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Topic: Why no profile pictures? Why? Why? Why?
sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 07/15/13 05:22 PM
Maybe because I'm new at this and have no concept... Why would someone not include at least ONE picture on a profile. I view the lack of a profile picture as a gesture of rudeness; like inviting me to get to know you but with my eyes blindfolded! Its not rude when people don't have a profile picture as people have various reasons. I know of cops and teachers who are very private people; so they are hestitant to post their profile picture. I respect their right to post or not post their picture and would rather know them for who they are and not what they look like. Very well put navygirl is spot on as usual

1j9b6c5 Joined Wed 11/05/08 Posts: 3954	Mon 07/15/13 05:22 PM


sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Mon 07/15/13 05:29 PM
Maybe because I'm new at this and have no concept... Why would someone not include at least ONE picture on a profile. I view the lack of a profile picture as a gesture of rudeness; like inviting me to get to know you but with my eyes blindfolded! I can see how you might feel that way if the person was asking you to meet. Otherwise, I'm not sure how it means they're being rude to you. yes that is a rather self centered POV...the province of the very young :) but we love them anyway it's not all about you OP...people have all kyna reasons for being here

bikerpilotdanny Joined Mon 07/01/13 Posts: 34	Mon 07/15/13 08:06 PM
You can look at my pictures. I like your idea of putting captions on your pictures. I think I will do that on my profile .... Thank you for the compliment. I thought the captions would give would-be-friends a chronological perspective and how old I looked at that time frame.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Mon 07/15/13 09:12 PM
Maybe because I'm new at this and have no concept... Why would someone not include at least ONE picture on a profile. I view the lack of a profile picture as a gesture of rudeness; like inviting me to get to know you but with my eyes blindfolded! Its not rude when people don't have a profile picture as people have various reasons. I know of cops and teachers who are very private people; so they are hestitant to post their profile picture. I respect their right to post or not post their picture and would rather know them for who they are and not what they look like. Very well put navygirl is spot on as usual Awww thanks.

searchingsearching Joined Tue 06/04/13 Posts: 204	Sat 07/27/13 07:58 PM
you could always ask them to send you one. they might not, but at least you tried. effort is half the battle and all that

darling93 Joined Sat 07/20/13 Posts: 11	Sat 07/27/13 08:07 PM Edited by darling93 on Sat 07/27/13 08:16 PM
Completely agree! I understand that people aren't comfortable with putting them up, and I respect them for it! it just makes me nervous about answering some, sometimes... :/

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 07/27/13 08:21 PM
It is true...not everyone on here wants to date and sometimes they believe that their pictures do not have to be posted. I myself am not here for dating, I did post pictures but I don't care what anyone thinks. Now if I was dating someone and he asked me to take them down, I would but I would not leave this site. I have to many friends here.

Xena777 Joined Mon 10/01/12 Posts: 11	Sat 07/27/13 08:25 PM
I will have to agree that if the person that contacted you has no photo it is rude & that they are hiding something. a lot of people go online to have affairs and they hide their photos so that their spouse or partner cannot catch them. Please do not be naive about this subject and quit giving people excuses for hiding the truth. After all looks are the first thing that people go for....

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 07/27/13 08:39 PM
I will have to agree that if the person that contacted you has no photo it is rude & that they are hiding something. a lot of people go online to have affairs and they hide their photos so that their spouse or partner cannot catch them. Please do not be naive about this subject and quit giving people excuses for hiding the truth. After all looks are the first thing that people go for.... This is not true! We have had people come on here and actually say that they are married and want to have an affair. There are people on here that do NOT want to date so it is not a law that they have to put their picture on here so what is the big deal? It is a freedom on choice if someone puts a picture up or not. Rude, how is it rude that someone don't put a photo up? Maybe they think it is none of your business what they look like or maybe they have a job to where they work in the public eye. So please do not be naive and think you know it all you are new and you will learn this is a good group of people.

Xena777 Joined Mon 10/01/12 Posts: 11	Sat 07/27/13 08:50 PM
I guess you are offended. Well if their intent is to find friends only and not date that's fine if they have no pics. But if they are looking to date I think it is very important to post a photograph of yourself before you introduce yourself to somebody.

unsure Joined Wed 08/16/06 Posts: 4886	Sat 07/27/13 08:55 PM
I guess you are offended. Well if their intent is to find friends only and not date that's fine if they have no pics. But if they are looking to date I think it is very important to post a photograph of yourself before you introduce yourself to somebody. Oh I am not offended at all. I was explaining that not everybody on here is here for dating. Even some that are on here for dating don't want to post their pictures. I am sure that if the met someone that they really were interested in, they would send a picture to that person. But not everyone has to see each person and that is their right to keep their identity private.

Xena777 Joined Mon 10/01/12 Posts: 11	Sat 07/27/13 09:16 PM
Not to be rude, but how do you think the photo less prospect would actually find someone they were interested in? do you think they would search profiles with no photos or do you think they would search profiles with photos? In all practical senses two photoless profiles would probably never even meet. And if they are so worried about their privacy they should hire matchmakers that do this for a living.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Sat 07/27/13 09:46 PM
Just updating mine is all

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Sat 07/27/13 09:50 PM
Would you rather be wanted for your personality, or your looks? I can take interest in a guy with no pic. I'm happy dating a guy who looks average or what others may consider "ugly". As long as we can conversate, and have a good chuckle, then that's good enough for me. And if they're genuine about dating, they'll make it known.

Xena777 Joined Mon 10/01/12 Posts: 11	Sat 07/27/13 09:57 PM
Unfortunately you are a female and females can accept men regardless of their looks. Men however will not. And I happen to be a female that will not accept any man for just his personality. They have to have both.

rockngal Joined Wed 07/17/13 Posts: 77	Sun 07/28/13 09:49 AM
With me I wanna keep my dating life private. I don't feel comfortable posting it public but a pic is available upon request.

winterblue56 Joined Sun 12/12/10 Posts: 2465	Sun 07/28/13 10:49 AM
Perhaps you could just feel into the void for the essence that might be them ...that isn't really them ...but the them you would want them to be ...so that you could fall in love with the image that they would want you to have ...so that when you finally do see them you will already be in love and will overlook the fact that they really are a blank blue box. Who knows biker -- people have all sorts of reasons for doing what they do. Welcome! I hope you find what you are looking for. true

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sun 07/28/13 11:38 AM
With me I wanna keep my dating life private. I don't feel comfortable posting it public but a pic is available upon request. Really? The problem with that is in order to send a picture you have to exchange email addresses.

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Sun 07/28/13 11:49 AM
With me I wanna keep my dating life private. I don't feel comfortable posting it public but a pic is available upon request. Really? The problem with that is in order to send a picture you have to exchange email addresses. If you mark your pics private, you can send the link in a message...right here.