Afternoon everyone! I have been pondering how dreadfully unfair it is for the people, such as myself, who find themselves eternally damned to fall for the people who are already taken. I get advances almost daily, yet none of them fit my requirements in a man. I am strict and particular about my love life. Don't get me wrong. I'm not a prude in anyway. I adore the casual dating scene filled with emotionally detached fun and non committal flings. It helps me to embrace my individuality and to truly enjoy life in its entirety! But, when considering a man with whom to be serious and dedicate a significant emotional investment, I have nearly unattainable standards. He must be a charming, witty, handsome, intellectually glorious gentleman. I had the ultimate pleasure of meeting this man five years ago. He is noble, clever, attentive, good-hearted, attractive, and dazzlingly intelligent! He is my doctor. We connect in a very intimate, unadulterated way. I treasure our friendship.. But alas, he's married. He often implies that he was rushed into the marriage at 18, but after so many years he can't abandon her or his family, despite the unhappiness in which he is enveloped, and I would not want him to. Neither he nor I would ever do anything more than harmless flirting, for we both respect the sanctity of marriage too much. It's painful to know that the man I am enamored with is bound to another woman. I don't want to be the girl who breaks up a marriage, and I am glad he has the loyalty to his family. I just wish we had met before these prior commitments were made, as does he. There is, of course, many more details which explain the sincerity of our relationship, but I won't bore you with those. Please, if any of you can share my sentiments, I encourage you to tell your tale!

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Sorry i fell asleep after ATTENTION EVERYONE !
{Just kidding}
But wanted to welcome you and hope you find that guy !

Good Night Mingle friends and folks
Have a great weekend !

Lol thanks Hun :D

I've narrowed my requirements to a female with a pulse. As is the norm, I'm still found repulsive. I'm just gonna go into robotics and make new friends.

well if he felt the same way as you do you would be together as you are not move on forget him The past is over but tomorrow‘s wishful thinking can‘t hold onto what‘s been done can‘t grab onto what‘s to come Time rolls on Wipe your eyes Yesterday laughs Tomorrow cries

I’m usually not so nosy, but as you aired this on an open forum, will assume you want honest opinions. That being said, here are my thoughts.



I’m not sure I agree that you are strict in your love life. Strict usually indicates acting in conformity and within parameters of principles. I think you may mean picky, which we all should be, but I would not consider it “strict” behavior to entertain a flirtation with your doctor.



There is no question that these are all good qualities to seek in a partner, and it’s unfortunate that the one you happened to feel possesses them happens to be married, and your doctor.

Something I don’t see as a qualifier here is...ethical. I’m wondering if the fact that your doctor his brushing aside his professional ethics to flirt with you concerns you?

Turn the tables a moment...

If this man had been available, and NOT YOUR Doctor, but engaged in the same profession when you met and entered a HEALTHY relationship together, would you not expect him to honor his ethics in his office?

If your answer is yes, then what makes the situation different to you now? Keep in mind that ethic codes are not only crated for the happily married professional, but are even more applicable to the single and unhappily married ones.

attempting the impossible is one way to avoid the attainable, certainly. Why would you want to do that? These are choices. You are in control of those choices.

Unfair?

Excuse me, but you alone are responsible for you being infatuated with someone who is already "taken".

So you feel that the "man of your dreams" is this doctor and he happens to be married. Hmmmmm. I hate to be blunt here but when I hear people talk like this the one thing I think is, "You know he/she is taken, so you either go for what you want or accept life for what it is and move along". Doctors are notorious flirts and while he says he won't leave his marriage, I bet if you (or some other woman) asked him to he would probably do it. I have seen men who stated they were unhappy in their marriage and were staying for their kids only to have a woman come along and tempt them. And guess what? Those dudes divorced and moved along. He sounds like the type where a woman would have to shove him into ending his marriage, and if he is that unhappy then eventually he will end up divorced. Just my opinion.