Posted by admin May - 21 - 2012

Here are some of the guidelines to abide by when thinking about dating.

Realize the purpose: As Christians our purpose in dating looks very different from the world’s perspective. The world tells us dating is a natural rite of passage and something our children should do to “have a good time.” Christians should be dating for the sole purpose of finding a spouse. This means that you should wait to start dating until you are old enough to seriously consider marriage as a potential outcome.

Ground yourself: Before you start your search for a spouse it is very important that you be spiritually grounded yourself. While you will never be done growing in your Christian walk, you should have a good grasp on your salvation and what that means to the way you live your life now and the way you will continue to live in the future. Study what God expects from a Christian wife or husband. Knowing these things will make it easier to determine what kind of man/woman you need in your life.

Choose wisely: Sit down and decide what your future spouse will look like. I don’t mean if he will have dark hair and blue eyes; I’m talking about the characteristics that matter to God such as kindness, faithfulness, compassion, etc. Don’t just settle for someone who simply attends church services; Once you have decided on what you are looking for in a spouse, be patient. Wait and only date men/woman who meet these qualifications. There is nothing more important than making it to heaven, so make sure your husband or wife is going to help you get there, not make it more difficult.

Once you have decided on someone you are interested in dating introduce him to family or friends. Remember, no one knows you better than them. They want to see you happy and more importantly, they want to see you in heaven! Sometime they can see through “love-sick” eyes that you see. Meet his family and pay attention to how he treats his mother if she is living; this is likely how he will treat you once you are married. Knowing his parents will also give you insight into how he was raised and what his priorities will likely be.

Group dates are good if you are young: When you start to date this man make sure that you go out with others and make sure these are people who will hold you accountable. It is best to go places where you can spend time talking to each other. You will need to get to know this man/woman very well if he is to be your spouse.


Ask important questions: Do not just assume that because you know him/her you automatically know how he will answer certain questions.

Bring God into your relationship: Start each date with a prayer. Ask God to help keep you pure and to help you both focus on your ultimate goal. Spend time together studying God’s word. When you really study Scripture with someone you will learn a great deal about them; their strengths, weaknesses and whether or not they have a pliable heart. There is no better way to build a relationship with another person than to build it on the foundation of God!

These guidelines don’t necessarily guarantee that you will have a perfect dating experience; however, they will greatly help you keep a Godly perspective about dating. You are much more likely to marry the kind of man/woman God would be proud of if you keep these things in mind. After all, what could be more important than marrying someone who will make your journey to heaven as simple as possible?


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toody, that's great advice! there's nothing like having great conversations about spiritual things like what God has done in one's life, the ya know that u know that u KNOW stuff,,n the miracles experienced,,i could talk n listen for hours on end,,that makes for great bonding time! even in friendships,,

I love to read about the Principles God wants people to live by. Unfortunately, many people do not care about how God wants them to live. Thanks for your comments!

Toodygirl, thank you for such wonderful and Godly advice. I wish someone had given such advice 17 years ago. Never the less God is good and never late. Remain blessed

tyraboo8
Thank You! I could have used this advice years ago myself.

Welcome to Christian singles.

Toodygirl....
You are blessed with words of Wisdom :)
Thank you...lord for giving a lady such words to bless those around her..
I read your blog to my Daughters... thxz

NursesRangels
Thank you for your words of encouragement!

Welcome to Christian singles.