Alright, you got me! Didn't think I'd have to use this topic - LOL! I'm just a little frustrated this evening. I just have to ask...

Why do woman (and men as well) find it necessary to play hard to get? I understand that you don't want to come off as desperate, but at the same time if you are into someone and they are into you why would you blow them off to highten the pursuit? This is the part the frustrates me when it comes to keeping that contact flowing. I get discouraged as I am just not into the "game" of chasing anyone down in spite of my conveyed interests in them. Kind of makes me just say the heck with it and desire to remain single.

After two years of being single again (after a 9 year marriage) I'm not sure I will ever understand why the game must be played in the first place.

Let me try to live by my coined phrase anyway (LOL)...

Laugh a lot and Smile often,

Billy

Don't waste your time with those who like to play the game and are too immature.

There are so many important things in life, why waste it on nonsense.

Billy...

As most people that know me, know that I belong to various dating sites. I think it is part of the challenge here, and most other places to see how far the pursuit will go. I know I have spoken to quite a few men that appear to be interested and then I feel once they have me "hooked" they back off. I can't tell you in the last six months how many men I have spoke to that want to meet me...and then never do.

I wonder why people join dating sites....if when they find someone that appears to be interested...and then never meet with them. I just don't get it

-Joanne

The right one, no matter where you find them, won't play the game.

Seconding and thirding those comments. I don't get it either. Not everyone is into those kinds of games. Believe me, if I'm interested, the guy will know. And, if he doesn't respond, I'm moving on. Not like I'm a psycho stalker :)

Suz

creationsfire, I feel the same exact way.

I value my time, don't waste it! Some call it "flirting" or "teasing" I call it wasting my time

Thanks for the comments so far. I tend to be a "let's cut to the chase." sort of guy (no pun intended). You all have very good remarks you have made. Maybe it's just me. Maybe I'm missing the signs. It's really hard to tell on here for sure. However, nonetheless it is discouraging when you wish to just get to know a person, you chat for a little, get excited about the potential and then they step away and you never hear from them again. Honestly, I'm not sure how well this dating site thing is going to work out for me (as much as I'd like it to). I think I will take the opportunity to simply use it as my second myspace in which to just hang with friends like you. Take care and again - Thanks!

Billy

Billy, this happens to me EVERY SINGLE time OFFLINE*

"Get excited about the potential and then they step away and you never hear from them again."

It happens like a broken record. There's mutual physical attraction, some common interest then BAM! It's dead.

I just say everytime "Their lost!"

moves on..no time for games or frustration.

now all i can say is that you are a attractive guy now the way i see it is for the man to play hard to get also. when i do this then it really shuts the woman down now she trys hard to get you because you are the "prize" now if she blows you off its because you approched her worng you dont look your best. many other reasons. BUT most women are flattered when you want to talk to them so when a female plays HTG see if you feel its negative HTG or if she is just playing

now on the other hand if a man or a woman is playing hard to get because they feel you not worth it...then its their loss

dont you get it? its all about the chase. thats all it will ever be............

Life's too short when you are my age. I don't waste my time or anyone else's. Maybe I am too upfront!!!

HE HE HE ((river)) Yeah! I know what you mean.

There may be alot of players out there...
but there are also some really nice ones too.
(omg- am I one of those deserate ones? )
Goodluck...

Like I said, the right one won't play....if they play, drop them.

River and Teddy... I agree with your thinking. vivalosdodgers you hold that idiot mentality that I am speaking about here!

bump

Upfront here (and back as well)... :)

I just wish that if a person isn't interested, he would say flat out he isn't. Trying to be nice hurts more than just being honest.

How does one go about playing hard to get???????