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How did you feel when you turned 40 (men)
When I turned forty I decided that it was time to retire from "the best job in the world" and do more interesting and challenging things. Thirty five years later I can say with confidence that is the best decision I ever made. If someone had told me decades ago that life would be wonderful at seventy plus I would have questioned their judgment. Had they said I would thoroughly enjoy NOT having a partner-in-residence, I would have considered them totally nuts. I didn't feel anything at 30 as it was just a number; even 40 but now being 50; I am extremely depressed about being so old. I hate being half a century old. I feel like at my age, dating is pretty well over and any chance of getting a decent job is hindered by your age. Not much to look forward to.
"So old" -- at fifty? WOW. No one convinced me to feel that way at any age. Life has convinced me to feel that way. Companies don't want to hire people in their 50s as we are considered old but I lucked in with a connection and squeaked in at a great job. Men want younger women here where I live and I refuse to date a younger man so dating is history. |
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Life has convinced me to feel that way.
Condolences Companies don't want to hire people in their 50s as we are considered old but I lucked in with a connection and squeaked in at a great job.
Evidently the corporate attitudes did not preclude getting a great job . . . Men want younger women here where I live and I refuse to date a younger man so dating is history.
To some of us YOU are a "younger woman" (the same age as my daughter). Of course, many younger women refuse to associate with "older" men (even as friends). Perhaps it is a matter of perspective and opinion. In my experience many people of either gender consign themselves to the "older" category at some arbitrary age, be that thirty, forty, fifty or whatever – and begin thinking of themselves as old and acting old. And, sure enough, they are old. |
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Life has convinced me to feel that way.
Condolences Companies don't want to hire people in their 50s as we are considered old but I lucked in with a connection and squeaked in at a great job.
Evidently the corporate attitudes did not preclude getting a great job . . . Men want younger women here where I live and I refuse to date a younger man so dating is history.
To some of us YOU are a "younger woman" (the same age as my daughter). Of course, many younger women refuse to associate with "older" men (even as friends). Perhaps it is a matter of perspective and opinion. In my experience many people of either gender consign themselves to the "older" category at some arbitrary age, be that thirty, forty, fifty or whatever – and begin thinking of themselves as old and acting old. And, sure enough, they are old. The job I got was due to me serving in the military and yes having a connection. I have friends in their 40s struggling to get jobs because of their age. I think its more that guys my age like the eye candy and really who can blame them? They like the younger, thinner, and beautiful 20 year olds. Lets face it these women are beautiful and men are very visual creatures. |
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I have friends in their 40s struggling to get jobs because of their age.
People of all ages are often struggling to find jobs. If I am not mistaken, the younger age brackets have the highest unemployment rates. If so factors other than age must be involved. Often getting a job is a matter of having marketable skills -- skills that employers need. Having low-demand skills is of limited value and just being a warm body doesn't qualify for many positions. For instance, a friend who owns a large machine shop and is a significant local employer has unfilled positions because most who seek employment simply do not have the skills needed to run the machines (and he only needs a few people for unskilled tasks). The jobs are there, the skills are not. I think its more that guys my age like the eye candy and really who can blame them? They like the younger, thinner, and beautiful 20 year olds. Lets face it these women are beautiful and men are very visual creatures.
As the decades pass more and more people become our "younger competition." It may be tempting to consider attractive young women "eye candy" – ignoring the fact that the thirty year old can also be a university professor, a commercial pilot, an engineer, an attorney, etc, etc (i.e., much more than just attractive). Beauty is not restricted to the young – as indicated by http://www.stylebistro.com/The+50+Most+Beautiful+Women+Over+50 Likewise, "thinner" is not restricted to youth. Weight control is possible at any age; however, many people put on the pounds with increasing age. I am particularly conscious of this, being a lifetime fitness enthusiast, and managing my own weight / body composition regardless of age. It might not be surprising that I am not physically attracted to heavyset and out-of-shape women (personal preference). |
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When I turned 30 I felt 25. When I turned 40 I felt 25. I have a feeling that won't last fierever though, so am prepared to feel 30 when I reach 50. You have to age at some point. 
yeah sounds about right. I don;t think much about it really |
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I have friends in their 40s struggling to get jobs because of their age.
People of all ages are often struggling to find jobs. If I am not mistaken, the younger age brackets have the highest unemployment rates. If so factors other than age must be involved. Often getting a job is a matter of having marketable skills -- skills that employers need. Having low-demand skills is of limited value and just being a warm body doesn't qualify for many positions. For instance, a friend who owns a large machine shop and is a significant local employer has unfilled positions because most who seek employment simply do not have the skills needed to run the machines (and he only needs a few people for unskilled tasks). The jobs are there, the skills are not. I think its more that guys my age like the eye candy and really who can blame them? They like the younger, thinner, and beautiful 20 year olds. Lets face it these women are beautiful and men are very visual creatures.
As the decades pass more and more people become our "younger competition." It may be tempting to consider attractive young women "eye candy" – ignoring the fact that the thirty year old can also be a university professor, a commercial pilot, an engineer, an attorney, etc, etc (i.e., much more than just attractive). Beauty is not restricted to the young – as indicated by http://www.stylebistro.com/The+50+Most+Beautiful+Women+Over+50 Likewise, "thinner" is not restricted to youth. Weight control is possible at any age; however, many people put on the pounds with increasing age. I am particularly conscious of this, being a lifetime fitness enthusiast, and managing my own weight / body composition regardless of age. It might not be surprising that I am not physically attracted to heavyset and out-of-shape women (personal preference). No, we have enough jobs here so its not people struggling for jobs; its an age preference. For instance; city jobs here won't hire anyone past 30 years old. A friend of mine and I applied for the same job and although I had the qualifications and he didn't he got invited in for an interview. I was fine until they asked when I had graduated high school as that is all you needed for the job. I passed all the tests to get the job but the girl doing the hiring interviewed me. She was dismissed because of age discrimination so I wasn't at all surprised. Fact is people my age are more prone to health issues so we aren't suitable candidates. As for weight; I am not talking about obesity, I am talking a few pounds. Since I was 19, I went up one size in clothing. I work out and eat right to keep my weight maintained but men prefer the anorexic type women; not a curvy woman. You don't live here so you really don't understand the situation here in Calgary and you can't compare it to where you live as each place is different. |
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"Age pressure?"
A man of an advanced age has more bladder pressure. Next question! 
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I have friends in their 40s struggling to get jobs because of their age.
People of all ages are often struggling to find jobs. If I am not mistaken, the younger age brackets have the highest unemployment rates. If so factors other than age must be involved. Often getting a job is a matter of having marketable skills -- skills that employers need. Having low-demand skills is of limited value and just being a warm body doesn't qualify for many positions. For instance, a friend who owns a large machine shop and is a significant local employer has unfilled positions because most who seek employment simply do not have the skills needed to run the machines (and he only needs a few people for unskilled tasks). The jobs are there, the skills are not. I think its more that guys my age like the eye candy and really who can blame them? They like the younger, thinner, and beautiful 20 year olds. Lets face it these women are beautiful and men are very visual creatures.
As the decades pass more and more people become our "younger competition." It may be tempting to consider attractive young women "eye candy" – ignoring the fact that the thirty year old can also be a university professor, a commercial pilot, an engineer, an attorney, etc, etc (i.e., much more than just attractive). Beauty is not restricted to the young – as indicated by http://www.stylebistro.com/The+50+Most+Beautiful+Women+Over+50 Likewise, "thinner" is not restricted to youth. Weight control is possible at any age; however, many people put on the pounds with increasing age. I am particularly conscious of this, being a lifetime fitness enthusiast, and managing my own weight / body composition regardless of age. It might not be surprising that I am not physically attracted to heavyset and out-of-shape women (personal preference). No, we have enough jobs here so its not people struggling for jobs; its an age preference. For instance; city jobs here won't hire anyone past 30 years old. A friend of mine and I applied for the same job and although I had the qualifications and he didn't he got invited in for an interview. I was fine until they asked when I had graduated high school as that is all you needed for the job. I passed all the tests to get the job but the girl doing the hiring interviewed me. She was dismissed because of age discrimination so I wasn't at all surprised. Fact is people my age are more prone to health issues so we aren't suitable candidates. As for weight; I am not talking about obesity, I am talking a few pounds. Since I was 19, I went up one size in clothing. I work out and eat right to keep my weight maintained but men prefer the anorexic type women; not a curvy woman. You don't live here so you really don't understand the situation here in Calgary and you can't compare it to where you live as each place is different. personally I think guys who prefer anorexically thin women are closet pedos.... |
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I have friends in their 40s struggling to get jobs because of their age.
People of all ages are often struggling to find jobs. If I am not mistaken, the younger age brackets have the highest unemployment rates. If so factors other than age must be involved. Often getting a job is a matter of having marketable skills -- skills that employers need. Having low-demand skills is of limited value and just being a warm body doesn't qualify for many positions. For instance, a friend who owns a large machine shop and is a significant local employer has unfilled positions because most who seek employment simply do not have the skills needed to run the machines (and he only needs a few people for unskilled tasks). The jobs are there, the skills are not. I think its more that guys my age like the eye candy and really who can blame them? They like the younger, thinner, and beautiful 20 year olds. Lets face it these women are beautiful and men are very visual creatures.
As the decades pass more and more people become our "younger competition." It may be tempting to consider attractive young women "eye candy" – ignoring the fact that the thirty year old can also be a university professor, a commercial pilot, an engineer, an attorney, etc, etc (i.e., much more than just attractive). Beauty is not restricted to the young – as indicated by http://www.stylebistro.com/The+50+Most+Beautiful+Women+Over+50 Likewise, "thinner" is not restricted to youth. Weight control is possible at any age; however, many people put on the pounds with increasing age. I am particularly conscious of this, being a lifetime fitness enthusiast, and managing my own weight / body composition regardless of age. It might not be surprising that I am not physically attracted to heavyset and out-of-shape women (personal preference). No, we have enough jobs here so its not people struggling for jobs; its an age preference. For instance; city jobs here won't hire anyone past 30 years old. A friend of mine and I applied for the same job and although I had the qualifications and he didn't he got invited in for an interview. I was fine until they asked when I had graduated high school as that is all you needed for the job. I passed all the tests to get the job but the girl doing the hiring interviewed me. She was dismissed because of age discrimination so I wasn't at all surprised. Fact is people my age are more prone to health issues so we aren't suitable candidates. As for weight; I am not talking about obesity, I am talking a few pounds. Since I was 19, I went up one size in clothing. I work out and eat right to keep my weight maintained but men prefer the anorexic type women; not a curvy woman. You don't live here so you really don't understand the situation here in Calgary and you can't compare it to where you live as each place is different. personally I think guys who prefer anorexically thin women are closet pedos.... 
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Edited by
panchovanilla
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Sat 01/25/14 07:43 PM
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I really don't waste time thinking about my age (50). I get up each day and push myself to do the best I can at whatever I'm doing. I basically do the same work and recreation that I did when I was 25. I only use a little more common sense now.
If I sat around lamenting my age, I would probably start feeling like crap. Although,I will admit I don't win as many peeing for distance contests as I used to. 
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Although,I will admit I don't win as many peeing for distance contests as I used to.
Try competing in the appropriate age category.
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Although,I will admit I don't win as many peeing for distance contests as I used to.
Try competing in the appropriate age category.
My ego won't allow me . I'm not ready for the "splash.....splash.....splash squad yet. |
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How did you feel when you turned 30 (for women). How did you feel when you turned 40 (men)! uhhmm.. i still have less than 2 years to prepare for that. 
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 Welllllllllllll as long as i don't look in the mirrows i still feel like i'm in my 20s with knowledge!! Still breathing,no excessive baggage around waist,everything still works, no junk in the trunk, No stone or grass overhead!! Damn Life's Good!! Then looking in the Mirrow "wondering how my Grandfather got there?"
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Neither one bothered me.
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