. Our relationship is so romantic and I am a cultural person where we devoted our husbands.Same way I am treating him, He likes that. His wife is not romantic, I think she is controlling everything. Look like he cannot stand before her solve his problems. One more thing.This is the first time I had a relationship after my husband.lived alone more than 10 years without sex. 30s 40s. I feel sorry for myself. If I want I can tell his wife everything. I am not a that type cheap person. In bad time this happened. Very difficult to come out. but all of your advise make me feel better to move on. I will try my best.

Hi again. Yes I know all info. 3 days ago I told him I cannot be your sex partner and cannot see you anymore. He got very upset and later phoned me and said give him 3 months time if he not happy with his wife he will move out. He said this 3 months we are not see and talk or phoned. We didn't see each other more than 2 weeks now. Still we are silent. But I am very depressed. I know he is too.

Take that time and see IF you still feel the way you
do. If he does leave his wife are you worried that he
might cheat on you the way he did on her? I must say,
it does not always go that way but it could.
Do you trust him? If there is no trust in a relationship,
then that relationship is not going to last. You have
to do what your heart tells you to do. I really hope
that you have NO contact with him and let him decide
what he wants. I know it is hard on you and you might
be depressed, but it will be worth it in the end.
The truth will come out if he loves you or not! I only
wish you the best I think you know this. Take this time
to breath and IF he does get a hold of you...do NOT
answer him.
Good luck girly!!!!

Good advice..well said.

Dump that married guy and go out and find yourself a nice SINGLE guy.

Double up or quit Double stakes or split

I've been on both ends but separated with the mother or my child
living separate but still wanting her bad, even no I meet someone
that was, younger funner thinner prettier 100 times better in bed
but same thing when I got in her company again she would shut
me out fake NOT having an orgasms then say "we better not???
I was propriety O and she slept with her back to me for 18 months on and off
when we lived together but as soon as I saw the other one again,
and seen how happy she was to see me when I got back, I was sold
and never looked back.
initially a wanted the mean one because she pushed me away, and that
makes us want, its the rejection that draws you back.

I think his situation have run its course, and its just the draw of rejection
that's drawing him back, but if you could see him soon, he will know instantly
but if he's still reluctant then its became he's feeling your there anyways.
and then I would tend to dout how hard done by he is.
I think he's telling the truth, & I would bet my bottom $ it won't improve.
think if he was lying he would have said he hates her, but he's got to "play to
game" for money? kids? ect..

sounds like you guys are frends and have some mutual respect,
if that's truly his situation and I were him I'd go with you if you respected me,
sex was good you are cuddly/affectionate, love & friendship, then I'd be there in
a heart beat, I dont like been taken for granted,
on the back Burner, thats disrespectful of her not to
discuss the sexual breakdown. I'm sure she says "don't do that in the bed!
go to the bathroom or downstairs & do that" then waits 5 minutes then
comes over and kicks the door and calls him names.

It doesn't mean the guys going to ever cheat or lie
some relationships can bring out the worst in one another
you two my be each others "one"

that's the gamble, every relationship a gamble, Im sure he's is just seeking happiness
but his emotions are unbalanced from the rejection, he's in denial

I allso had a two year affair with one that was in a 16 year abusive relationship
then she moved in with my, for three months, that probably wasn't the best, but
it helped me get over my wife from 5 years earlier.

I thought everyone knew that when a woman does not want to have intimacy with her husband it is obviously something about the way he is treating her that is causing her to withdraw. This is female psychology 101. he probably cheated on her before and you are being tricked into giving him what he can't get from his own wife! Don't be a fool and look for a single man! There are plenty of fish in the sea.....now go find one.

now why would you assume the man threw the first stones, if any were
thrown at all?

its run it course so that makes them history, if she dosent want to sleep with him
she doesn't want him, ya can't have you cake and eat it too
it sounds more like shes got an agenda.

Thanks dear friend, You might right. If he want to find sex partner then he could. But we loved. I feel it. I doesn't matter he is married or I am married. Love is love. It is a matter of two heart. Please read all my post If he cheated or cheating on me then why would he asked wait for him. I don't know anything, only I know I still love him.
Thanks for your kind advise

Thanks for your kind advise. I think you are right. I should take a break to breath. I don't know why I still trust him and love him madly. He has everything what a woman expecting from a man. He knows how make a women happy in both way. I don't understand why his wife refusing this wonderful person. I don't know how to come out this.
Thanks my friend

Sweetie, I am a woman. I know why women wont have sex with their husbands. Trust me, if he was treating her like a queen she would not be withdrawing. Maybe she's only there for money. But one thing I know for sure... She should be informed that her husband is having an affair. As a matter of fact he should be the one telling her. it is obvious he is tricking this other poor woman into believing that his wife is such a bad person so that she will keep giving him what he wants and waste her life away waiting for him. Why did he not divorce this supposed ' horrible wife ' he has? why does he want to wait 3 months?

Because I am very sorry to tell you that he will not leave the wife. He is using you and you are very vulnerable falling for his lies.

Dear friend,Thanks for your kind post. Yes , wee had a very good relationship. we didn't hurt each other even for a second. We always care and loved each other. I think she has low libido. But since they married. He said he had less than 5 times sex twice in a raw in his last 25 years. I thought it is his fault. But we had more than 4 times in one night. As my other friends say, If he want to cheat He can find many sex partners. I don't understand how I solve this. I think better leave everything to time. Time will tell everything. would like to know more men opinion.
Thanks again

I think you should set sn appointment with a psychologist asap. If you cannot understand that he is lying about only having had sex 5 times in 25 years there is no way you will get through the trauma of realizing you have been used. Your kids need you. Please get advise from a professional.

You are right,That is the my point. Why he did not divorce her? Why does he want to wait 3 months. As he knows since he marry, she is not interesting in sex. (past 25 years)How does he treat that problem now.She is almost 50 y old now.Day by day Our body is getting weak. I think It is too late to treat. other thing is she doesn't want to go to the doctor or do something for that or even talk. So why he is asking time? for what??.
Thanks again

Finally you are beginning to see what I am talking about. He only needs 3 months to keep you hooked in. He should have divorced her a long time ago if he was not happy. if he really loved you he would have confronted the wife divorced her and would not be able to have silence from you for 3 months. He is a conartist and he took advantage ofa vulnerable woman. Please see a pprofessional to help you get through this depression because I know it's going to be a very rough time for you.