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I think it just expands the pool of fish you have to try and catch from. I agree with oldhippy, but need clarification on one detail. <------ Fish or Angler? 
Net... Oldhippie, are you calling me a TOOL? 
Nope, saying I wouldn't put a hook in ya...  Great Line
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two words: gone fishing!
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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Mon 03/11/13 06:06 PM
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Going by what I have personally seen their are way to many picky people that hang around dating sites. But, In all truth, I can't say much about the picky people because in recent yrs I have become picky myself. Why would someone NOT want to be picky about who they date, whether they're looking online or in the outside world? Most people aren't going to date just anyone who breathes and has a pulse. There has to be some common ground, shared interests, something to provide the mental and physical spark. Being picky is good. I'm picky, and frankly I wish I'd been a lot pickier when I was younger. Might've saved myself a lot of hassle! Mostly because of the fact that online dating sites attract some of the weirdest people I ever come across. With as many weirdos and sex crazy people that hang around dating sites,It's hard for me to believe that many find true love on any dating site.
Trust me, there are just as many weirdos and sex-crazy people in real life. After all, the people on the dating sites also do exist in real life. I've met my share of weirdos in bars, at social events, even in churches. I was getting hit on by weirdos on campus in college long before the internet was invented. You should meet some of the guys who tried to ask me out! 
When I say "picky" I mean extremely picky people. People that are so picky that they shoot everybody down. No one is good enough. Not willing to give anyone a chance because of some crazy ideas they have in there minds of what they think they want in a man or a woman. Ideas that no one can reach. I've come across people like that. They don't understand why they can't find someone either. They don't understand that they have there ideas/bar set to high. So high no one can reach them. But now, As far as being picky in a careful kinda way,Try to be as sure as you can about who you are dealing with. What kind of man/woman they are.Things in common,You click well together. Sure, I'm with you there. Every one should be that way. I am myself. It seems to me that a lot of men seem to think that they don't have to be as careful as women are with men. I already learned the "almost" hard way. It pays for men and women both to be careful now. "Weirdo" comes in both sexes. By the way, I met my X wife in church. Your point well taken. 
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Edited by
ruth74
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Mon 03/11/13 06:22 PM
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Mostly because of the fact that online dating sites attract some of the weirdest people I ever come across. With as many weirdos and sex crazy people that hang around dating sites,It's hard for me to believe that many find true love on any dating sites.
Charlie boy, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this one. I found my last relationship online and we gave it a good go for 4 years before realizing that it wouldn't work out. I met a lot of people in my city through this site (POF), and we eventually formed a great core group. There have been 3 marriages, and 2 other couples are engaged now, and countless friendships have been formed. We've all branched off POF onto Facebook and it's been a blessing for me. I thought that I'd try Mingle this time though, since POF just got too keerazy since I was on it last time. Relationships DO happen but the secret is to get out from behind the keyboard and to actually MEET some of these people in real life. *kiss on yer noze* It's ok to be picky by the way. Some people have learned from experience exactly what they don't want, and some people use it as a defense mechanism because of fear of intimacy. |
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Cyperspace, the final frontier...LOL. don't take it too seriously. If it happens, it happens. Peace to you all!
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I think the reason most people are searching for love and discussion online is because they are lonely and they lack true love. Think of it there are men and women around you why must you find love here. Things has changed from good to bad the world is void of love. Selfishness,lack of patience,no determination,lack of faith,truth and understanding is out of way. Everybody want fast results. What do you think. I agree that loneliness first attracted me to cyberspace for friendship... mostly due to my small town circumstances... but I don't think that lacking "true love" is the motivation, because you can't find that online either... IMHO |
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I think the reason most people are searching for love and discussion online is because they are lonely and they lack true love. Think of it there are men and women around you why must you find love here. Things has changed from good to bad the world is void of love. Selfishness,lack of patience,no determination,lack of faith,truth and understanding is out of way. Everybody want fast results. What do you think. I agree that loneliness first attracted me to cyberspace for friendship... mostly due to my small town circumstances... but I don't think that lacking "true love" is the motivation, because you can't find that online either... IMHO How do you mean? If you can't find "true love" by doing this then why are you here really and why keep making threads about meeting people online and having relationships with them? |
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I'm just here for the coffee.
 What time is the floorshow?
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love is everywhere..weather its onnline or in the bus...
its all depend on the points u put out.. |
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I'm just here for the coffee. What time is the floorshow?
I'm also here for the tea (can't drink coffee)...along with chat, friendship (to start) ~ I must have missed the sign on the way in, “floor show cancelled, due to lack of participants” ..I keep putting myself out there, but nothing.!!? |
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I think the reason most people are searching for love and discussion online is because they are lonely and they lack true love. Think of it there are men and women around you why must you find love here. Things has changed from good to bad the world is void of love. Selfishness,lack of patience,no determination,lack of faith,truth and understanding is out of way. Everybody want fast results. What do you think. Today's world is not as Sinclair Lewis wrote about it in his alleged great novel 'Main Street', in 1920. Today it is not 'the American dream' but the American Nightmare for all intents and purpose the way things are going. Want fast dating results, try those ten-second dating meets. I watched one and thought to myself, what a great way to be totally humiliated...and people flock to those things... there are times to remember the road less traveled |
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Edited by
Charles1962150
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Wed 03/13/13 01:24 AM
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Mostly because of the fact that online dating sites attract some of the weirdest people I ever come across. With as many weirdos and sex crazy people that hang around dating sites,It's hard for me to believe that many find true love on any dating sites.
Charlie boy, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this one. I found my last relationship online and we gave it a good go for 4 years before realizing that it wouldn't work out.
I met a lot of people in my city through this site (POF), and we eventually formed a great core group. There have been 3 marriages, and 2 other couples are engaged now, and countless friendships have been formed. We've all branched off POF onto Facebook and it's been a blessing for me. I thought that I'd try Mingle this time though, since POF just got too keerazy since I was on it last time. Relationships DO happen but the secret is to get out from behind the keyboard and to actually MEET some of these people in real life. *kiss on yer noze* It's ok to be picky by the way. Some people have learned from experience exactly what they don't want, and some people use it as a defense mechanism because of fear of intimacy. It's OK if you disagree with me. But to tell you the truth, I was on POF for five, Yes,(5) straight years. And in that five years I will admit I did get a good many dates. And, I did meet some nice women. We just didn't click. But, For every one decent woman I went out with I had to wade through ten or more nutty goof balls. For example. I'll give you one. I went out with this woman that didn't like it because I had to work on Sundays. It was the nature of the job. I had plenty of off time during the week. She told me that if I didn't quit my job, She wouldn't go out with me anymore. I asked her why. This was her answer. Because she couldn't date a man that was going to he11 for working on Sunday. I happen to know a little about the bible myself. I told her this, The bible says that if you have an OX in a ditch on the Sabbath,Get it out of the ditch. In other words, If you have to work, WORK. She went nuts. Told me I was the devil incarnate. Never wanted to see me again. Nutty,Nutty. And in a way you are right about the "picky/defense" thing. With me though, It's defense against nutty people. |
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Mostly because of the fact that online dating sites attract some of the weirdest people I ever come across. With as many weirdos and sex crazy people that hang around dating sites,It's hard for me to believe that many find true love on any dating sites.
Charlie boy, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this one. I found my last relationship online and we gave it a good go for 4 years before realizing that it wouldn't work out.
I met a lot of people in my city through this site (POF), and we eventually formed a great core group. There have been 3 marriages, and 2 other couples are engaged now, and countless friendships have been formed. We've all branched off POF onto Facebook and it's been a blessing for me. I thought that I'd try Mingle this time though, since POF just got too keerazy since I was on it last time. Relationships DO happen but the secret is to get out from behind the keyboard and to actually MEET some of these people in real life. *kiss on yer noze* It's ok to be picky by the way. Some people have learned from experience exactly what they don't want, and some people use it as a defense mechanism because of fear of intimacy. It's OK if you disagree with me. But to tell you the truth, I was on POF for five, Yes,(5) straight years. And in that five years I will admit I did get a good many dates. And, I did meet some nice women. We just didn't click. But, For every one decent woman I went out with I had to wade through ten or more nutty goof balls. For example. I'll give you one. I went out with this woman that didn't like it because I had to work on Sundays. It was the nature of the job. I had plenty of off time during the week. She told me that if I didn't quit my job, She wouldn't go out with me anymore. I asked her why. This was her answer. Because she couldn't date a man that was going to he11 for working on Sunday. I happen to know a little about the bible myself. I told her this, The bible says that if you have an OX in a ditch on the Sabbath,Get it out of the ditch. In other words, If you have to work, WORK. She went nuts. Told me I was the devil incarnate. Never wanted to see me again. Nutty,Nutty. And in a way you are right about the "picky/defense" thing. With me though, It's defense against nutty people.
I've been musing as to why my experience was so different from yours and I think I know why. We didn't much go out on single dates, but in our city we had some awesome people that organized monthly 'game nights' and evenings out dancing or going to local exhibits. It gave everyone a chance to meet each other in a group with no pressure. As I said, a core group fell away to Facebook where we continue to do this. There are movie nights, game nights, trips to museums, etc... Meetup is another site that a lot of my friends use. Again same scenario. Going out with a group as opposed to individual dates. The idea is the same...getting out from behind the keyboard and into 'real life'. |
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Well I think its possible to find love online but the chances thin. scams are more on line and heart breaks too, testimonies of true online dating that led to marriage and a happy home seems to just a very small fraction compared with the real thing and trust me not all ends well also. its very possible to find love online but care must be taken also.
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For me, there are not too many places to go meet a woman around here. I am not a bar and club type person. I try to spot single women in the grocery store but see more couples or elderly there.
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I think the reason most people are searching for love and discussion online is because they are lonely and they lack true love. Think of it there are men and women around you why must you find love here. Things has changed from good to bad the world is void of love. Selfishness,lack of patience,no determination,lack of faith,truth and understanding is out of way. Everybody want fast results. What do you think. I don't think love exists, I think personally what most people try to achieve is simply being wanted or needed by someone else. It is a social construct, laden in our mentality from birth, alone is bad. Think about how many friends or family members are married, did you go to their wedding? What did they ask you? It isn't that things have changed from good to bad, it is simply that those things never existed in the first place outside of your mind. It is an ego thing I think, our ego just can't fathom not having love or hate...When in truth; neither probably exist. |
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Mostly because of the fact that online dating sites attract some of the weirdest people I ever come across. With as many weirdos and sex crazy people that hang around dating sites,It's hard for me to believe that many find true love on any dating sites.
Charlie boy, I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this one. I found my last relationship online and we gave it a good go for 4 years before realizing that it wouldn't work out.
I met a lot of people in my city through this site (POF), and we eventually formed a great core group. There have been 3 marriages, and 2 other couples are engaged now, and countless friendships have been formed. We've all branched off POF onto Facebook and it's been a blessing for me. I thought that I'd try Mingle this time though, since POF just got too keerazy since I was on it last time. Relationships DO happen but the secret is to get out from behind the keyboard and to actually MEET some of these people in real life. *kiss on yer noze* It's ok to be picky by the way. Some people have learned from experience exactly what they don't want, and some people use it as a defense mechanism because of fear of intimacy. It's OK if you disagree with me. But to tell you the truth, I was on POF for five, Yes,(5) straight years. And in that five years I will admit I did get a good many dates. And, I did meet some nice women. We just didn't click. But, For every one decent woman I went out with I had to wade through ten or more nutty goof balls. For example. I'll give you one. I went out with this woman that didn't like it because I had to work on Sundays. It was the nature of the job. I had plenty of off time during the week. She told me that if I didn't quit my job, She wouldn't go out with me anymore. I asked her why. This was her answer. Because she couldn't date a man that was going to he11 for working on Sunday. I happen to know a little about the bible myself. I told her this, The bible says that if you have an OX in a ditch on the Sabbath,Get it out of the ditch. In other words, If you have to work, WORK. She went nuts. Told me I was the devil incarnate. Never wanted to see me again. Nutty,Nutty. And in a way you are right about the "picky/defense" thing. With me though, It's defense against nutty people.
I've been musing as to why my experience was so different from yours and I think I know why. We didn't much go out on single dates, but in our city we had some awesome people that organized monthly 'game nights' and evenings out dancing or going to local exhibits. It gave everyone a chance to meet each other in a group with no pressure. As I said, a core group fell away to Facebook where we continue to do this. There are movie nights, game nights, trips to museums, etc... Meetup is another site that a lot of my friends use. Again same scenario. Going out with a group as opposed to individual dates. The idea is the same...getting out from behind the keyboard and into 'real life'. I understand what you are getting at. Maybe if I hadn't met up with so many nutty/goofy people I would have been more willing to be part of a group. It's like what MetalShadow6 said, Not into bars and clubs and being around drunks and such like. With that in mind, Well, I just didn't have a very good feeling about rubbing elbows with these people. Goofy+Weird+Booze=Dangerous company. I don't know, Maybe I just got a bad impression from what I met to start with. I got such a bad impression that I really didn't want to be around these people in a social setting. At one time they would post pictures on POF of some party they were having around Atlanta. Every picture would have booze in it. Somebody with one in their hand or to there lips. I could just imagine with what I had already met what that party was like. Just not my cup of tea. |
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I'm just here for the coffee. What time is the floorshow?
I'm also here for the tea (can't drink coffee)...along with chat, friendship (to start) ~ I must have missed the sign on the way in, “floor show cancelled, due to lack of participants” ..I keep putting myself out there, but nothing.!!? Pls Can Some1 Show Me where 2 get dis Coffee and Tea?  
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