it isn't going to happen if I don't trust him...he will have to earn that and activity partner seems like it might be a good way. if a man cannot befriend me and work with my timetable I would not be interested and frankly don't care if he's not....lol

i have all that stuff

Sounds like a fun vacation...I've been selling a lot of leftover stock from our former gift stores and "swap-meet days" and ebay sales to a friend of mine who still has a store in the area...One day I will run out of stock to sell her and I'm sure I'll probably start hitting yard sales again...The drive to buy and sell never seems to go away. (Despite the "bad" economy.)...Good luck if you decide to have a yard sale soon. What are some of your favorite things to "hoard?" (Collect!)

Depends on the guy. I have straight male friends that I hang out with, and we both know it's never going anywhere other than friends.

Those are not 'friends.' More like acquaintances.

(Also the only reason you 'both' know it's never going anywhere is because you said so.) Get close enough and make a move towards your close male friend-- and most men would gladly change that rule to friends with benefits.

Most men who don't want an acquaintance to become sexual will usually keep their distance or run like hell if it looks like it is headed that way.

There might be exceptions, but they are rare and I have never seen one.

I have met and known men who are very sexual but are totally true to their wives so its not that I think all men are easy. They are not.

I enjoy coffee by harbor light :)

No, they're friends. Some of them, we've been friends for over 20 years. Know all of each other's secrets, have stood by each other through good times and bad, can be totally honest with each other, and have been known to cry on each other's shoulders when things were at their worst. That's the definition of a friend.

An 'acquaintance' is someone you might say 'hi' to if you bumped into them someplace or maybe you'd sit down and talk to them for a few minutes if you ran into them at a restaurant or bar. A friend is someone you can depend on, even if you have to call them at 4AM with a crisis.


These guys? Not a chance. We're like siblings.


I hate to say this, but you don't sound like you really know very many men very well. Men are completely capable of platonic friendship with women.


I think the 'exceptions' are the guys you think are 'most' men, honestly. I've had male friends since childhood, and most of my close male friends have had female friends since childhood. Yet these guys are straight - hell, I've become good friends with the girlfriends/wives of some of them.

I disagree. I've always had male friends to hang out with. And yes, they were actually friends.

I think activity partner is to generic and not to the point. Should someone say exchange body fluids instead of intimate encounter?

coffee...pfft,lets just get drunk and get wild

K

I disagree. I do have male friends, the kind that knows everything of me. I´ve been blessed with some of those exceptions you were talking about. A man and a woman can definitely be friends, real ones.

I agree with the part that it only stays platonic if the woman wants it that way. a man will sleep with a woman who is willing - sometimes even if he is married or attached. and if he finds someone to be sleeping with, you as a platonic will be seeing less of him, men want sex.

so do women, but women more often want a relationship of some kind to have sex whereas most men (tho they may want a relationship) will not need that as a "requirement" for sex.

It all depends on the man. I've known plenty of men who WON'T cheat on their wives/girlfriends, and who will push away a woman who comes on to them. I also know men who actually DO stipulate they have to be in a relationship in order to engage in sex.

and.....your point? simply to argue and brag about how YOU know men?

I'm impressed :)

they are sanrky buggers for sure

My point is that not all men are horndogs, and some are completely honorable. I really despise broad-brushed stereotypes, that's all. It's kind of insulting to the honorable men out there when someone implies that all men would cheat on their wives "if they could get away with it". Perhaps you really haven't met one who wouldn't, but I have met several. In fact, I was married to one. Whatever his flaws, he would never have cheated on me, and never did.

cool

seriously you're right - all kindsa people in the world I supposed

I really don't pretend to understand the dawgs

sounds like you have engaged in a different sort for sure cuz as far as I can tell they are horndawgs down to the last one...lol - have a good one

They will help me tirelessly put together my laser for eventual world domination knowing full well they will only ever achieve second in command.

And then...Death Star.

that was random

and not the first time, darling

(I noted another thread had a similar off topic commentary )