I'm only 20 and become hopelessly angry and annoyed by the opposite sex. I've been cheated on in every relationship that I let last over 3 weeks. I've been told it's probably because I give them too much freedom. But even just the thought of going on a date with a guy almost makes me sick. I'll talk to a guy until they ask about a date then I tend to "not be at home" when they call. I want to get over this and be in a happy, healthy relationship, but how do I get over being cheated on 10 out of 10 times?

give em the benefit of the doubt, there are some good guys out there

I hope pretty lady that you find a decent man as I know they do exist. I will say I am sorry to see a lady so hurt and angry, as for the boys you have been seeing shame on them they have no self respect and there for are incapable of respecting you or your values. I will say good things come to those who wait and believe you will find a great guy. Chin up and please give us martians a chance

You're picking the wrong kind of guys. Time to step back and re-evaluate yourself, maybe change some things...Just my 2 cents.

look at me no one loves me im all ways getting hurt and my heart broke

the only thing i can tell you is that you have to realize that those guys were **** bags but the one you are with now may not be. don't make him pay for their mistake.

I'm in the same boat honey. We must keep going for the same type guys, they ones who treat girls badly. You usually do what you saw, even if you know it's not healty or good for you. I get f****** 8 out of ten times...

take it from a person whos been in some really bad relationships and found a great guy.as long as you keep up hope and keep trying and reject the losers then you will find one!if ya need someone to talk to feel free to send me a message

Wow, didn't expect to get that many replys that fast. I guess I'll just have to grit my teeth, and let it flow. My last "real" relationship was 2 years ago.

((((((((((Faerie)))))))))))

Learn to love yourself first! your a beautiful gurl!
You don't need to open yourself up for these jerks that have low self worth so they take it out on you to feel better...
no matter how you feel at time put up that sheild to show them that you don't NEED them, that you are a good person & it would be a privlage for them to know you...

If your happy with yourself then others will Enjoy you for you!

I used to be in a band that travelled to different countries.
I was the only female in the band. I watched these guys and every place we went they had a different woman. It was uncanny how they picked the exact same type of women and sometimes the women even looked alike. It made sense to me once I thought about how we always pick the same type of people. I guess because we're just drawn to certain things about people and we seek out those personalities every time, even when those type of people continue to hurt us in the end.

well to me you are 20 and at a young age guys dont want to get married and have familys yet so i find no all guys but most are players and there girls out there too that do the same so take your time and it will happen to you dont rush in it lots of time to find the one out there for you do the things you need to do in life for you take care of you and smile everyday guys like good girls and a great smile the ones that cheat dont know what they are really missing and how you get over being cheatting on well be friends with them and get to know them before saying ok i go on a date with you and if you really dont want a date cause it make you sick say no thats not hard cause that hurts too someone standing you up if i was you and 20 years old i take my time and get to know people first and do the things i want in life before trying to make a family

((((ANGLE)))) that's exactlly what i do i guess, even as bad as i try not to, and i guess that's why i'm so scared, I'm scared I'll just end up with anotherone just like the rest.

((((sweetheart)))) I'm not really looking for a family thing right now, have to finish school and get a career first, but I would still like to find someone to share things with, cuddle with, talk to, someone that is there when i'm say, ya know?!?

You need to find a guy who worships you like his own personal goddess, then you'll have no problems with him cheating on you. There's usually one hanging around that you see every day but never really notice because he's so shy around you. Look for that guy. How did that song go? "See the man with the lonely eyes, oh take his hand you'll be surprised."

this is definately a subject that has come up before. It is an unfortunate fact of life that people are unfaithful, just try to remember that when you are looking for a partner what do you look for? If it is all about the show, how they look, what they wear, etc... there is a reason they spend so much time and money, it is to get attention. Once they have yours, it is time to find someone elses, they will spend their lives trying to always find the next person they feel will validate who they are really not. A real man or woman only wants the attention of the person they are with.

You are not alone. We all do it. With me it's almost to the point that if I like somebody, I figure they're no good for me, and it's probably best to keep on walking.

What is the definition of insanity?
Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

But, how do we change? Start with a serious self evaluation, then have a serious talk with yourself.

Thanks much to everyone. some of this stuff my family tells me, but you know it's true when someone you don't know tells you the same thing.

Well good luck. And don't worry. You're young enough to figure it all out, but I hope you find a way to save yourself anymore heartache.

Ouch, 10 in a row?It is hard and I do understand, but girls do cheat out there just as much as guys do.(in ratio/numbers) I know this doesn't make it any easier. My ex before last had an entire other girl friend after the first 8 months we dated for 3 yrs going and then dumped her, kept me and got another. I had my suspisions but couldnt catch him and not the type to check up-i'm trusting. I confronted him and the second outside his penthouse at the elavators-I bs'ed my way up after being told about it all. She thru a drink in his face and said she was leaving him. He had just asked her to marry him and had never broke it off wuith me. Had even been at my house 'with me' the friday night befoer 3 days earlier. I asked for months if someone new just to tell me and we'd call it qiuts and be fiends. She actually stayed with him!! Still is!! I've had at least half the guys cheat on me and thats just what I know. Its sucks, but is true,-you just have to reach a point of letting it go and know it had nothing to do with you- rarely does- and trust agian and move on or just stay alone; not many other options there hate to say. The girl he dated for 3 yrs, we are friends now-chat by e-mail. He was really slick to hide it from us both for so long. we were both suspisious and he'd just make us feel crazy and like nags to stop our thots. Your heart, not mind, will tell you if you listen close enough. He was a corpoate attorney, turned land developer/builder. He was older yes but younger guys and older guys, well its hard to say which group does this more. I use to think younger but now I think its pretty evened out. And keep in mind there are plenty of guys out there who have had the same thing happen to them over and over too, and it hurts them just as much if not more in ways i think.