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that is fun you put it way cause when i ask my best friend what he though he kind of put it that way too. he said that he would make it clear he would hurt anyone who hurts me. lol
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i dont think there is an answer an outsider can give you about your dilemma. It depends much more on what your relationship with your father, stepfather , or whoever is. In your shoes, I would consider things like who raised me and who is putting on the wedding,,for me the answer to both was my Father so I found it 'fitting' to at least give him the once in a lifetime opportunity of giving his daughter away in return.
It really is going to depend on what your specific relationships are though,, not everyone has the same parental relationships and people sometimes pay for their own weddings tooo.... |
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It's about you, You are taking a vow....hopefully for life,you can choose who ever you want to give you away.... The union of marriage shouln't be based on the old tradition that daddy should give you away... On the flip side...how does your dad feel, if he knows of your questioning???? I never chose my dad.... I had another choose my best friends father... When the time came I felt uncomfortable... So I went in front of the judge... 
It looked like judge and jury....  
but I felt... better.... 
So I feel weigh the importance....to this day...I miss the traditionality of marriage..but I had a good talk with my son who was going to get married by a judge, the day before he was prepareing for deployment....thankfully everyone was on board with me... There was a quick beautiful wedding put together in 3 days..... As a mom....I got that last DANCE with my son... You may want to consider....what ever dad(s) would be best..but if u feel so strongly to have your friend... make sure to explain to your dad..... He will have the best seat in the house...and You have a lot of father daughter dances to think about...  I'm exhausted now...lol
Really good luck....you'll make the right decion. we are ready to be together but we have a bit of a wait before we come out with our intent. so i was just trying to get a feel for what people think. my father really was never there so i might dance one song with him but i might dance with my grandfather and uncle more cause they have more of an impact on my life than my father. also my father really did some thing to hurt my feelings and respect for him a few years back. i kind of brougt it up with my cousin last night and she told me about a friend of hers wedding where she had three men give her away. which im thinking i might like to do and have my grandfather, my uncle and my best friend walk me. well..since ur dad...like mine wasn't there for you, especially the way a dad should be with a daughter..I would drop him from the list and not look back.. Focus on the ones that are in your life in a wonderful way... 3 men walking you down the isle..sounds good to me... heck look at some weddings and they have like 20 or more brides maids and stuff.... DO WHAT YOU WANT....NOT WHAT OTHERS WOULD EXPECT....It's your life, your world....xo....best to u.. 
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JMO...I WOULD NOT BRING EX-BOYFRIEND IN TO GIVE ME AWAY...IT WILL ALWAYS BE BROUGHT UP IN ARGUEMENTS...BELIEVE ME...I WOULD GET ONE OF THE MEN WHO YOU WERE THE CLOSEST WHEN YOU WERE LIL, AND HELPED YOU,
 AND WAS A FATHER FIGURE THE CLOSEST..I THINK THAT WOULD BE MY BEST BET..GOOD LUCK SWEETY...
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well u could blow everyones mind....change tradition....
pick your best female friend....dress her in one of those female tuxes.... and walk the line... just a thought...
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Just my two cents but I think there are other issues you need to work out before you start worrying about who walks you up the aisle at the wedding .
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Hun, it's up to you :) Who do you want the most to give you away? Make sure it's a decision you're not gonna end up regretting. Too many people screw things up for themselves. So who do you want to do that the most? Never heard of ex's being able to give you away at your wedding. My father also scarred me, but the thing about that, is I don't remember why. I only remember I wouldn't let him visit me when him and my mum got divorced. So it must have been bad for me to not want to see him anymore. It would seem strange to be around him after all those years of him not being in my life. I can relate to that bit. Hope to hear some sort of update from you. Would be interesting to know how it went. :flower:
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you have the right to have you want
to give you away when my sister got married my uncle was going to step in for my dad wasent having any communication for he didnt like my brother nlaw ( do to the fact he had long hair) geeze thats been over 34yrs now he has no long hair but my step mom called the nite before of my sister wedding and he showed up when i got married to my exhubby his step dad was the one that gave me away... but then that reason was that he and i eloped my family didnt know... only his... so i cant say we actually eloped |
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its ur day do whatever suits u
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This thread is over two years old. I'm thinking she's made up her mind already.
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