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Topic: is sex really necessary in a relationship?
rindamin666 Joined Thu 02/14/13 Posts: 222	Thu 04/04/13 06:05 AM
The SEX is necesary if the other person is not handicap, ha ha.

CremeBrulee Joined Tue 11/06/12 Posts: 2726	Thu 04/04/13 06:16 AM
Before i say anything,what kind/type/form of sex are we talking about??? Melmacian maybe? uuummm, I didnt think they''do those things too''?!! confused

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Thu 04/04/13 06:19 AM
Before i say anything,what kind/type/form of sex are we talking about??? Melmacian maybe? uuummm, I didnt think they''do those things too''?!! confused Newbiechick, marry me, and you'll learn what a Melmacian does in the bedroom.

CremeBrulee Joined Tue 11/06/12 Posts: 2726	Thu 04/04/13 06:33 AM
Before i say anything,what kind/type/form of sex are we talking about??? Melmacian maybe? uuummm, I didnt think they''do those things too''?!! confused Newbiechick, marry me, and you'll learn what a Melmacian does in the bedroom. Ha ha ha haaaaa You might end up chasing me around the house........you catch me,you teach me!

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Thu 04/04/13 06:56 AM
What the heck is "a dating relationship"? Oh, don't bother. This is just you trying to denegrate extra marrital relationships yet again. It's just a piece of paper.

miticoman Joined Fri 05/20/11 Posts: 329	Thu 04/04/13 07:07 AM
To OP the human being is a very primitive animal, by the sexual act expresses dominance and possession, the sexually stronger dominates the relationship, in the end we were all created as beings in the animal world

Dodo_David Joined Fri 08/13/10 Posts: 48948	Thu 04/04/13 07:14 AM
What the heck is "a dating relationship"? Oh, don't bother. This is just you trying to denegrate extra marrital relationships yet again. It's just a piece of paper. I simply answered the question asked by the author of the OP. When my late wife and I were dating (prior to our wedding), she and I didn't have to have sexual intercourse in order for the two of us to have a meaningful romance. We were able to give each other plenty of physical affection without going "all the way". Now, if another person believes that sexual intercourse is necessary in a dating relationship, then so be it. That person's belief isn't going to affect me.

pyxxie13 Joined Wed 09/28/11 Posts: 3835	Thu 04/04/13 07:29 AM
Is that a serious question?

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76436	Thu 04/04/13 07:36 AM
Humm....I guess it is to each their own.... To me if there is no sex to bond that relationship it is and will remain just a friendship.... So no I'm not going to just date someone and sex never be involved. Now if you were already sexually with them for a period of time and something happen to them where sex was taken out of the picture. That would be a totally different situation. For I would never leave my partner once we had that bond due to they could not have sex anymore because of a medical problem...

Jesser1 Joined Fri 06/05/09 Posts: 13	Thu 04/04/13 07:46 AM
I am guessing that person is a bit jaded? ?

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 04/04/13 07:51 AM
Humm....I guess it is to each their own.... To me if there is no sex to bond that relationship it is and will remain just a friendship.... So no I'm not going to just date someone and sex never be involved. Now if you were already sexually with them for a period of time and something happen to them where sex was taken out of the picture. That would be a totally different situation. For I would never leave my partner once we had that bond due to they could not have sex anymore because of a medical problem... Hey, That's absolutely Okay for me....so when are we meeting?

Jesser1 Joined Fri 06/05/09 Posts: 13	Thu 04/04/13 07:51 AM
A dating relationship is one that is more than friendship...that looks forward to an intimacy that includes a sexual relationship

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Thu 04/04/13 08:09 AM
Sexual intercourse is not necessary in a dating relationship. It is expected in a marital relationship unless one marriage partner is too disabled for it. I agree I believe physical interaction can range from hugs, kisses, fondling, etc and a list of things that dont involve sexual penetration love and compatibility and friendship are NECESSARY, but I think people can have successful happy relationships abstaining from actual sexual penetration ( of the natural, babymaking variety)

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 04/04/13 08:13 AM
I could not take this question in any other way than "Is it necessary to have sex in a relationship in which sex is but obvious....!" If it is but obvious,then why would any one avoid it? Why would they come closer to each other in such sexually obvious relationship if they aren't sexually attracted to each other? Isn't it just a fantasy to expect such complicated relationship within sexually & mentally compliant persons?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 04/04/13 08:23 AM
Yes, sex would be necessary in a relationship for me. Otherwise, it would be like hanging out with a friend. I am not interested in a sexless romantic relationship.

Jesser1 Joined Fri 06/05/09 Posts: 13	Thu 04/04/13 08:30 AM
I agree sing..I would be frustrated beyond belief

TawtStrat Joined Fri 11/16/12 Posts: 3581	Thu 04/04/13 08:53 AM
So, basically some people choose to abstain from sex for whatever reason but there is certainly a diference between a commited relationship and just dating somebody. It's the piece of paper that isn't really necessary but some people require it.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 04/04/13 08:53 AM
Love must come first over lust. Let's do some clarifying here. This statement, while true, is too broad to simply answer this question. Sure love must come first for a relationship to sustain itself. You can notice a person on their looks, or their intelligence, or their acts of kindness or on just about anything. Something will make a person sexy to you (and this differs from person to person). That attraction will lead to those feelings of wanting to make love to that person, or just humping the heck out of them. You can love them all you want but at some point the sexual attraction will lead to....sex. The fact that you love this person will make the sexual experience all the more meaningful. However.....bad sex or even no sex can and normally does ruin a relationship. We had some dud on here who posted a topic about cheating. He cheated on his wife(which he claimed that he loved more than anything) and stated that his wife could not satisfy him sexually. Not having sex with the woman he loved tempted him to cheat (and he fell prey to that temptation). I am not saying this happens to every couple, but it is a common thing nowadays. Sex IS NOT the most important part of a relationship. However, it damn sure is important to help sustain it. I was in a relationship that was based solely on the great sex she and I had. At first I thought we were in love but it turned out to be a sexual thing between us. Don't get me wrong. Falling in love with a woman and then also lusting for her is a great combo and one I feel is very healthy. Lust will only get you so far. Anyways, love and sex are important.

mightymoe Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 37362	Thu 04/04/13 09:13 AM
i feel that sex may or may not be important... it's not that important to me, because i can control myself and my feelings... someone that has a need to be accepted/wanted to make themselves feel better will want sex more... like goof was saying about the guy who loves his wife but has to have sex with someone else... thats just a lack of self control, nothing more...

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 04/04/13 09:19 AM
i feel that sex may or may not be important... it's not that important to me, because i can control myself and my feelings... someone that has a need to be accepted/wanted to make themselves feel better will want sex more... like goof was saying about the guy who loves his wife but has to have sex with someone else... thats just a lack of self control, nothing more... Since when does wanting sex or feeling it's important mean the person cannot control themselves or their feelings?